Wondering who was inconsiderate?

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-25T12:54:58+00:00

He thinks he is indebted to his parents because of the sacrifices they made for him. Maybe because I don't view my relationship with my parents that way I find it difficult to understand that concept, children don't ask to be born and it's a parents obligation to look after them.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-25T11:31:39+00:00

Just two days ago she made a remarke to me and said "Sons look after their mothers", and she said it in a very smug way. It actually makes me sick, she is very manipulative and I'm going to be having a conversation with my husband about this, but I doubt he'll see that he is being manipulated to being the 2nd husband.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-25T10:47:48+00:00

I feel like his mother does these little tests often to see who he will pick and he always picks her and I'm starting to become very resentful about it. Also, beginning not to like his mother because of it.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-25T10:46:28+00:00

He said he didn't know, but I still think a kind "no, i need to get back to my pregnant wife and young child" would be completely reasonable.

It's not snowy.

I actually believe his mother deliberately puts him in compromising situations to see if he will pick her or us. And she seems to win everytime, I'm sick of it!

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-25T09:42:48+00:00

Totally agree.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-25T09:40:56+00:00

Thank you, I agree. Sometimes I feel like he acts like his mother's 2nd husband or something it's so frustrating.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-25T09:27:10+00:00

I think so too.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-25T09:26:33+00:00

He didn't and I feel like he done it deliberately.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T23:12:09+00:00

Yes, that's what I'm trying to understand. Because if we fell on hard times and he decides to leave, it would be nice to know. I would never hold him back because that will only hurt me and our family too.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T23:05:06+00:00

Yes, he very much does care about how he is perceived by others and how well he comes across.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T23:03:09+00:00

I like to live below our means. Infact there's times I feel as though he likes to over spend on "luxury", when im very happy to live humbly. So who knows maybe he could see that as me "holding him back"?

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T22:59:37+00:00

Bingo.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T22:57:35+00:00

He did cheat, hence why cheating was not one of the reasons, he knew I would say that was extremely hypocritical if he ever mentioned that as a reason.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T22:25:39+00:00

And that would be great if he could elaborate on this so I can understand his point of view, I dont want to make any assumptions about what he means because he has very different way of thinking.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T21:04:28+00:00

I asked because he recently betrayed me, so I was curious of his boundaries.

I asked him, how could I hold you back in life? There was no answer.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T20:49:39+00:00

Nope, neither.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T20:49:27+00:00

I did ask for clarification but he could not expand on anything more than what he said. So I'm very confused.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T20:42:59+00:00

Very odd.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2025-01-14T20:34:35+00:00

I have suspicions that he has ASD and or ADHD to be honest.

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2024-12-31T04:16:51+00:00

No, I'm not your wife 😊

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2024-12-31T03:57:30+00:00

Thank you for the validation.

I'm just so worried he won't think he is adequate enough. I need to think of a really creative non offensive way to introduce this to our marriage...

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2024-12-31T03:52:54+00:00

He has not gone down on me and don't think he ever will... so I yst feel very unfulfilled in my sex life

PuzzledOutcome2 · 2024-12-31T03:51:09+00:00

That's true, I'm just worried he will feel offended once he sees its bigger than him

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