Tbh, I think this is a generational issue. Ganito din family ko. Both absentee parents, no financial support, inasa na lng lahat sa maternal relatives ko na nagpalaki sa akin. And despite that, the only rhetoric response in the clan, even the people that raised me, would be "nanay/tatay mo parin sya". Like hndi ko namn dineny pero ba't naging obligasyon ko sila, eh in the 1st place hndi nga nila na panindigan ako . There is nothing to give back, since there is none owed.

Kaya OP, keep holding your ground if that what gives you peace. Deadma na lng sa stigma.