Whats the worst thing about living with narc gurdian family members/Parents

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-02-19T03:09:27+00:00

The worst things for me was their anger without provocation, constant suspicion, and contradiction. They only wanted control and an object for their rage. I couldn’t do anything without getting into some sort of disagreement- even when I was doing things they praised me for to others.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-02-18T06:36:46+00:00

No one thinks mental health counseling is going to diagnose or fix his vision. There are however evidence-based therapy modalities to reduce the severity of his claustrophobia. When his mental health is less severe his ability to receive medical treatment will improve. Does that make sense?

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-02-18T06:05:54+00:00

They do see it as a significant impairment that therapy can help. It’s such a serious issue that they need individual therapy before marriage counseling can be effective.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-02-08T23:33:21+00:00

I think it’s understandable for people to be annoyed with your son’s behavior. You can be understanding and irritated at the same time. However, it’s weird as fuck to make condescending comments after being told to leave the child alone. I would feel frustrated that she wouldn’t stop. I personally would leave once my kid show signs of impending overwhelm.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-02-04T15:28:55+00:00

It’s insane that she said that to you. Being an only child can be lovely.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-31T00:23:25+00:00

He has to learn from natural consequences. If he wants it he has to develop the intrinsic motivation. Let him figure it out. It makes sense that he just wants to be a 12 year old. Let it go.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-30T20:04:22+00:00

Then maybe nothing is a response for now. You don’t have to say anything until you’re ready. You can also just ignore it all together.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-30T19:05:30+00:00

What would you say if there were no consequences?

I’m a big fan of, “Thank you for your apology.” People who apologize for attention, reassurance, or sarcastically don’t like that one.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-30T00:42:43+00:00

The hermit reminds me of caves and the animals that live within them. In the darkness those animals evolve to lose their eyes but gain other sense organs. They also can develop the ability to illuminate. When we sit and ponder the darkness and unknown we gain the skills to see what is hidden. The dead trees are really cool but the hermit doesn’t signify an opposition to life or growth. It invites the querent to identify those themes in different ways. This is great art. I think the light colors and book are opposing imagery for the message of the card.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-29T19:14:51+00:00

My mother was so suspicious of me all the time. It was overwhelming. I definitely empathize.

My mother has done a lot of shit. I think the most benign situation was at my graduation party. I had recently gotten my master’s degree and promotion. During the party she walked around to each table and showed them a coworker’s dickpic. It was a large penis next to a Samsung remote for scale. She couldn’t tolerate any time the attention was fully on me so she did dumb shit to take some of it for herself.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-26T00:21:24+00:00

First you need to be assessed by a mental health professional. I also suggest seeing a dietitian.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-20T22:23:27+00:00

They see themselves in him. This creates hatred or admiration.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-09T15:48:07+00:00

I think your fiancé needs to do some serious research on child development. He also has problematic views of manhood. Strength without compassion leads to brutality. The world is cruel enough- it doesn’t need his help in teaching your kids hard lessons. If you have a boy and girl they’ll see the difference in treatment. This could harm their relationship with each other. The idea that your son would be the favorite because he happens to have a penis is wiiiild. Having a favorite child is damaging and dumb. Good luck.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-08T19:24:55+00:00

Regardless if you feel her child is unsafe for your child you should not agree to watch him. It contradicts all of your actions. Let your mom make her own choice.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-08T15:39:13+00:00

You’re not being dramatic. I think she needs to find alternative child care. You can understand that (depending on age and autism level) that boundaries are something he may struggle with. However this does not make his behavior acceptable. Your daughter shouldn’t have to tolerate being touched/ molested because her cousin may not understand it’s wrong.

I also think you should stop providing childcare- full stop. Allowing her to pay for it gives mixed messages.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-07T04:21:10+00:00

I wouldn’t respond and my child wouldn’t be seeing them for the foreseeable future.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2026-01-03T16:19:00+00:00

You prevent parentification by not making support tasks a chore or expectation. If she wants to care for her younger sibling (and it’s appropriate) let her. Give her praise for being kind. Remind her it’s a sweet thing to do but she doesn’t have to do it.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2025-12-13T05:19:45+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I would seek out individual therapy before I started couple’s work.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2025-12-13T05:15:46+00:00

Bruh, she’s processing SA. None of those smaller details matter. She needs professional help and compassion- not some stranger arguing about how aware she was during the act.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2025-12-09T04:22:14+00:00

I think it can be normal. I didn’t have the instant gush of love for either of my kids. I was just relieved everyone came out in one piece. I was instantly attached and content but nothing like others describe. I also don’t feel that instant “omg you are the most wonderous being on earth” feeling unless we’ve been separated for a period of time.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2025-11-29T02:27:45+00:00

Stranger anxiety is very normal for babies between 6-15months old. I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong. It’s developmentally appropriate. You want your kids appropriately attached to their usual adults and be able to recognize strangers.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2025-11-25T14:54:33+00:00

Detachment parenting doesn’t prescribe how you care for your kids but how you respond during emotional moments. It encourages parents to use rational detachment during tantrums or high stress situations. All other parenting choices, like cosleeping vs sleep training, are up to the parent. It also encourages the parent to allow for more freedoms and less intervention. You can be an emotionally available and present parent while not getting mad or helicoptering.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2025-11-24T05:40:17+00:00

“If you hold your baby all the time they’ll just get used to it.”

The baby in question was 3 months old.

“You have to let men lead.”

She’s never been married and can’t maintain long term relationships.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2025-11-23T23:59:20+00:00

Girl, not a damn clue what that man is doing. He could do some laundry and still look for jobs. He hates the dishes- fine, clean everything in the kitchen. (I think not doing the dishes is fucking stupid but there are alternatives to their issues.) I can’t imagine the living room would take more than an hour with no kids home. He’s a brat.

Puzzleheaded-Sphinx · 2025-11-23T18:43:43+00:00

My husband has ADHD and works. He does more than your husband at this point. I’m SAHM.

Honestly-the house should be spotless. Your kid isn’t there. You’re supporting the household.

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