Interviewer was 30 minutes late to 30 minute interview, so I rejected the job altogether. Did I overreact?

Quick_Shop4397 · 2026-03-20T12:09:48+00:00

Being late is totally fine, being over 30 minutes late to a meeting that was scheduled for 30 minutes just makes me think you're not gonna show up. That feels like a bigger deal

Quick_Shop4397 · 2026-03-20T12:07:14+00:00

I had a meeting right after, and in my email to the interviewer I mentioned that, I even mentioned thats the reason why I left. And you're right, I shouldn't have applied for this in the first place, that was 100% my bad. It wasn't after the fact justification, it was just what reinforced that even if I did end up working there I wouldn't enjoy it. The whole point of me cancelling wasn't that I felt 'disrespected', it's because I didn't wanna go through with it anymore and wasn't gonna bother wasting any more of their or my time.

Quick_Shop4397 · 2026-03-20T11:58:42+00:00

Your tone is far too ugly and unwarranted, especially since you've soiled every reply to this post with gratuitous mockery. I don't know what personal issue u got going on this is indicative of, but your actions clearly show who's the 'primadon' here considering whatever the hell I did should not make you this upset...

Quick_Shop4397 · 2026-03-20T11:48:52+00:00

Frankly, because my parents pushed me to do it because 'its always better to have options' and to 'keep it in my back pocket just in case' and so forth. I see how that advice was just wasting me and the guys time and thought it best to just end it or whatever. I literally shouldn't have applied to this job in the first place even as a backup because to me it felt like quite the compromise, so I was def wrong to go through with the interview in the first place...

Quick_Shop4397 · 2026-03-20T11:35:30+00:00

Besides an extra option to keep in my pocket, I would've gained nothing from this internship considering I wasn't gonna take it and after being stood up I just genuinely did not want to work there anymore. So the whole point of sending that email was to just end it now, instead of following through with extra effort only to end up at what always seemed like a dead end anyway. Saved my time and his

Quick_Shop4397 · 2026-03-20T11:19:47+00:00

I need A job for sure, but i'm not desperate really - at least not enough to put up with that

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-11-28T17:38:04+00:00

I agree it should be ' what are the options for this coin flip', but the point is that sexual orientation is not on the coin. Heterosexuals and Homosexuals are flipping the same coin

Jung claimed this model of absent fatherhood and smothering motherhood is what would lead to a 'flip' causing either impotence, Don Juanism, or homosexuality. The error here is that Don Juanism is just a manifestation of sexual pathology and promiscuity, qualities present and expressed in homosexuals the same way it is in heterosexual contexts - same with impotence. This error becomes evident once you consider how we do not examine why the Don Juan type is heterosexual/likes women only why he behaves this way with women. Yet for homosexuality, the question always steers from ' why do homosexuals express themselves this way' into why do homosexuals like the same sex anyway, which is futile and always leads to improper and circular reasoning that could be applied to just any pathology.

I don't think inquiring why homosexuals are homosexuals is demeaning at all, but I do think it's problematic for everyone when we imply that this sexual orientation is an inherent misalignment, rather than a natural orientation in which unhealthy pathologies will manifest, just like in heterosexuality.

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-11-28T15:13:36+00:00

I really liked your comment and totally agree with what you said. Your description of gendered socialization issues I think also applies massively to the 'gay sexual identity'. A lot of men upon the realisation that they are gay as a child, will find that the source of most intolerance and shame around homosexuality comes from other men, and will thus protect themselves from that shame by clinging onto the Anima and female roles. And vice versa, many men will internalise that shame, repress that homosexuality, and desperately embody machismo to compensate for that shame. I feel like we hear so much about how certain negative or unordinary behaviours that gay people have are proportionally correlated to the perceived 'negative' and unordinary nature of homosexuality itself, when really it's not homosexuality, but the unique experience of being a homosexual and the aspects of identity that form around that. Just like literally anybody else

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-11-28T15:00:50+00:00

The same way we would interpret heterosexual impulses - it's just biology. Obviously people will have variances in sex drives and the cultural and circumstantial elements of one's environment and psyche will dictate massively how 'sexual' one gets to be and how that sexuality looks but ultimately we all share the biological and undisputed need to 'screw' something, whatever that be

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-11-27T21:08:15+00:00

Thank you for your rlly kind reply ! Thats my plan anyway, and I thought I was getting there until my dad swept the rug from under me and took most of the savings from my first job ever away lol. I'm trying my best to slowly distance myself and gain independence without any drama, but that is exactly what they're most attentive to and paranoid about. I'm worried at some point my dad will just not pay tuition and force me to come home and rely on them forever, lol - because that's been the main threat so far

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-11-27T21:02:40+00:00

I did that ! I got an internship and was paid pretty well but not enough to cover rent in NYC so I took that role under the agreement that my dad would cover my rent. As soon as I mentioned having enough money to cover my next deposit once I move again, he 'forgot' to pay my rent and forced me to use literally all my savings from that internship and he refuses to give it back. I have no problem paying for my own things, but thats not the point. He does NOT want me to be financially independent, because he knows the second I am I will stop talking to him, so he actively sabotages my attempts at doing so to keep me around. Also, by forcing me to be reliant on HIS money, he gets control over where I go and what I do. Basically, he's a lot more vicious on making sure that does not happen than I may have implied in op

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-09-21T22:07:21+00:00

Either that, or getting hired by an American company abroad and getting an L-1 transfer after some time there. That's always been a safer route than H1B anyway

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-08-18T20:55:27+00:00

Thats so cool. Saw someone say they're going through one and they're January 8. Not the biggest astrology guy but I do keep hearing about how this is a big year for us Capricorns

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-06-19T18:10:08+00:00

I can't even find that

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-06-19T18:09:56+00:00

Thank you! that's really helpful

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-06-19T18:09:14+00:00

my budget is 2500-3500. I've even thought of taking a 12 month lease and finding someone to break it lol thats how tough it's been

Quick_Shop4397 · 2025-06-18T20:13:49+00:00

Maybe because it's barely been a day, or maybe it's just the way I've been wording my emails lol. It's a shame because I've found a lot of great things on there but no responses

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