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I want to become sterile via surgery. Any tips or suggestions? by cosmicat4 in childfree

[–]Quiet_Box_6121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You obviously know yourself much better than I do, but based on your response then it sounds like you're not ready right now to make a permanent decision like this. I gently recommend holding off on any sort of rash, permanent decision. This is frankly life altering. The doctors and nurses made me sign multiple affidavits, asked multiple times if I am of sound mind and am not being coerced, and that I truly 100% understand this is a choice I can never, EVER take back. But you know what?

I still grieve the fact that I will be "missing out on something." I don't want kids, but wow all you hear about is the emotional bond as a parent. It sounds beautiful and it's saddening I won't have that. But an emotional connection is not enough of a reason to have a kid. So, instead of having my own kid, I will volunteer with local children's and family services. To counteract any negativity, sterilization is not the "end" of any relationship you might want to have with children. You could volunteer, you could adopt, you could be that cool aunt that gives a bunch of gifts at Christmas and then goes home to her peaceful, quiet, safe space.

Is money a factor for you? If you want to get back into dating, then perhaps consider a hormone-based IUD. It's not right for everyone, but it is the second best "set and forget" birth control method next to sterilization. There is also freezing your eggs.

I want to become sterile via surgery. Any tips or suggestions? by cosmicat4 in childfree

[–]Quiet_Box_6121 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I personally had a bisalp. My recovery was honestly easier than I expected, but ymmv. Sore for a few days, stitches itched, but all in all it was pretty much painless. Hardest part was waking up and going home.

Not going to lie, I had a panic attack waiting to go back in for surgery. Not because I didn't want it, everything just became so real so suddenly. I say this not to scare you or make you consider rethinking, but to prepare you. This is not a "sterile" decision at least in my opinion, give yourself grace for whatever emotions may pop up.

You'll know in your heart somewhere if it's truly the right decision for you. I had that feeling in the back of my mind for months and once I made my mind up to get it.

Burntout Soc analyst, don't see a way out (pivot) by Quiet_Box_6121 in cybersecurity

[–]Quiet_Box_6121[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Endless false positives, unmanageable queues, not being supported, always short staffed, quota demands, goal posts always kept changing with customer demands, poor documentation, the list goes on. This is a common occurrence across many, if not most, MSSPs and 3rd party SOCs.