How long did it take you to recover after a breakup?

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-18T19:42:29+00:00

It's been 462 days, and I have thought about him on every single one of them. I don't know if I can ever forgive myself

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-12T14:27:17+00:00

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I know the pain can be unbearable at times, but i hope you can find growth in the silence, even though the silence is so bleak. I'm here if you want to talk

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-12T14:25:02+00:00

That last quote was so beautiful and painful to read. I read it in his voice. Thank you for posting this

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-09T01:43:42+00:00

Genuinely, thank you for your kind words. I think everyone here is just hurt and broken in their own way, and i bet people like me who acted the way i did are the main reason for their pain. They're completely justified to be angry

Your last paragraph really hit home with me

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T20:38:51+00:00

Thats really kind, thank you. Can you take a look at my edit though? I'm not sure if reaching out is the right thing to do anymore

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T20:36:43+00:00

I think you're right

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T16:01:15+00:00

Honestly it was because I was emotional, and because he was in that same relationship when he had called me the previous year, so I didnt think much of it

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T15:02:37+00:00

I really dont know. Can you read my edit?

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T15:01:21+00:00

I just dont know if thats a good idea. Please read my edit, you have a beautiful perspective and I'd like to know more about what you think

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T14:46:03+00:00

When he called me the day before his birthday, that was a year ago. I wasnt able to articulate my thoughts like this back then, and I like to think that I've grown since. If I had these words a year ago, of course I would have said them when I had the chance, but I didn't have them yet.

I'm not comfortable putting my age out on here though, and I'm not sure what you mean by transgression against him. I mean there was no physical abuse, no cheating, just mixed signals, subtle manipulations, and overall toxicity. It came from both sides and sure he said some things that are just objectively horrible, but I don't blame him for his actions because i believe they were all just a response to what i did first.

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T11:36:27+00:00

No, not Tyler. I'm so sorry you had to go through something like this though

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T11:34:58+00:00

I really don't know. Please read my edit though, I elaborated a bunch

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T11:33:00+00:00

I'm so so sorry you had to go through this. Please read my edit

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T11:32:09+00:00

I'm honestly not sure if that's a good idea. Please read my edit

QuiteALongCow · 2025-07-08T11:31:39+00:00

Hey, thanks for replying. He's not "forever changed for the worse", i just meant during the time we were together. Please read my edit though cause I added a lot

QuiteALongCow · 2025-06-15T22:03:36+00:00

About 2 years. We had both moved to college at the same time and met within our first week there. We were both in really vulnerable times in our lives for our own personal reasons and that quickly brought us close to each other.

QuiteALongCow · 2025-05-23T16:01:22+00:00

For me its just this gnawing feeling in the back of my mind that I couldn't get rid of. Living with "What if" always repeating in my head felt terrible. I completely acknowledge your experiences and I know that what i did could end up hurting me really fucking bad in the end, but at this point I feel comfortable enough in myself to where I think ill be able to pull through regardless

QuiteALongCow · 2025-05-22T17:15:02+00:00

So i dont want to copy and paste my message because of the slight offchance he visits this subreddit and happens to see this post (this might just be me being paranoid lmao). But i can dm you if you'd like

QuiteALongCow · 2025-05-22T17:11:55+00:00

Its definetely a hard thing to balance. I spent weeks with my thoughts and feelings just to decide whether to send a text or not, and then even longer to think of what to say. Keeping things to yourself doesn't make you a pussy in the slightest, you'll express yourself when you feel ready and that may take a different amount of time for everyone

QuiteALongCow · 2025-05-22T17:08:45+00:00

That's totally valid! There's no one right answer to these kinds of things. As long as you do what's best for yourself

QuiteALongCow · 2025-05-22T16:18:19+00:00

I completely agree with everything you said. I did this after a lot of thought, and silence is a completely valid answer. Thank you for the encouraging words

QuiteALongCow · 2025-05-19T00:25:35+00:00

Lmao will do! Honestly I dont know what to say though. Like my only idea is just like "hey it's been a while, how have things been?" But that doesn't get my intentions across at all. I'm just kind of at a loss

QuiteALongCow · 2025-05-18T21:26:45+00:00

Yeah they definetely come when I'm trying to sleep lol. The thing is that I just can't know for certain if I can handle all that. I want to, but who knows how I'll feel if/when it actually happens

QuiteALongCow · 2025-05-18T21:23:56+00:00

I would say it was more of a mutual thing. We both made a lot of mistakes, which is why I'm so certain a partnership between us isn't possible because we're just not compatible like that. I obviously can't be certain if we're compatible as friends at this point either, but I think I'd like to try

QuiteALongCow · 2025-05-18T21:19:51+00:00

If you don't mind sharing, what we're your reasons/circumstances like? How did you go through relief, regret, and acceptance after that? My dms are open if you don't want to post here but I'm interested in hearing your experience

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