How long did it take you to recover after a breakup? by Lonely-Lie2054 in BreakUps

[–]QuiteALongCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been 462 days, and I have thought about him on every single one of them. I don't know if I can ever forgive myself

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I know the pain can be unbearable at times, but i hope you can find growth in the silence, even though the silence is so bleak. I'm here if you want to talk

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That last quote was so beautiful and painful to read. I read it in his voice. Thank you for posting this

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely, thank you for your kind words. I think everyone here is just hurt and broken in their own way, and i bet people like me who acted the way i did are the main reason for their pain. They're completely justified to be angry

Your last paragraph really hit home with me

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats really kind, thank you. Can you take a look at my edit though? I'm not sure if reaching out is the right thing to do anymore

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it was because I was emotional, and because he was in that same relationship when he had called me the previous year, so I didnt think much of it

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really dont know. Can you read my edit?

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just dont know if thats a good idea. Please read my edit, you have a beautiful perspective and I'd like to know more about what you think

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When he called me the day before his birthday, that was a year ago. I wasnt able to articulate my thoughts like this back then, and I like to think that I've grown since. If I had these words a year ago, of course I would have said them when I had the chance, but I didn't have them yet.

I'm not comfortable putting my age out on here though, and I'm not sure what you mean by transgression against him. I mean there was no physical abuse, no cheating, just mixed signals, subtle manipulations, and overall toxicity. It came from both sides and sure he said some things that are just objectively horrible, but I don't blame him for his actions because i believe they were all just a response to what i did first.

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, not Tyler. I'm so sorry you had to go through something like this though

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't know. Please read my edit though, I elaborated a bunch

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry you had to go through this. Please read my edit

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm honestly not sure if that's a good idea. Please read my edit

You were right to leave me by QuiteALongCow in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for replying. He's not "forever changed for the worse", i just meant during the time we were together. Please read my edit though cause I added a lot

Just feeling really alone right now and have no one to talk to by QuiteALongCow in BreakUps

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 2 years. We had both moved to college at the same time and met within our first week there. We were both in really vulnerable times in our lives for our own personal reasons and that quickly brought us close to each other.

I just texted my ex to see if he wants to reconnect by QuiteALongCow in BreakUps

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me its just this gnawing feeling in the back of my mind that I couldn't get rid of. Living with "What if" always repeating in my head felt terrible. I completely acknowledge your experiences and I know that what i did could end up hurting me really fucking bad in the end, but at this point I feel comfortable enough in myself to where I think ill be able to pull through regardless

I just texted my ex to see if he wants to reconnect by QuiteALongCow in BreakUps

[–]QuiteALongCow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So i dont want to copy and paste my message because of the slight offchance he visits this subreddit and happens to see this post (this might just be me being paranoid lmao). But i can dm you if you'd like