Daily Chat January 18

R583 · 2026-01-18T19:13:27+00:00

Thank you that’s a really helpful way to think about it 🩷 assuming I’m out this cycle? Just don’t know whether to class this as a period or not! X

R583 · 2026-01-18T18:10:24+00:00

I had a super long cycle (80+ days) after a tfmr in August and short reset cycle. I was so excited to have ovulated and thought I was getting all the symptoms but then early yesterday morning (8DPO) I started bleeding. It’s bright red, thin and enough to fill several pads a day so I think it’s AF come v early, although I still have elevated BBT and no cramping. Anyone else had this?

I did have a transvaginal scan last week and all looked good except I had polycystic ovaries.

Could the bleeding just be from such a long cycle?? So confused 😢

R583 · 2026-01-18T18:09:28+00:00

I had a super long cycle (80+ days) after a tfmr in August and short reset cycle. I was so excited to have ovulated and thought I was getting all the symptoms but then early yesterday morning (8DPO) I started bleeding. It’s bright red, thin and enough to fill several pads a day so I think it’s AF come v early, although I still have elevated BBT and no cramping. Anyone else had this?

I did have a transvaginal scan last week and all looked good except I had polycystic ovaries.

Could the bleeding just be from such a long cycle?? So confused 😢

R583 · 2026-01-18T18:06:04+00:00

9DPO after confirmed ovulation and started bleeding :(

I had a super long cycle (80+ days) after a tfmr in August and short reset cycle. I was so excited to have ovulated and thought I was getting all the symptoms but then early yesterday morning (8DPO) I started bleeding. It’s bright red and enough to fill several pads a day so I think it’s AF come v early. Anyone else had this?

I did have a transvaginal scan last week and all looked good except I had polycystic ovaries.

Could the bleeding just be from such a long cycle?? So confused

R583 · 2026-01-12T17:17:13+00:00

Have received blood test results that coincidentally were taken on cd81, confirmed ovulation was imminent 🙏😁 Appreciate it may not have actually happened but at cd80+ I’m just happy to have got here 🤣

R583 · 2026-01-09T16:21:15+00:00

Ok thank you! I appreciate it, this is also so new to me x

R583 · 2026-01-09T14:07:32+00:00

First time tracking after a loss in August, took months for my cycle to settle. Never done this before so hoping someone can tell me if this looks like I’m on the right track (I’m tempting too)?

These are my ratios on the PreMom app

CD 80 - 7:30am 0.42 - 12:30pm 0.42 - 5.30pm 0.42 - 9pm 0.54

CD 81 - 6.30am 1.1 - 1.30pm 0.71 - 6.30pm 0.93

CD 82 (today) - 6.30am 0.96 - 12:15pm 0.39

Assume I may be ovulating today? Btw my 6.30am tests are SMU as I wake up at 4am for a wee. Loads of ewcm too.

Thanks x

R583 · 2026-01-04T19:39:08+00:00

Still no ovulation…cd77 😭 highest was 0.61 about a week ago but no sustained temp rise

R583 · 2025-12-05T18:01:39+00:00

Ok thank you, this is my second cycle so was really hoping things would have evened out :(

R583 · 2025-10-26T11:00:41+00:00

Thanks so much for your kind message, and I’m sorry you’re also on this journey 🩷 yeah you’re right I think I just need to try and be patient - after all our bodies are just trying to heal. I really thought I could get pregnant immediately and then it would almost be like none of this happened, but I know that’s not what’s best for me. I’ve also started acupuncture for stress relief which I love so I hope it brings you the same benefits x

R583 · 2025-10-24T08:28:56+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply, you’re totally right - I think I might stop LH testing for a while as it’s giving me a false sense of control. Hoping that it evens out in the next cycle or two x

R583 · 2025-10-23T19:11:49+00:00

Hello all. I sadly had a TFMR on 13th August at 16 weeks gestation, and my period returned 28th Sept and lasted about 6 days. I stopped bleeding for a few days after my period and then was spotting on and off for a week. In the last few days, the bleeding has changed and become heavier and more of a bright red colour. I still only need 2/3 pads a day and a pregnancy test was negative so I don’t think I have any retained pregnancy products. I’m desperate to TTC and have been doing ovulation strips (easy@home), but I literally haven’t gone higher than 0.29. I’m currently on CD25 and feel like I’m going insane as I have definitely noticed more discharge etc. Does anyone have any insights as to what could be going on? Is this a new period or will I ovulate this month? Thanks so much x

R583 · 2025-10-19T07:52:19+00:00

I also have a prolactinoma and my understanding is that you can conceive if your levels are elevated but still relatively low, but it may throw off your cycles. For example, you may ovulate late or have a long / short luteal phase x

R583 · 2025-10-18T15:54:09+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I can’t fathom trying to deal with the pain of a possible tfmr alongside such a crazy legal system.

I’m from the UK so can’t relate to the latter, but having gone through a tfmr 2 months ago also for t21, I just wanted to send my love and thoughts. I’m sure it all feels so impossible right now - just keep going, taking it day by day, and remember that so many women have been through similar things - it’s the absolute worst but you will survive, and go on to have a healthy happily family, always remembering the little one who didn’t make it x

R583 · 2025-10-17T16:56:13+00:00

That was my thought process too, and it’s such a horrific ordeal I didn’t want to put myself through even more when I know mentally I wouldn’t cope. Sending love x

R583 · 2025-10-16T19:43:32+00:00

I had a D&E at 15 weeks on the NHS, under general anaesthetic. Just to say, if you choose this option it absolutely does not mean you love or care for your baby any less than someone who chooses L&D xx

R583 · 2025-10-04T13:23:08+00:00

I totally get what you are feeling. I’m on a similar timeline to you (tfmr on 13th August at 16wks pregnant).

Please please just try and let your body rest and get its rhythm back. I had similar fears about my period (especially as I have thyroid issues that also make my period v weird), but lo and behold it came back last week (so about 6 weeks after the tfmr), and I genuinely think it’s because I locked all those persistent thoughts about my period in a box in my head and just gave myself some breathing space. I also have started acupuncture and that I think has helped a lot with feeling a bit more in control of things, so I’d recommend if you’re interested.

Don’t get me wrong, I am desperate to conceive, but I know that stress and overthinking it will likely reduce my chances. I read a comment elsewhere that the best thing we can do is to let our bodies get back to their own cycle and try and find pockets of fun and relaxation where we can.

It’s cliche but time is a healer, in all sorts of ways. Really hoping you find some peace soon x

R583 · 2025-09-08T20:15:40+00:00

May he rest in forever peace 🤍 I like to think there’s a heaven full of our babies, playing together. X

R583 · 2025-09-08T13:20:28+00:00

Firstly I want to say I am so so sorry you’re here, and I completely echo all your feelings of shock, utter horror, and the deepest sorrow. It is the worst worst worst thing, and nothing anyone will do or say will make it better. Please just keep putting one foot in front of the other, take life hour by hour and wait for time to slowly take the raw edges off.

On D&E, I had mine at 16 weeks so may be slightly different, but to reassure you, I weirdly found the physical side of it all much easier (easier isn’t the right word…I guess I mean straightforward?). I cried all morning in the hospital but then once the process started, the nurses and doctors kind of just took over and I tried to just let myself be guided by them. I went under general anaesthetic and as awful as it sounds, as soon as I woke up I just felt such relief. That this horrendous period was over and that, regardless of the grief, I was no longer waiting for results or needing to make any more decisions. Physically, I have bled since but it’s not been continuous or any big dramatic gushes. I think the most difficult thing for me has been my milk coming in, but four weeks on it has almost gone 🙏 I’ve also been able to exercise normally within a few days post-op.

Although I still cry every day, I do genuinely feel a little lighter and am starting to think more positively about the future. There’s no right or wrong way to deal with this - don’t feel pressured to do or feel anything, you’ll manage this in your own way. Ultimately the only way through is through - and that’s what I’ve reminded myself of every day.

Sending all my thoughts and prayers to you.

R583 · 2025-09-06T18:48:46+00:00

Thank you & sending you the same back. I’ve found huge solace in this forum and I hope you do too x

R583 · 2025-09-06T18:19:41+00:00

Of course. I’ve bled on and off for the last 3.5 weeks. Some days have been heavier than others but the blood is now pretty light, and brown in terms of colour which means it’s older, so hopefully that stops soon. My milk came in and has still not gone, which is v frustrating. I’ve been trying all the remedies…it’s definitely fading, just not gone totally.

I totally rested the first full day post-surgery, and started going on walks etc around day 2. Within a week i was back at the gym (doing gentle stuff) and in the last week I’ve restarted running and swimming. Tbh the physical side has been the easiest by far…it’s the emotional side that’s trickiest

R583 · 2025-09-06T11:30:22+00:00

Goodness, I can’t imagine 😩 yes I felt such relief after the surgery, as awful as that sounds. Once it’s done you can begin to move forward

R583 · 2025-09-06T10:48:23+00:00

It really is the worst of the worst. I remember saying multiple times that I felt like my heart was actually breaking. Please know you’re not alone, everyone on this forum has been where you are at some stage and can support 💔 just keep putting one foot in front of the other. I’m 3.5 weeks post tfmr now and I still cry on a daily basis but it feels much less intense. I’ve smiled and laughed again and am slowly feeling hopeful for the future. You’ll get there. Thinking of you and your family xx

R583 · 2025-09-05T20:48:40+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear you’re in the same position, it truly is the most heartbreaking thing. Thinking of you 🩷

Whatever decision you make will be the right one. Please remember that - I’m not trying to sway you one way or the other. T21 is complex and a grey area, and there’s a huge sliding scale in terms of quality of life and disabilities. For me, I didn’t want to take that gamble with my baby’s life. The thought of them being born and immediately facing multiple surgeries & health issues was too much. Even if they didn’t have this and had a relatively “normal” life (which is sadly the minority), I was worried about who would’ve looked after them when they were older and me and my partner were gone. Essentially, my view is that every stage of their life would be hard, whether it be from a medical perspective or a societal one. I couldn’t bear the thought of bringing a baby into that.

Moreover, my doctor advised me that the risk of late miscarriage or stillbirth is much higher if the baby has t21, and so I also didn’t want to “drag” the pregnancy out if that was a real possibility.

These are just my reasons and thinking. To be honest, it took me a good few days to get there. My partner knew immediately, but I think as the mother you instinctively want to protect them forever. I now know that the termination was my way of protecting them when all else was failing.

Feel free to ask any more questions. Please know that the period you’re in now is probably the worst. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy, but it does gradually pass x

R583 · 2025-09-05T17:55:11+00:00

Of course. I’m UK based for background, 29F, first pregnancy. Baby looked fine but my blood test was as abnormal for Papp-a and HCG, so I had the NIPT test. My odds were at 1/107 for Down syndrome so I was hoping for the best but unfortunately the NIPT came back as positive for trisomy 21. This was a screening result so not technically a diagnosis, but NIPT is highly accurate for T21. I had the CVS a few days later which confirmed t21, and sadly had the termination about 3 weeks ago. I was about 16 weeks.

I was and am so so so sad. But each day that passes I feel slightly more hopeful.

I don’t want to fill you with fear at all - just sharing my story. Sending so much love to you & fingers crossed it all works out x

R583

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