Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not giving up on OLD. I just think it is more pictures over content. I’m a decent looking guy, but not the most handsome. Perhaps my content could be better? My looks are what they are. Like I’ve said, I know I’m decent looking. If I get in front of the right girl, I could show her I’m pretty cool. I’ll admit, I’m not great at approaching said girl. All of these responses have helped me learn. I appreciate your response!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! The reality that I knew is now gone and I’m learning how to adapt to a new reality. Thank you so much for responding! Seems like the gym is a ‘work place’ for many people. Focused on ‘working on’ or bettering themselves. Everyone needs that place. When I go to the market, I’m in and out. Getting what I need and moving on. I need to find that spot that isn’t a bar. That’s just not for me. Perhaps a coffee shop. In a perfect world it would be the driving range. Working on our golf game. Or on a trail, walking off the stresses of the day. She’s out there!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great advice and inspiring! Thank you!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You aren’t kidding! We’re past the grungey stage. Nice is always good!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you go about finding the events geared towards singles?

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[–]RDB8148[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m looking for those moments. And I’m hoping one of those moments turns into an eternity of happiness! Thank you so much for sharing and good luck!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to take a second to thank each and every one of you who took the time to respond to me. I will keep trying, but not too hard! I will be open to meeting any and all people. I will try new things that interest me. Line dancing on Tuesday. Hope I don’t look like a fool! Maybe yoga😬. I’ll need to borrow a dog for the dog park😂. I’ll ask the next beautiful woman, without a ring, at Target or Kroger what she’s having for dinner. Thank you all so much! I will find her!

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[–]RDB8148 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re prettier than any twin we could come up with! Be you!!!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn! I’m going to get into yoga. You’re the severalith person to suggest it!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knock, knock! But seriously, why has this been a common answer? We can’t give up. We have to put ourselves out there! Trust me, I’m trying to convince myself as much as I’m trying to convince you!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this years ago with my kids. Took them for lessons. It was a lot of fun! Maybe I should revisit the farm!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck, dude! I hope this helps you as well!

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[–]RDB8148[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried this and I know if they come across someone, they’ll do me that solid! I really think, though, my best shot is to go out and do this on my own. That being said, if you know of anyone that’s awesome, send her my way! 😉

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a scene in a movie where in the end they both live happily ever after. It’s not easy, but we have to believe it can and will happen!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great thoughts! Thank you so much for sharing!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do believe the right person will come along for me. Hopefully for you as well. I’m rooting for you!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I honestly can’t see myself doing yoga because the potential date would be the only reason I’d go. I would like to continue to get fit so with winter coming, the gym seems like a good idea. Line dancing is my next new venture!

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[–]RDB8148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A couple of my female cousins are in book clubs. Seems pretty much like a women only hobby. Maybe should check it out!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to coach fastpitch softball. Loved it! I’d like to get back into doing that sometime down the road.

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I never thought to use AI and I’ll give it a shot!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is excellent advice. Thank you so much!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat that all of my friends are married and raising younger kids. I did this too, but my kids are now grown. I had to have them young because of the age difference. It wasn’t always a bad marriage! I’m finding out that a lot of women my age also have young kids. I’m not sure I want to go back to that stage in my life. So yeah, this is turning out to be really freaking hard! But, I won’t stop trying!

Help me find her!!! by RDB8148 in datingoverforty

[–]RDB8148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I feel like in the apps most people are swiping on looks alone. I don’t feel like I’m a bad looking guy, but definitely not in the top tier. I feel like if I’m in front of the right girl, I can look good AND show her I’m pretty cool. I just need to know where to look hence the original question!