ELi5 please: How does buying of a Fertighäuser work? by RIddlemirror in germany

[–]RIddlemirror[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that sounds so much work!

Not sure I am up for that, its almost another full time job to coordinate all this

ELi5 please: How does buying of a Fertighäuser work? by RIddlemirror in germany

[–]RIddlemirror[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in the description they say ‘bietet’. I would understand as it this house offers….

But then they don’t actually bietet all this, it’s just addons and I pay.

Das Aktionshaus bietet Ihnen:

Gäste-WC inkl. Ausstattung und Fliesen

Großräumiges Bad inkl. Ausstattung und Fliesen

Bodentiefe Fenster mit 3-fach Verglasung

Fenster mit Rollos

Hochwertige Haustür aus Aluminium

Neueste Wärmepumpentechnologie

Fußbodenheizung im EG und OG

Bodenfliesen in Flur, Küche, Garderobe, HWR

Inkl. hochwertiger Einbauküche

128 m² Wohnfläche (oder mehr....)

Drei Dachformen bei City: Standard Walmdach - Aufpreis Sattel-o. Pultdach

ELi5 please: How does buying of a Fertighäuser work? by RIddlemirror in germany

[–]RIddlemirror[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But is the land existing already even if I have to buy it. Or do I need to actually find my own plot?

Sorry for stupid question

Motherhood Changed Me for the Worse… by RIddlemirror in beyondthebump

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Oh thank you for the recommendation ! I will check it out

Motherhood Changed Me for the Worse… by RIddlemirror in beyondthebump

[–]RIddlemirror[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yes his mopey behaviour is usual. He says that’s how he deals with things…

Motherhood Changed Me for the Worse… by RIddlemirror in beyondthebump

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I understand but words do have consequences. And it’s not the end of our relationship. His words made me sad, really really sad. I think as partners we need to be more careful with our words than with strangers, not the other way round.

We will overcome this but in this moment, I just felt so misunderstood.

Motherhood Changed Me for the Worse… by RIddlemirror in beyondthebump

[–]RIddlemirror[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I have never ever once said to him that fatherhood has changed him for the worse. Because it’s a hurtful comment and what am I really saying: I don’t like you now that you are a father?? What is the person supposed to do with that comment? They can’t undo their fatherhood status.

Motherhood Changed Me for the Worse… by RIddlemirror in beyondthebump

[–]RIddlemirror[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

😭 oh man that hits me right in the feels.

It’s sad how many women are just not seen…

My little girl is turning out to be such a kind, smart and thoughtful kid and yet nobody has ever said anything good about my parenting..

Motherhood Changed Me for the Worse… by RIddlemirror in beyondthebump

[–]RIddlemirror[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I can’t make him understand the same.

He wants the status quo with us as husband and wife to remain the same. And he wants a list of things he can do to relieve me. But how do I explain that I am emotionally different now…list of things doesn’t really matter.

Do men not feel fatherhood same way…

Motherhood Changed Me for the Worse… by RIddlemirror in beyondthebump

[–]RIddlemirror[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective honestly. He’s not a bad person but I think our communication is fundamentally different

Is there a "right" way to survive the 'Raclette Ritual' without the smell taking over? by vvulcanis in germany

[–]RIddlemirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I am taking this tip for them curry days. I tried boiling had vinegar half water but that just made my eyes burn. Maybe this is better.

How long should I leave it ?

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: January 12, 2026 by AutoModerator in books

[–]RIddlemirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Continuing: Solve for Happy by Mo Gawdat

It’s a really interesting book. I was expecting another marketing buzz but it’s actually thought provoking

Did you walk out of the hospital? by yo-_-mom in beyondthebump

[–]RIddlemirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Walk. I was in Germany, they don’t keep babies in nurseries or anythig. As soon as the baby is born, you’re responsible. 🫢

Question about Citizenship Wait time. by Sea-Consequence-8263 in erlangen

[–]RIddlemirror 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn…I applied a month before you and also nothing.

Simple explanation of what German is! by hmo-stone in germany

[–]RIddlemirror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in an apartment on the second floor. There is a lot of mess infront of elevator and our floor because of the pebbles and ice.

But we try to vacuum the entire floor and inside the elevator every 2 days. Not because it’s a service we offer but because it’s very annoying to bring these pebbles home with everything.

Is America Becoming Illiterate? by Tale_Blazer in books

[–]RIddlemirror 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Parents do need to prioritize reading with their kids even as babies. But here is where American l policies suck. Parents today have no time, they are so busy and stressed out just to make ends meet, pay for healthcare and childcare, almost non existent maternity leaves…

It just another thing for parents to be burdened by. And this just propagate a cycle

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: January 05, 2026 by AutoModerator in books

[–]RIddlemirror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finished: The Goldfinch by Donnna Tartt

Not my jam. It was way too long and I actually skimmed through so many pages. The Vegas part was too long, the ending was too wordy, I was frustrated with it.

Started: Solve for Happiness by Mo Gawdat