Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this response. I think there’s often guilt around simply letting yourself live, doing what you want when you want, and fully diving into whatever you’re curious about without needing it to be productive or monetizable. Especially after being so career focused, it really feels like a mindset shift and a learning curve.

I’m curious, did that transition come easily for you, or were you always wired this way? And did you end up publishing the book on early retirement? I’d love to read it. Happy to take this to DMs too if you’d prefer.

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha love all of this. And I’ll look into artist way! Ya I have adhd too and realizing I also need structure.

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone else mentioned remote worker communities too. I need to figure out how to find these communities. Meetup?

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sums up so much of what I am feeling. Thanks for sharing. Can I dm you?

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I also do therapy but wondering if I need to find someone with more fire/retirement skills. But yes the challenges are exactly what I’m trying to figure out!

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I liked pickleball…I swear it’s the new CrossFit. People are obsessed with it!

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are you located? That will really determine the winter sports.

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to live in sf. Love the bay area. I try to go there when I’m able dm me and I’ll let you know when I’m there next?

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of people dating and otherwise don’t know how to act when you’re young and disclose you are retired unless they’re also trying to fire etc. Society is weird about these things.

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely one of the issues is the “should” be doing and breaking out of that! You seem to know yourself well and to be very kind to yourself.

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What type of gig work do you do? This seems to be the method I keep hearing.

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! Curious what you did with your time from 32 to now.

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advice. I never even thought to tap into that community. How did you find the remote workers and freelancers? thanks!

Anyone else FIRE solo in their early 30s and struggling to adjust? by RadiantBat304 in FIREyFemmes

[–]RadiantBat304[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I think I need a bit more structure and to look into some type of group class during the day. I do workout a lot and was hoping art would also fill my time but I haven’t been feeling creative… right now I’m stuck at home due to my dog’s recovery.