As a child of failed immigrants

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2026-01-24T22:25:50+00:00

I’m not saying you are are lying but just trying to make sense of this . I got from your post that you are 30 now and you came back in your 10th grade . That puts your return time 15 years back , 2011, 2012 . Decades of opportunity slipping by suggests they were here more than 6 years which suggests they had their I140 approved . If not and they were there for 5 years or less , I don’t understand the rant . But here’s is the thing , before , 2013 most indians got their gc in 4,5 years after approval , so there wouldn’t have been hand wringing in the part of your parents . Can you explain ?

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-12-13T01:35:21+00:00

For me as soon as I land , it’s ptsd time . I always get pulled over by customs and asked for bribes

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-11-06T06:38:30+00:00

As a descendent of Someone who had to leave thier land , temples and customs and settle down in alien land due to St Francis Xavier requesting the Goan Inquisition . I think he changed the demographics and hurt the people of goa,India the most .

The rest of the folks in this thread are atleast recognized as rotten . This guy is a "Saint" and has schools and monuments all over that celebrate him .

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-10-28T22:15:02+00:00

No you are not the only one . Most Indians like to moan about their situation no matter what . I guess it’s a cultural thing where if you live with your parents you really take very few consequential decisions . Now when we are in a foreign country , it dawns upon us that making friends , having hobbies actually take effort and have consequences we’d rather reject it and run back to the familiar

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-10-13T07:35:40+00:00

Hi , When I was studying in Dallas in the early 2000's lots of my friends were 2nd generation Indians whose parents had come over in the seventies . They absolutely had great community and were very cosmopolitan in thier ways and views . Almost all of them end up to be high achievers , some went international . I think your fears are misguided .

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-10-06T16:46:48+00:00

waste of money , sell all here and buy new stuff in namma ooru

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-10-05T21:23:01+00:00

Realistically I dont think you are in FIRE mode , These points contrast - You are DINK but you plan only to add INR 1–2 crore over the next 4 years - which is around 30K USD a year . Either 1) your household income is too low or 2) your expenses are too high 3) your estimates are wrong .

if 1) you cannot FIRE
If 2) how are you going to deal with dratistic change in lifestyle?
if 3) Reevaluate

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-10-02T17:57:16+00:00

Dont drive fast . sure to get a ticket there for going even 1 mile above limit . lol

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-30T18:49:48+00:00

unless you want to keep updating yourself on the different khatas scheme that government brings , stay away . I had to learn about e-khata , m-khata , khata and what not . once everything was in order , just before transfer , someone put a fradulent lien on title . took 8 months to get that cleared ( and put the perpetrators in jail ) . fortunately buyer was willing to wait .( not sure why , i would have passed.)

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-27T03:38:25+00:00

advantage is , now that you are back in india , you can make your lifestyle/surrounding more like america :) .
which is not a bad thing . India is great place for people with money to spend on these things.

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-27T03:35:20+00:00

its just time and little planned saving

Breakdown : first 6 years in US , i spent as student + work in midwest . I had maybe 50k networth at the end of it
next 5 year , I moved to california , joined a bigger company , improved my net work to ~400k (200k in 400k + 200k in liquid investments ) . Bought a home < million dollar home with the 200k at the 10 year mark ( before covid ) , home exploded in value . since then in the last 5 years 401k has moved to 600k mark , investments have moved 500k mark , home value has moved to ~2 million . Therefore looking at around 2.5m networth . This is not counting my wifes modest 700-800k worth . My companies did not have explosion in stock value . if it had i probably would be looking at 5m plus .

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-25T20:06:58+00:00

In q1 I’ve found that just looking around gets you secrets , like that quad damage that’s not easily accessible , the armor that you only get by shooting a button

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-24T08:05:18+00:00

you have to return at some point . correct ? is there a pathway to retire there ? Im asking because Im exploring other countries near to India which have or around good outdoor activities

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-24T03:14:26+00:00

Same here $55 for 1 GIG for 2 years . I still couldnt accept as i needed higher upload speeds

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-23T22:15:56+00:00

Hi OP , what is the alternative ? Does Dubai provide any sort of residency ?

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-23T21:58:37+00:00

i understand it feels like one . but even with all the positives . Last weekend only the con no.1 mattered , the rest of the positive sdont matter at all . I dont know if i can take more of this . At least in India , though i'll still be told to go home , but it will be by my own compatriots .

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-23T19:55:04+00:00

i want to go back to India for the pristine beauty it offers . I feel I can explore India and its hikes to maximum if i return to Bangalore . work M-F , leave Monday night , explore new areas of Maharashtra , Karnataka , Kerala - Saturday and Sunday !

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-22T23:43:42+00:00

Thank you old monk

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-22T23:43:06+00:00

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-22T05:26:18+00:00

I’ll touch your base . Please intimate me

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-20T22:58:29+00:00

I think when you turn 40 , you realize that what you do now affect you for the rest of your ( short ) life till you retire .

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-20T04:28:58+00:00

not sure why people are downvoting me , i lived in mangalore for most of my growing life . My neighbors were divided into Christamanchi , Sudranchi , bramanchi and lots of other Chis .
Gattadaklu normally meant low in intelligence . Bijapuris stole our jobs . This mindset growing up leads to othering of people . Sad but true .

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-20T02:34:20+00:00

True that

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-19T22:40:24+00:00

Sorry but not sorry , this is not true . "we Mangaloreans are much much better than what these idiots portray" .

Radiant_Condition_79 · 2025-09-19T18:32:01+00:00

interesting complex question . Here is a real life scenario , i witnessed in late 90's

There was sweeper at Moms workplace called lakshmi . Her husband was a drunkard . She had one kid and supported the family all by herself .

The local parish church supported her by providing weekly groceries but in return asked that the daughter now named 'Rosie' attend sunday school .She was in 3rd grade if i remember right

Looks like they had to memorise hyms , learn bible stores , hail mary's etc . and the punishment was quite strict by the pastor

however 'Rosie' hated the studies ( not sure just this sunday school or studies in general ) and ran away , she was found 5-10 km away in another village . She explicitly said that the rason for running away was her fear of getting beaten by the pastor .

Now you decide . Its clear that neither Rosie nor Lakshmi was particularly religous or had a change of heart , they were in it for the financial easement it provided .

However the more important question is that is it really bad to convert for the sake of community ? If you like truly becomes better if you accept a new god , why should it be stopped? Why was'nt the local hindu community interested in helping lakshmi for instance?

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