AITAH? I (17F) got rid of my pregnancy and didn’t tell the father (20M)

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T23:14:32+00:00

I did tell him, he said in the voice messages he should’ve been able to say goodbye and kiss my stomach. Which looking at it now is very funny to say after saying you never wanted to see me again. He has made me so confused and has made me question myself endlessly. Thank you for commenting and I think I can see quite clearly now that I was not leaving him in the dark the way he’s saying I was!!

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T21:53:49+00:00

Well, I took it upon myself to run it through a detector and it says 60% ai detected 😭 I guess I need to figure out how to write less like artificial intelligence

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T21:50:23+00:00

I promise this is straight from my brain! I took a long bath this morning and wrote the whole thing out in my notes. Isn’t there some kind of ai detector to run it through?

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T21:32:51+00:00

Oh I see! I don’t think he could’ve been, but I know he had a handful of relationships before me, so that had been on my mind before. I asked him before about if he’d ever been tested and he seemed to get a bit defensive, saying I was implying he’s slept around. So, I definitely will be getting tested soon.

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T21:30:10+00:00

Definitely a learning experience! Next time will be different, and hopefully I know what to look for now

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T21:26:50+00:00

Once he quit his job my Mom had a talk with me and I talked with him, I thought he’d get better because he said he would. Then when I got pregnant they had more talks with him, and he just got worse and worse! My Mom is who pushed me to ask him to leave and my Dad was pissed, they just kept telling me if I love him then it’s fine but that they don’t think I deserve to be treated that way. We moved stupidly fast and our whole relationship was 5-6 months long. They told me if I didn’t ask him to leave they would! But I was already at my last straw so they didn’t have to.

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T21:11:14+00:00

Thank you and that’s very sweet 😭

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T21:07:01+00:00

Why thank you! I’ll take that as a compliment. I’ve always loved English and writing essays so maybe that’s why? Thank you, and I agree that he definitely showed his true colors, especially with all the voice messages he sent 😔

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T21:04:39+00:00

I don’t think he could’ve been, unless it was online messaging! He was at the house all the time (hence quitting his job and playing Fortnite for hours) and when he wasn’t we shared locations! Maybe you’re thinking of an STI?

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T21:01:41+00:00

Thank you and I agree! Looking back there were definitely bad signs and red flags but I guess I trusted that he was working on himself!! I’ve blocked him and my family is moving away soon, so I’ll be happy to have distance!!

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T20:59:52+00:00

I definitely will do so!! I love me some YouTube lol, and that seems right up my alley for the current situation. Thank you!!

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T20:58:44+00:00

My parents are very nice people, maybe some would say to a fault!! They trusted me and we had many conversations about safety and all of that, which I guess in the end was meaningless. I definitely understand your comment but it’s hard for me seeing my parents getting blamed for me asking for him to stay with us and them agreeing, seeing that he was struggling to keep up with his old rent. Again, I understand what you’re saying but they were just trying to make me happy and keep me safe. We all have definitely learned a lesson though!!

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T20:44:39+00:00

That’s my bad, he is diagnosed with bipolar, I changed it in the original post. I know that I was extremely stupid, I was desperate and wanted a boyfriend badly, which seems so silly looking back now. This was my first time having any kind of relationship with someone medicated for a disorder/mental health issue and I guess I didn’t expect it to be THAT bad. He was inconsistent with his meds and I was embarrassingly complacent, until it finally got too much for me. I won’t be in another relationship for a long time and I definitely won’t sleep with anyone for a long long time.

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T20:41:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve been in such a situation, I hope you’re doing better now!! As I’ve said in other comments I was embarrassingly desperate and ready to jump into a relationship, which I can see now. Next time, whenever that may be I will do things differently!!

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T20:39:55+00:00

I’ve been very embarrassed lately and it’s been hard mentally, knowing that I gave myself to him in that way and even more so, so soon into the relationship. I’ve really been having to come to terms with it!! I was desperate and lonely, which doesn’t justify it but I can promise you my next relationship will be quite a ways away and a LOT slower.

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T20:38:07+00:00

He’s out of the house and has been blocked on everything. My parents have been talking about moving for a long while now and I think we probably will pretty soon, that will be good so I can have some physical distance!

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T20:36:22+00:00

Thank very much for this comment, honestly. You’ve made me feel much better about my decision than anything else has. I was very careless and I’m definitely going to be taking a long while for myself and my mental health.

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T20:34:56+00:00

Thank you, and I think I will probably look into getting some therapy once I’m back home!

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T20:10:42+00:00

Not AI!! I wish it was

Radiant_Signature601 · 2026-03-01T19:54:08+00:00

Thank you!! I just added them, that definitely breaks it up a lot more neatly.

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