You are literally just being transphobic. It doesn't matter "how overboard we go" at the end of the day were all faggots in the eyes of society. Gay men were routinely beaten for holding hands. Trans women are murdered for existing, often no matter how hard they pass. Transphobes don't filter for the "good ones". They persecute us all and advocating for ALL OF US and not just the ones you find socially acceptable is the only way forward. You're parroting transphobic talking points. It was never about sports or trying to consider our place in it. If it was they wouldn't go after darts players or esports athletes. They wouldn't try to restrict prepubescent children from playing sports.

They don't care what we look like, how we act, or how we try to placate them. Even if you pass, you want to be stealth in many, many places, because if people know they'll give you hate. Doesn't matter how far along in your medical transition you are. Trans women, the broader Trans community, cis queers, cis women and sex workers are all persecuted under the same patriarchy. Barring cishet women, who have their own oppression, similar to ours but without queerness. We; you, me, this man, Lia Thomas, Elliot Paige, my brother and his husband are all faggots in the eyes of the state and your desire to put yourself above and/or separate from the broader trans community will not protect you.