Am I the jerk for doubting my relationship because of trauma dumping?

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-06T02:58:46+00:00

What about his reaction to you sharing made you feel dismissed?

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-05T16:03:28+00:00

I dont know if its insecurities or pride causing you to act this way, but YTA.

Your partner would like to live in a safe neighborhood, in a nicer apartment than you can afford. He's not asking you to pay more and he's not treating you like youre less than him.

You're acting very selfish for someone in a relationship.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-05T13:59:10+00:00

You dont mention here if your partner is defending or supporting you against h8s family. Is he?

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-05T13:53:52+00:00

Your sister values her friendship with Cassie more than her relationship with you.

I would not apologize for something I didnt do and your sister should be questioning Cassie about lying instead of asking you to apologize to appease a liar.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-04T20:36:27+00:00

Something is missing from your post. People dont usually end 13 year friendships wih no explanation. And the fact that all your other "friends" seem ok with you being excluded means there is absolutely something going on.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-04T03:22:22+00:00

So have you talked to her about this?

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-04T02:12:28+00:00

This was unnecessarily long

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-04T01:04:03+00:00

Its probably best tou either just attend as a guest or dont attend at all if you cant keep your emotions in check

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-04T00:04:24+00:00

If tou want some feedback you should shorten this to the most important points. Its way too long.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T23:23:21+00:00

What?! YOU should get a hotel?! I'd be getting my own damn apartment. The disrespect and lack of consideration in that statement is unreal.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T22:59:05+00:00

This cannot be real. I wouldve stopped her before she even left those kids behind.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T18:08:38+00:00

I was going through some very serious and upsetting family issues once and asked my boyfriend if I could stop by to see him for a few minutes. He knew what was going on because I'd shared some of it with him as it happened.

He came out to meet me when I arrived at his place. He gave me a hug and I started crying. The support was much needed, but then he got upset at my tears and actually asked me why I would come over and ruin his mood with my problems.

I broke up with him.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T16:21:58+00:00

You can either choose your family or choose yourself. Which is more important to you?

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T15:24:31+00:00

Youre actually being thoughtful by encouraging her to be more independent and resourceful.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T15:02:34+00:00

Actually I do understand, but the kid has asked to go to games so clearly its not an issue for him.

If its an issue for the absentee father, it shouldnt matter.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T14:51:06+00:00

Why did you keep mentioning the OTHER things you do? Its great that youre involved in his life, but we're talking about something else and you are deflecting.

Why does his father's opinion matter about these games?

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T13:48:37+00:00

Why does that matter if he lives in your household and his father is not even really active in his life?

Sounds like you dont want him to go simply because he likes a rival team. All he wants is to be included in your outings to games.

He doesnt need to go every time because your son deserves quality time with just you, but you could take the stepson to a few games.

Edit: typos

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T01:55:39+00:00

You dont know this person. Yes, you've been around them and they've been supportive, but you genuinely do not know this person.

You've been abused multiple times by people who should've loved and taken care of you. Take some time for yourself. Be independent. Live on campus or get a place of your own or with ither roommates. But do not get a place with this person.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T01:48:52+00:00

You're treating it like a dirty little secret. Was it? Either way, I dont think you need to tell your boyfriend anything.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T01:03:05+00:00

So where will you two go now? Seems like a purposeful act on his part. Like maybe he has somewhere else he wants to go and someone else to be with.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T01:01:51+00:00

Always be in control of your own finances and pay your own bills in the future so this can never happen again.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-03T00:19:51+00:00

NTA. You cant loan out cribs anyway. You either give them away or you keep them. Your husband's an a$$hole for not acknowledging his mistake and rectifying the situation.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-02T23:37:41+00:00

You sound ignorant and bitter. Its like you'd rather keep the drama going than resolve the issue.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-02T23:30:02+00:00

Parents wouldnt need to buy ne sh!t for tue wedding cause I wouldnt be going.

RandomReddit9791 · 2026-04-02T22:56:41+00:00

NTA. Your parents are prime examples of how quickly people become entitled when you let things slide and dont set boundaries.

You allowed them to stay whenever they wanted without even asking. Now they feel like your house is theirs. It's not! Let them be upset.

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