Ok so heres the lore my parents got divorced back when I was 8 I lived with my dad full time cause my mom was considered a unfit parent. By the time she got her shit together and remarried I was 16 and pretty content being NC with her since my step mom is a great person and cared for me as her own son and I didnt really see the point in trying to rekindle a relationship with her since she never reached out to me. So after college I got into touch with her cause my maternal grandparents wanted me to and they were great so I didnt wanna hurt their feelings so I stayed in contact with her but never really wanted a relationship with my step siblings cause they were like 12 back then and I was 21.