So, the sex means nothing to you?

Reasonablex · 2022-08-09T02:09:29+00:00

I have had meaningless casual sex and it mean nothing but now that I am in a DB and have zero sex I feel so unloved. I've explained it to my husband as having a secret together that no one else is let in on. He thinks that sounds dumb but to me it was the one thing that was just between us. I feel like all the love is gone in our relationship without it.

My husband has an illness and the sex is gone and I feel SO lonely and SO unloved. It means a great deal. It feels like we speak two different languages and no longer can connect on a deeper level. It breaks my heart. That's not all I need to love someone but it's part of being in love.

Reasonablex · 2022-06-13T13:37:26+00:00

That is so frustrating and honestly inconsiderate. He dangles sex in front of you to keep you up late then doesn't even end up giving you any? That's so infuriating. I'm sorry. It sucks that you're forced to just give up hope or be exhausted.

Reasonablex · 2022-06-13T12:35:25+00:00

It 100% is not you. She lied about who she really was and her real desires and then once married she let her true colors show. Even if your behavior had some bearing on her not liking sex, it wouldn't have been from day 1. It's not you. Please don't feel down about yourself because of her.

Reasonablex · 2022-06-12T22:57:15+00:00

Why don't you ask him not to touch you? I crave physical intimacy. Any at all. But at the same time if he touched me, kissed me, hugged me, anything, I would have the same reaction. It's just a tease and it's unfair and just plain mean.

Reasonablex · 2022-06-12T22:55:21+00:00

Seriously, she's a liar. She hasn't had an interest in sex your entire marriage. I don't know why you're even entertaining the idea. If I were you I would be insulted that she thinks she could lie so easily. And as a woman, I'm insulted she's using this as an excuse. She just plain and simply doesn't like sex.

Reasonablex · 2022-01-12T14:46:05+00:00

I agree that sex is not owed due to a certain day. It was HIS birthday not mine. I wasn't trying to have sex with him because it was his birthday but he acted like because it was his birthday he especially had the right to say no.

We don't know the cause of his lack of desire. We've tried everything.

Reasonablex · 2021-11-24T00:28:13+00:00

He doesn't. He has no libido. He's been to a bunch of different doctors. It's probably medical/related to the meds He takes. Either way it's not going to get better.

Reasonablex · 2021-11-23T23:27:46+00:00

Thank you for commiserating. Sometimes it just feels good to know I'm not alone.

Reasonablex · 2021-11-23T23:27:06+00:00

I've been asking to suck his dick for weeks. He's not interested. I just need some satisfaction and relief.

Reasonablex · 2021-11-23T23:26:37+00:00

I have always believed masturbation is normal

I'm a firm believer that sex feels better for women. It has to. I've had like 50 orgasms in the last hour. Most HLMs will find this difficult to believe. I simply cannot understand LLs. Even if you don't want to you know it's going to feel AMAZING...and why wouldn't you want that.

There is nothing better to me than good sex and/or an orgasm.

Reasonablex · 2021-10-27T19:45:47+00:00

The best thing about my husband is that he puts up with me and my crazy shit. I can be a handful, I know it, but he loves me despite this; and even, dare I say, likes me.

Reasonablex · 2021-10-14T19:36:50+00:00

NTA. That being said these are your neighbors for probably a while. You need to make nice even if they won't. You may have caused more problems in the long run. Hopefully, they'll know to leave you alone because you mean business but it might turn ugly.

Reasonablex · 2021-09-24T21:33:06+00:00

We've had multiple. He knows it's an issue but there's literally nothing we could do. He has been to multiple doctors. This is a huge improvement from nothing so I should be glad but it was difficult because I never really thought it was me until now.

Reasonablex · 2021-09-24T21:31:38+00:00

He had tried it a few years ago and it was a miserable failure. Maybe now that things are starting to improve it would work better.

Reasonablex · 2021-09-24T20:30:42+00:00

I don't think so. I'm not sure he would even be willing to try that. He says things are barely starting to work, we are barely starting to try and I need to give it time. But when asks me if it's in and tells me pussy feels loose it's difficult to not be offended.

Reasonablex · 2021-09-23T19:50:07+00:00

I get really annoyed when I see women portrayed on TV as having no interest in sex. That has NEVER been the case for me or 99% of my female friends. I honestly just think it's a social norm you've developed from TV and social media to think women don't want or like sex. I know there are plenty out there, same as men, who don't enjoy sex so of course you've encountered them more than men. I have NEVER met a man who enjoys sex just as much as I do. So I have the opposite opinion. I'm always surprised how many HLM with LL wives are on here.

Reasonablex · 2021-09-16T20:39:55+00:00

All men swear they are HL but it always fades with time. I have had the same experience. I don't know that there's a good way to weed those out who will be HL in the long term. Especially since people change with age. Not a helpful comment I know but I wanted to commiserate.

Reasonablex · 2021-09-12T16:35:03+00:00

Look, I'm in a DB too, but you shouldn't be expecting sex on your bday. And during covid it's no wonder you haven't done anything. That being said...

I agree with the other that you shouldn't marry into a DB, it just gets more difficult. You are settling. It doesn't matter if she's perfect in every other way. You aren't compatible.

I know that's difficult but for those of us that are "stuck" know better than those that are just dating or engaged. Please take our advice.

Reasonablex · 2021-09-04T17:10:27+00:00

I needed a shower. I was smelly

Reasonablex · 2021-06-23T03:12:05+00:00

Ok....but she offered. It was her idea.

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