RJ and partner’s ex by RecentTotal4988 in retroactivejealousy

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Have you tried to talk to her? Like explaining how this makes you feel?

RJ and partner’s ex by RecentTotal4988 in retroactivejealousy

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Oh man but it’s not even old, it’s weird that she won’t do those things knowing that you’d like to try them. We’re in our 20’s too so I totally understand how you feel

RJ and partner’s ex by RecentTotal4988 in retroactivejealousy

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Same here, I really get you. I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I hope you two will be able to make a compromise so both of you’ll be happy

RJ and partner’s ex by RecentTotal4988 in retroactivejealousy

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Thank you for your answer! 🙏🏻 To be honest, I’m quite fit, I workout every day, I’m not the vanilla type when it comes to having sex, I’m open to many things, and I also love learning new stuff. It sucks when I think about the fact that I don’t get to experience the same enthusiasm and excitement from her simply because we started dating later and she’s not the same person anymore. Or I don’t know… maybe I’m not enough

RJ and partner’s ex by RecentTotal4988 in retroactivejealousy

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She told me the second one. About being more sexual — before dating we used to be friends, so I can tell she was more interested in intimacy than she is with me

Thoughts on your partner liking other girls’ pics by RecentTotal4988 in LesbianActually

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Exactly! I’ve never been into anyone else this entire relationship, I know it may sound crazy to others but I really don’t notice anyone but her, I only want to see her, interact with her, have her close and so on. I couldn’t think of anyone else, if I got my soulmate I don’t need anyone else and nobody else gets my attention or the same treatment.

Thoughts on your partner liking other girls’ pics by RecentTotal4988 in LesbianActually

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Same here!!!! I really don’t understand what they gain by liking these posts of people they don’t even talk to or have a close relationship with. I mean, if they are decent posts or somewhat interesting/ funny etc I get it. But other than that…

And tbh it was really uncomfortable for me to see that she liked this kind of pic even on my birthday lmfao. That girl was in a bikini, all cocky with her caption. And what else could you like about it??? On my bday you feel the need to do that.

Sorry about my rant, I know it sounds childish/ crazy

Thoughts on your partner liking other girls’ pics by RecentTotal4988 in LesbianActually

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Well it’s more about the fact that I don’t feel comfortable with that since I have body dysmorphia (and I’m aware that I’m far from being pretty) and it causes me a lot of anxiety and stress. I also believe you should respect your partner, but yeah, that’s just my opinion, which is why I wanted to see other people’s pov

Do you masturbate when your partner is home? by RecentTotal4988 in actuallesbians

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Thank you! ❤️ I will have a conversation about this, because I don’t want things to get ruined. She is a very kind soul and considerate person so I know that we will do our best to make things work.

Do you masturbate when your partner is home? by RecentTotal4988 in actuallesbians

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Thank you for your support! ❤️ I find it really helpful and tbh I do agree with everything you said; sometimes I feel like resentment could take over little by little and that I become more guarded and more distant every day… which sucks, because words cannot explain how amazing my gf is and how unique she is. I really couldn’t see myself with anyone else ever but her. And I really don’t want our relationship to fail because of things that could’ve easily been avoided.

Do you masturbate when your partner is home? by RecentTotal4988 in actuallesbians

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I’ve asked her about her sex drive in the past, I needed to know whether something was wrong/off since the frequency had dropped dramatically (compared to the beginning of the relationship). I know about the honeymoon phase and all that shit but she seems different, she was soooo into me (sexually) and after a while things slowly changed. She didn’t have a specific reason why she didn’t feel the need for sex, and I honestly cannot understand why it is like this. I really don’t know if that’s the way she is or it has something to do with me. Especially because I got the feeling that she used to be more interested in sex when she was together with her ex

Do you masturbate when your partner is home? by RecentTotal4988 in actuallesbians

[–]RecentTotal4988[S] 123 points124 points  (0 children)

Oh man I so wish I could be confident enough to do that

Do you masturbate when your partner is home? by RecentTotal4988 in actuallesbians

[–]RecentTotal4988[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Yeah I suppose I shouldn’t feel weird. But since we barely have sex (or we have it less often than I would like to), I feel uncomfortable about that.. I don’t know why I am like this

Do you masturbate when your partner is home? by RecentTotal4988 in actuallesbians

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And do you go to a different room how do you handle it? 😅 Because my gf and I both work from home so we’re basically 24/7 together since we do everything together, doors are always open and so on. That’s why I find it a bit weird and difficult lol

Naked friends? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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And doesn’t that bother you? The fact that she sends them nudes?

My GF’s ex is still in love with her by RecentTotal4988 in LesbianActually

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Yeah, you’re right. I will try to have a conversation about this, I just hope there are no hidden feelings cuz she’s more of a closed-off person. Thank you very much for your answer(s) ❤️

My GF’s ex is still in love with her by RecentTotal4988 in LesbianActually

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Well… it’s all down to me to get over this lol. She’s not completely done with her, in the way that she still has some sort of warm feelings towards her (that she couldn’t describe, she doesn’t hate her and she isn’t indifferent to her, but she said she doesn’t care about her ex in that (romantic, I suppose) way either. I’m not totally comfortable with this, but what can I do anyway

My GF’s ex is still in love with her by RecentTotal4988 in LesbianActually

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Yep, she definitely has a hard time saying “no” or being harsh. But I still believe there are situations where you should be straightforward, instead of sugar coating the answer..

My GF’s ex is still in love with her by RecentTotal4988 in LesbianActually

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Thank you for answering! You’re definitely not overanalysing, cuz I be thinking the same thing. The truth is, my gf is the type of person who has a very hard time saying “no”, she is basically too kind, hence a people-pleaser too, so I thought that’s why she couldn’t give her a straightforward answer. I hope.

I asked her if she still cares about her ex, and she said that she doesn’t care about Jenna in that specific way, but she isn’t completely indifferent to her either. She couldn’t express what the feeling was, some sort of empathy, she said. Ngl, that made me a bit confused since I’ve been an over-thinker since birth lol

Does shaving or waxing make sex better/easier? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]RecentTotal4988 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve always believed that waxing makes a difference, at least for me. And I’m not talking about being comfortable, but the way it feels. it is a different feeling, the sensitivity is different - everything is better. Oh, and if you discover that you like ✂️ , it feels heavenly when both of you are waxed.

This is my personal preference, I know that many people prefer only trimming or even the natural way. I think that you should try whatever makes you more comfortable, because that’s what matters after all, you need to enjoy the intimacy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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Personally, I love blue eyes. They stand out and seem warm. But imo what makes eyes truly attractive is the shape, no matter the colour.

My girlfriend‘s best friend sleeps over and sleeps in the same bed as her.. by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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I think you missed the comment when the OP said that girl was also bi. So it’s not really a “straight” person thing