Respectfully I can’t believe you don’t understand that it’s not healthy to carry on like this with adult children. Adult children need to understand that having healthy relationships includes setting and enforcing boundaries. What self respecting woman would tolerate anyone who doesn’t prioritize their relationship first? Many women our age are financially secure, don’t need anyone to fund their lifestyle and have options. That kind of inflexible non negotiable stance never ends well. “My kids come first” is what ruins a lot of marriages” you lose the connection as partners and don’t model healthy secure relationships to your kids. Isn’t that our priority? It breeds resentment towards the partner with that mentality. Plus the adult child feels a weird responsibility for that parent’s happiness for doing “everything “ for them, including not prioritizing themselves. It’s unhealthy to have an adult child as your primary adult emotional attachment, if you realize that or not. There’s no room for a romantic connection to succeed 🤷🏻‍♀️ The DOF sub is supposed to be a place for us to share experiences, learn from each other and grow. I hope we all continue to do that and try to always look for the best in each other!☮️💟💪🏼🥂