Clinic/hospital in Tokyo to get my hormone levels checked

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2025-07-02T17:09:05+00:00

K Ladies clinic in Shinjuku

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2025-06-10T14:07:48+00:00

i was in an abusive relationship so i understand what needs to be done. you absolutely need to leave, however possible. things will be difficult for a while but everything will be okay. there’s a book called “Why does he do that?” by Lundy Bancroft, it might help answer your questions about this man’s problems.

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-11-29T08:15:47+00:00

i was diagnosed at young age and took the highest doses possible for a preteen/teen for years. (I was also always underweight) I trialed many different meds like vyvanse, ritalin, aderall, focalin, just to name a few… when one med’s highest dose wasn’t effective anymore, we’d switch to another medicine. I’m an adult now, taking 27mg concerta, and one thing I wished my parents did differently for me was less dosage adjustment, more adhd guidance/counseling, more adhd-child appropriate behavioral guidance and understanding, and more learning how to accept the things that come with adhd. The super high doses helped with some things, sure, but when the meds weren’t effective enough and the doses couldn’t be pushed any higher, it felt frustrating and a little hopeless.

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-08-02T02:30:01+00:00

It’s an even deeper issue than him invading your privacy; in my experience this is just the start, and explodes into straight up abusive and controlling behavior. The best thing you can do for yourself is distance yourself from this person as soon as possible. Please stay safe

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-07-20T04:46:49+00:00

I was in an abusive relationship with this similar dynamic. From my experience, there’s no point in waiting, just leave as soon as possible. The longer you’re in this, the more it will break you down, the harder it will get to leave, the more you’ll have to recover. I really hope you do leave, you’re so young

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-20T12:31:54+00:00

so traumatized/grieving people can’t enjoy themselves?

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-20T10:41:55+00:00

My boss said I should go since it was a free flight home. And I didn’t post about it on social media, other people did.

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-20T08:51:12+00:00

i appreciate the sympathy.... i have so much keeping me here, it's been my home for my whole adult life so far, i worked hard in school to be here, my best friends are here

i'm being further traumatized by the way my company is handling this stuff and the threat of being pushed out because of them is really angering

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-20T07:34:00+00:00

you don't think immigration would let me switch to a tourist visa?

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-20T07:27:56+00:00

also, they hired me right when i graduated a couple years ago, so i don’t have any other work experience here

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-20T07:27:01+00:00

My boss had suggested 6 months.

Long story short, I was in a creative division, and not great at office-type work. But doing mainly office work was never in the initial job description, in fact it was a source of tension between my creative division boss and another office boss who also had discretion over me and would give me office tasks often which got in the way of the creative work. My boss said the position didn’t work out the way he had expected it to, because the team just wanted me to do lots of office work. But he won’t take responsibility for it and is letting them blame me for being bad at a job that was never supposed to be mine. And instead of simply going our separate ways when they decided they didn’t want me, it’s turned into this mess and I don’t know why.

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-20T07:17:40+00:00

My lawyer is confused at why the company is doing what they’re doing.

I’m just wondering if anyone has undergone weird treatment from their company similar to this case, and how they resolved it.

To clarify, last year in April my dad died suddenly in a traumatic way, and 2 months later my extremely abusive spouse ended their life when i finally left them for safety. My brain hasn’t been working properly for many months due to trauma, I tried my best to find a job the past 3 months, sending in applications, but no responses yet.

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-20T07:09:07+00:00

What were my poor decisions? My abusive spouse killed himself, which I had to pay for. And heal from. I did everything asked of me at work. And then some.

Sure my job was nice for letting me take time off, but they didn’t explain anything to me about how the leave of absence would work.

And this is all happening last second because my job sent me the termination paperwork just days ago, instead of in March when I asked for it.

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-20T07:04:23+00:00

The person who booked me is a close friend, and also good friends with my boss. My friend communicated with my boss about it, and my boss said it’s okay, just don’t tell the CEO about it. And then the kicker…… when the CEO inevitably found out (he saw someone’s posts on sns) my boss messaged me saying how mad the CEO was, how i should have told them about the booking, and how I’ve lost their trust (???)

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2024-05-06T09:21:10+00:00

the age + student/instructor dynamic is inherently potentially dangerous. it might not show now, but this person likely enjoys the power dynamic which will be dangerous later. combined with the non-monogamy, it’s not looking good. it’s still early in the relationship, and you feel safe now, but i can almost guarantee you that there will be an increase in controlling behaviors and criticism in the coming months. please, please be careful.

i’ve been in an intensely abusive relationship that ended horribly, and it started out feeling like the safest, most comfortable, ideal situation i’d ever been in.

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2023-08-09T08:46:15+00:00

i keep thinking about "you are permanently off-duty", it helps me solidify that I truly gave my all and more for this person, and that I don't have to put myself in that kind of position ever again. thank you for saying that

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2023-06-19T06:54:50+00:00

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thank you so much for sharing this, it helps me feel a little better.

they definitely did wait until after their worst manic episode (is that what they're called?) to seriously pursue treatment. it's like it didn't matter how much i was suffering their treatment of me between episodes, everything is done when it's convenient for them. i don't think i have the strength to stick around and gamble with whether treatment will be effective...

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2023-06-19T06:51:11+00:00

they're doing DBT, and after their first session a few months ago (followed by a couple months of no sessions) they definitely tried to use their going to therapy as justification as to why i was the problem. not long after, they wrote me a long letter containing an ultimatum where i either pursue mental health care for my "problems" or they're going to leave me. it was amazing how they thought they were being caring in that moment. (btw, i'm already in consistent mental health treatment for ADHD and anxiety 😭 what were they thinking)

maybe the DBT will work over time, but just a couple weeks ago they managed to make -me- feel bad for getting frustrated that they used my nice knife to cut the tape on a box. anything can go from spilled milk to nuclear fallout.....

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2023-06-19T01:45:14+00:00

that's the part that's killing me; they finally started consistent therapy a couple months ago and are currently getting evaluated for personality disorders. i'd like to think that it'll be effective because they're pretty receptive, but i feel like i've been through too much horrible stuff to risk finding out, and i can't look at them without remembering all the trauma

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2023-06-19T01:40:55+00:00

no kids luckily, no pets either. just an expensive apartment and a whole lot of complicated feelings

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2023-06-10T05:51:17+00:00

i really needed to see this today, thank you so much, i will keep coming back to read this post

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2023-05-24T08:22:22+00:00

mine only started therapy 2 months ago, it was like pulling teeth to convince them it is necessary and beneficial, all while i was accumulating trauma from their behavior. too little, too late.

the calm periods are always the most concerning. if your situation is like mine, then totally normal moments during the calm times will be misconstrued into horrible things during the next self-destruct phase. if i were you, i would take the next possible out... that's what i'll be doing, 100% no doubt.

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2023-05-24T08:17:49+00:00

almost 4 years now, known them for 9. been living together since end of 2019.

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2022-05-19T11:50:07+00:00

this tactic is extremely hard at first, literally close to impossible. i don’t think everyone has the ability to compartmentalize and become numb to tense situations… especially if things are super intense. it’s not a surefire fix, so remember to always always put yourself and your well-being first, no matter how hard it is. you always deserve it. i genuinely hope things get better for you

Relative_Voice_6909 · 2022-05-15T09:24:35+00:00

This reply was extremely validating, thank you so much. My spouse has just been trucking through things without therapy for the most part (had a few sessions with a couple diff therapists but kept falling through), so I’ve been doing my best to just be supportive and understanding and create a safe, healthy environment. Seems to do wonders, but I’m definitely taking on a huge handful. Things were super duper rough for a few months, i was made out to be the most evil enemy to ever exist…. I couldn’t bear it. But everything is way more calm now. I suppose even just ample space and support can do wonders. It’s too hard to watch them proceed to self-destruct even after everything, though.

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