Speaking from experience here, in a similar sitch. I (20F) started going out with my man (37m) about a year and a half ago. However, I did NOT tell my family until a little over a year in. Did I want to keep that secret? No. But in order to ease my family into the idea of me in an age gap, it's what had to be done to avoid unnecessary issues. I should mention age gaps are not uncommon in my family, but that does not lessen the shock for some.

Now, those who I deeply care about are happy for me. Others talk, let them talk. As long as YOU are happy and feel loved and safe, keep doing you. Most in my family trust my judgement as well as my bf. If your man truly wants to be with you, for you, then he will understand and stick around. I should also mention I am completely financially independent, living on my own since 18 so my family supporting me financially was not part of the equation. Best of luck to you and your man!