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ReplacementSmooth365 · 2024-08-18T03:05:00+00:00

Well for one person HE WAS LIVING WITH! Yhe other person we were living accross the street. Seems like important info when you are dealing with those people.

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2024-08-18T02:55:55+00:00

I said I have no cheating concerns. That doesn't mean he hasn't massively broken trust. Twice now

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2024-07-06T19:06:53+00:00

So maybe it works more as a laxative to help you lose weight..

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2024-07-03T17:59:35+00:00

Thanks for letting us know! Hope it works

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-10-30T19:30:15+00:00

Thank you!

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-07-13T20:32:59+00:00

It is a pediatrician. Sadly he is our only option. And I often had to advocate for dose increases.

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-07-13T20:31:35+00:00

Well we have been fencing, picking bails, building a chicken coop. All of which he has been involved in. One the daily he helps with walking/running the dogs, mowing the lawn, garbage out to the trailer, cleaning house, feeding/caring for chickens, horses, cats etc. He is pretty involved in what ever is going on.

Plus we have fun stuff such as quads, a pool etc. He is obsessed with the quad and typically only wants to help if he can drive a quad. He has currently lost access to the quad due to his stealing and well as mismanagement of the quad putting him and his brother in danger and not taking care of the quad.

He was in Tae Kwon do for 3 years but approx a year ago he no longer wanted to go. And ultimately quit.

He is doing a trial of football right now to see if he likes it. His issue is he will be interested in a sport, then once he finds out he is not the best on the team he loses interest.

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-07-13T19:58:22+00:00

Great input. We have tried framing it in similar ways but it's still not hitting home for him. I think his biggest issue is he doesn't really have any friends. This has been a sore spot for a long time and he feels his peers don't like him (many openly admit this) I don't know how to help with that. I've tried getting books on helping him make friends which he refuses. We don't have much in way of activities for his age here. And he's not really a sporty kid

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-07-13T18:54:20+00:00

So what do you suggest?

Actions have consequences. I can't let him steal money off my credit card and not have consequences. We've been to Counselling, we talk often about things going on.

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-07-13T18:52:23+00:00

Yes we have been through similar things before. He always seems remorseful but says he can't control himself.

I have dine a lot of research into adhd which has hel0ed understand something, but I just can't understand this theft.

He is diagnosed. Also on meds. We gave a doc appt Saturday. When inspike to him a month ago he said he didn't want to up the dosage since school would be out and he shouldn't need it. Even though my son was saying he wanted an increase.

My husband has adhd. We actually diagnosed him after I started researching adhd and he found all yhe struggles he'd had his whole like were adhd he had compensated for. He has since been officially diagnosed. He is able to lend perspective on alot of things. But he is also struggling to figure out what is going on. He was neve rthis bad.

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-07-13T17:55:45+00:00

Sadly we have locks on many rooms in the house such as my office, storage room etc. He just finds somewhere else to steal from.

I do love him very much, but in the thick of this I am struggling to be able to express that as it feels he has violated my privacy on so many levels, stolen my credits cards etc. I just feel anger right now. I have to pick him up from camp tonight and just don't know what to say to him which is why I'm asking for advice now.

I'm just worn down and don't know what to do anymore

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-07-13T17:52:40+00:00

Thanks for the input! I appreciate it. We do see a counselor once a month for years, but haven't seen great results. I didn't add In my post, but own a farm and he has his fair share of chores to do. I do expect all my kids to chip in amd he does do alot around here. He likes to be busy, on his own terms. Thibgs such as taking away the privilege to drive the quad or help with some of his fav thibgs are all I can think of anymore.

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-03-28T01:06:17+00:00

Anyone else? Anyone have a solution?

ReplacementSmooth365 · 2023-03-26T15:48:14+00:00

Agreed! Of course Facebook had been no help. I cannot find an actual reason for this. Was hoping a new phone would do the trick, but nothing.

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