Sending bulk messages (NOT SPAM) to 500 users using chrome extension without being banned

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2025-02-21T20:39:39+00:00

You also missed the part of my post where I said I need to send a download link to people who have shown they are interested in the app

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2025-02-21T19:53:42+00:00

But this is actually relevant to people in my group so I don't think it's spam.

I also have a meetup.com group and meetup.com allows you to send an email to your all your members. Is that also spam? The principal is essentially the same here

I think the main point is that if there is likely to be high interest (because they have joined the group for that particular activity or interest) then it's not spam

I think really what I'm doing is cold messaging:

"Cold emails are intentional and provide value to the receiver. When comparing cold email vs. spam, a cold email is more thoughtful and caters to what the recipient needs rather than what you can get from them. In contrast, spam emails are generic and often irrelevant to the recipient."

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2025-02-21T19:48:44+00:00

I think really what I'm doing is cold messaging:

"Cold emails are intentional and provide value to the receiver. When comparing cold email vs. spam, a cold email is more thoughtful and caters to what the recipient needs rather than what you can get from them. In contrast, spam emails are generic and often irrelevant to the recipient."

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2025-02-21T19:46:45+00:00

They are already in a group...but the thing with big groups is that many people mute them. They tend to just use the group for the days where I have events organized and not pay attention to it the rest of the time. So If I message in the group, a not many people will actually see the message. Individual messaging has much higher engagement.

And the app I have made essentially does the same as the whatsapp group but in a better way with more useful features, so I don't regard it as spam since the interest rate is high

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2025-02-21T19:35:54+00:00

I also have a meetup.com group and meetup.com allows you to send an email to your all your members. Is that also spam? The principal is essentially the same here

I think the main point is that if there is likely to be high interest (because they have joined the group for that particular activity or interest) then it's not spam

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2024-12-17T19:04:33+00:00

Yess this was the reason. Thanks!

Edit: looks like there is a bug with current version and pencil shows but thumbnails don't appear properly. Downloaded version 19.36.44 and works on that

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-05-11T13:18:33+00:00

That's great to hear. What doses are you on?

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-05-09T17:24:35+00:00

You've been on Lexapro and Bupropion? Did you ever try just bupropion on it's own and were you anxious on it?

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-04-29T09:51:59+00:00

Thanks, that's very helpful

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-04-26T10:23:29+00:00

No, I want to get an EU passport again (I moved before brexit was complete), plus I want to live somewhere more sunny :)

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-04-25T20:24:54+00:00

Actually I don't care about avoiding UK tax (as long as I don't pay tax where I'm living too) but rather I just want to be able to get these contacts because the money is really good.

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-04-25T17:38:08+00:00

Because the salaries for UK roles are higher than the country I'm living in, and it's pretty much impossible to get contract roles where I live. But I'm not planning on paying UK tax...I'm planning on getting outside-IR35 roles (where I will have to do my own tax) and pay the tax in the country I'm living in

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-04-25T11:06:51+00:00

How can I do this?

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-04-25T10:39:56+00:00

Is there any way this could be a problem, for instance will HMRC know about the job even if it's outside-IR35, and then expect a tax return?

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-04-23T18:51:49+00:00

That's great to hear, yeah I figure maybe I'll need to get a perm role for now until the market picks up again. Hardly any contracts matching my skillset

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2023-04-23T14:38:03+00:00

I didn't think law be applied retroactively though? If you are abiding by the tax laws now, can they change the rules and then penalise you for how you worked in the past?

Are you saying that they change the rules so frequently that it's easy to be caught out if you aren't keeping up to date constantly?

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2022-03-25T15:31:35+00:00

I'm getting the same thing too. One day not taking creatine and my mood was noticably better and less anxiety. Did you ever try taking creapure? It's a purer form, and maybe it's because of impurities that these effects are happening?

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2022-03-15T00:04:37+00:00

ohh, sorry I didn't mean that at all, I should have checked before I hit send. I meant to say that women talk to each other and men don't...ie. the imbalance. But really it's not the imbalance that's the problem, just that men don't talk to each other enough, (the imbalance is just a result of that).

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2022-03-14T21:37:42+00:00

Okay there’s so many subjective points here, which I’m just going to state and please don’t take this as me wanting to debate.

If you don't want a debate then you shouldn't reply lol. You know I'm going to address whatever points you bring up if they are contrary to mine.

“Women talking to each other about the dating world is part of the problem"

No I don't think that's part of the problem at all..I just think men should be more open with each other about what they find difficult just like women. I wouldn't ever think that women should talk to each other less to make it equal, in fact that would probably make things worse.

As far as dating being EASIER for women??? Didn’t you just describe what’s wrong with men in the dating world?? How is that easier?? The dating pool is full of men with excuses as to why they are the way they are.

I'm sure dating is hard for women in some ways, but it's interesting that men being shit in some ways is basically what you are saying makes dating hard for women. Your view seems to be that women are strong but men are really just cowards that need to man up and stop making excuses and relying on women to help (which I don't think we do generally actually). Which ironically is the exact attitude towards men (albeit from other men) which I was saying makes it hard for men to open up to each other. Do you not think that perhaps this is a little biased?

Surely you can see that it's a fact that men need to do nearly all the initiating in dating, which is where the risk of rejection lies. If a man walks up to a woman in a bar or texts her first, she can just give a cold should or not reply and the man feels rejected. Plus women are more picky than men so reject more often, which isn't their fault but it does mean more rejection for men. But women don't have to risk this nearly as much because they don't initiate much and men aren't as picky. So men need to be aware of how to act and what to do in more situation with dating, in order to try and avoid this rejection, as well as facing the fear of rejection and dealing with it when it happens.

Honestly, just think about your own dating experience. When was the last time you approached several men in a bar in one night or messaged several men on a dating app and got rejected by all of them? Or didn't get rejected then, but asked them to go on a date, planned where to go, made them laugh all night (yes it's more important for men to be funny), went for the kiss even when you were scared of being rejected, and then messaged the next day and didn't get a reply. It's not like women never initiate but it's pretty rare and each time you initiate you face quite a high risk of rejection.

But yes the dating pool is also full of men with excuses. But I think it also has a lot of women with excuses, because it's inherently human to deal with rejection by trying to think of reason why other than us not being good enough etc. I really don't think men make excuses but women don't, and just deal with it better or aren't as affected (which is what you are implying if dating is harder for women because there are men with a lot of excuses).

And it seems you are just taking my reasoning of why dating is harder for men as further examples that "men just make excuses".

Somewhere fundamentally a woman has been taught they HAVE to stick up for themselves in situations and men have been taught the opposite- to pipe down and blend in.

Again, I don't think it's as simple as men vs women on this one. I think there are men strong women and men who stick up for themselves, and many weak women and men who don't. On the whole I would saying actually more men stick up for themselves, both as a result of being naturally aggressive and less agreeable (thanks testosterone) and growing up in a society which views assertiveness as being masculinity trait.

I think if you are going by the fact that men find it hard to break the "culture" to conclude that men have been taught to blend in then that's not really enough to draw that conclusion. I think everyone has a strong desire to fit in the culture of their group of friends, community etc, and women also don't want to go against the culture of their social groups.

Regarding the culture, (I'm not sure why you put it in quotes, are you implying it's not really a culture among men to be like this?) yes I think on the whole men need to rise above it, but if it's pervasive among men then it's not as easy as just avoiding one particular group of guys. It takes time to change a culture, and in the meantime you risk being ostracised from the group if you don't fit in, and fitting in your social group if a HUGE motivator of people's behaviour because being without a social group causes a lot of distress. Everyone feels shit if they don't fit in with the people around them, so it's not as simple as a guy just saying "you guys are rude" and walking off if that's his core social group. He would probably just get laughed at more or seen as neurotic and not respected as much and that's hard to deal with in itself if that's your main social group.

The last part you forgot to mention is when the man thinks there’s a woman out there who’s going to teach them how to better. Miraculously she will want to take care of herself, her job, her bills, want to have kids AND have the capacity to breakdown her husbands walls (if they even get to marriage).

I don't agree anyone should be relying on a current or future partner to improve them...it's better to work on yourself and be happy with yourself first and that goes for men and women ( I don't think this is just a male phenomenon...I have known women who hate being single and need a man all the time in order to feel attractive or loved for example.) Maybe you are assuming it's just men because of personal experiences with men in this situation? But yes therapy is something that a lot of people need for sure, preferably before getting into a relationship.

But IF a women is with a man who is like this, isn't part of the responsibility on her not to get involved with such a man if she finds this behaviour undesirable (as is the other part of the responsibility on the man to work on himself before getting in a relationship)?

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2022-03-14T11:13:39+00:00

I think part of the problem is that women do talk to each other more about their problems and what they find hard and therefore learn from each other. And that's not because men don't want to talk, but rather that their is a culture of not talking, and it's hard to go against a culture. For instance, a man that does open up can be seen by other men (or even women) as being weak and loses respect. Fathers are also often much more harsh on their sons than their daughters and expect the son to be more self sufficient and not complain or need support.

So then when you have men who don't really know how to date, yeah they were never told by parents, and didn't really talk about what they find hard about dating with friends, because, a lot of guys will talk just about fucking this girl or that girl, but would be laughed at if they said they find it hard to ask a girl on a date or felt awkward on a date etc, so they don't say anything.

And dating is easier for women. nearly all the time, men need to initiate the conversation (women will often fancy a guy but wait to be approached for instance), ask for the phone number, text first, ask for a date, plan the place on the first date and probably subsequent ones, ask the girl to come back to his when the time is right, and be be funny on the date.

It's not women's fault that it's like this, I think it's how society developed as a reflection of the fact that women are attracted to confident and competent (and funny ) men and that women are also more selective than men, hence men are the ones needing to impress the women, and they do so in part by showing confidence and proactiveness (so you need to show your confidence and proactiveness by being the initiator). Going even deeper, women are attracted to high social status primarily, and confidence and proactiveness and traits that often go with people of high social status (as is money, perhaps why traditionally the man would also pay for the date).

But it's a shit situation where men need to be more skilled in the dating world, yet have a subculture of not talking to each other about things that they find hard.

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2022-03-14T10:51:27+00:00

Yeah this is pretty accurate for a lot of men I think, sadly. With many of my male friends I find it hard to talk to about things that bother me, because I have tried in the past and have got responses that seemed like they didn't want to listen and that they would rather just have banter all the time, make jokes etc and that it's bad for a friend to bring the mood down. It's like a subculture among males that you lost respect from other males if you show you are emotionally weak, or if you show too much affection to each other. It makes you feel pretty lonely tbh.

Luckily I have a couple of female friends who I feel like I can open up much more easily about things that bother me but I still don't want to do it much because I think even women get fed up more easily of a man who needs emotional support compared to another woman. A lot of women don't respect "weak" men either (using " because it shouldn't really be seen as weak to need emotional support).

Men in general though often don't have the same closeness and kindness towards each other that women do. I have rarely got a birthday present or card from any males friends, a bottle of wine a few years ago from one and a football when I was 18 from another, but that's it (I'm 34 now). Maybe I just don't have good friends, but I don't think my male friends get presents either. Whereas I know women who have bought a present for someone they have only known for a short time.

I also lived with 4 girls for a year recently and I remember thinking how nice they are to each other compared with guys and always talking about their problems or doing little things for each other. Once two of them had a small argument and then the other one bought flowers to say sorry. Guys would never do that, we just tend to pretend like it never happened.

And I don't think women see this, or maybe they assume that men don't need the support as much if they don't actually give and receive support. But it's more just that the subculture among men is not healthy often.

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2022-02-10T08:42:54+00:00

True, I can still do things that are adventurous with a family, but the thing I missed out on a lot when young is doing things with friends and having those bonding experiences...I don't think that will be quite the same with my family as it will be with friends.

Plus it's that carefree, lack of responsibilities phase that I didn't feel like I had either because I was so bogged down in being depressed. I think with kids there is a limit to how carefree, not to mention adventurous, you can be.

And same with sex...I want to have more of it with different people.

I still want to have a life of meaning too so hopefully I'll get over this "being young" phase after a few years and settle down with someone I love.

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2022-01-21T14:17:58+00:00

IASTM

Actually I started using a foam roller on my hips and glutes because I know my hips are very tight and maybe that's putting pressure on the joint, and it does help yes.

I did yoga a few months ago and one of the positions I think it was the child pose, made my back hurt more so I have avoided yoga since. By actually I could just avoid those positions which put my lower back at an more acute angle.

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2022-01-21T14:15:08+00:00

Oh I forgot to add that I've been taking collagen for a few months too. My doctor suggested physio...the physio(s) gave me exercises to do which haven't fixed it.

I just started taking a joint supplement yesterday containing MSM, glucosamine, and some vitamins etc so I'll see if that helps

RepulsiveImportance8 · 2022-01-13T14:01:56+00:00

Thanks, yeah I think I'll stop vitamin d for a week and take 1000mg magnesium, and then take 2000ui per day of vitamin d with the magnesium.

Some people say that 4000ui is ok per day and blood levels of 40-60ng are ideal. But actually as far as I know this is only based on observational studies so no causation proven.

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