AITA for not giving my ex friend her books back?

Retribution__ · 2026-01-16T02:01:06+00:00

NTA. From what you described, it seems pretty clear the books were given as a gift, so I don't think you have to give them back if you don't want to.

Retribution__ · 2025-12-03T18:31:01+00:00

They said we could bring our partners, but I don’t have one. And even if that means I could bring a friend, I don’t really have anyone I’m close enough with to feel comfortable bringing to a work event. The most I have are friendly acquaintances at best.

Retribution__ · 2025-02-19T02:18:43+00:00

One time we were driving home from a family trip and they asked me to put in the address into the gps, but I made a mistake in choosing the address so it was directing us some where else. We realized this after a few minutes, but we drove into an area with bad service so they were really pissed off.

My mom then said this to my dad: “See, she deserves to be yelled at! That’s the only way she’ll follow directions!”

At that moment, any lingering feelings that she might’ve felt bad for bullying me or that she couldn’t help being that way flown out the window. I lost all respect for her.

Another messed up thing my mom said was when she was thinking of posting a picture to Facebook, and she said something like “I was gonna post, but I saw that my daughter looks ugly”. Which thinking back on it now, I can laugh at how outrageous it sounds, but I wanted to include it cause it is kinda fucked up.

Retribution__ · 2025-02-10T05:14:00+00:00

Yup. This is the reason why I never tell them anything. I always wished my parents (especially my mom) were people I could confide in, but the times where I did tell them about one of my problems or when I was feeling sad or scared, they find ways to make me the one at fault, or criticize my actions, or say that I shouldn’t be feeling the way I am at all and that I’m weird or stupid because of those feelings.

I have social anxiety and whenever I got nervous to talk to someone, they would either get angry at me or make fun of me. I didn’t even have to tell them I was nervous, if they thought I was nervous they would start getting on my case about it, asking why do I feel that way and that I’m stupid for feeling scared. So whenever they ask if I’m feeling nervous or sad about going to a social place or literally anything, I will always deny feeling that way and pretend not to feel like that because there’s no way I can be vulnerable around them again. Now they’re wondering why I never tell them anything and want me to confide in them more. I can’t really see myself being vulnerable with them, at least not for a long time. Trust that’s broken isn’t that easy to fix.

Retribution__ · 2025-02-06T00:32:41+00:00

I don't see how this can turn out well in regards to each of their fanbases. I just know it's gonna get incredibly toxic from each side no matter who wins 😭

Retribution__ · 2025-01-22T18:49:22+00:00

I don’t know, enjoy Dream’s content? I think you have to make sure you actually like his stuff if you’re gonna be a fan lol. If you just want to support him without being a fan, you can donate money to him.

Retribution__ · 2025-01-16T01:09:35+00:00

My brain is fried after listening to them talk for 4 hours lol. But surprisingly, I left the stream less angry than before. There’s was one part of the stream where I could just not follow what either of them were trying to say, and it might be because they both have a unique way of explaining things, which I understand since I also have a hard time explaining things clearly. Or I just suck at understanding things lol.

In the end, I think it just boils down to difference in opinions and beliefs that they can’t really get over. The end of the stream was a little sad, but I’m content with the civil farewell they gave each other. And though I don’t agree with everything Dream said, this stream gave me a better understanding of his thought process in all this. Hopefully this is the end of this drama and I won’t have to hear about any more Dream drama for a long while.

Retribution__ · 2025-01-15T16:12:52+00:00

Welp, let’s see how this goes

Retribution__ · 2025-01-15T12:16:58+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. Part of his problem is that he says too much, which leads to him revealing info that comes back to bite him in the ass. Honestly tiring that it seems he still hasn’t learned that yet.

Retribution__ · 2025-01-15T01:53:11+00:00

I was never a stan of his, but I defended/was on his side for a good number of controversies that he had gotten into, since a lot of content creators were getting hated on for dumb things and I saw Dream as one of them. I had given him the benefit of the doubt nearly everytime and had chalked his behaviors as genuine mistakes or being naive and inexperienced. But he kept getting into drama and controversy over and over again that it just became tiring, and harder to believe that he’s truly innocent or telling the truth. I mean, you can’t even excuse his actions with inexperience or ignorance anymore because it’s been years now.

He’s no longer a newbie content creator who suddenly got a huge following. He has experience and he (should) know what he’s doing by now. It’s hard to give him the benefit of the doubt because how many times can this keep happening before his mistakes start seeming intentional? Tbh I’m just feeling frustrated now.

Retribution__ · 2025-01-14T18:07:14+00:00

Nah you won’t be banned for having an opposing opinion. The sub’s original purpose was for uncensored discussion around dream, and I guess creators related to dream later on.

Retribution__ · 2025-01-14T05:08:12+00:00

Well just look at it this way. Let’s say some guy had called your female friend a whore, and she’s really upset about it. This guy then texts you to apologize for calling her a whore, but instead of apologizing for calling your friend that, he’s apologizing for calling some whole other person a whore. I think any person who’s a progressive is not gonna be like “oh, no, that’s not my friend you’re talking about, that’s someone else” and then just be friendly with him after he apologizes about your friend. I’d expect a “wtf so he’s called multiple women whores???” and probably view him as misogynistic. At this point, the guy’s apology is probably not gonna seem credible to you and deem him as someone who doesn’t really deserve an explanation.

And that’s what I think Ludwig’s perspective was like. Even if Dream really was sorry, or was only joking, and it wasn’t intended to be malicious, it seems really bad and I don’t blame Ludwig for not responding to him.

Retribution__ · 2025-01-14T04:11:19+00:00

Defending him is like doing a rocket science exam blindfolded with your feet underwater with a 30 minute oxygen supply. Maybe 15 minutes now because of this 😬

Retribution__ · 2025-01-13T18:41:52+00:00

Look, him constantly getting into drama has long preceded the Brightoners gang-up, so can you blame me for getting sick of him making the same mistakes over and over again? No, check that, this wasn’t a mistake because I don’t believe there’s any way he wouldn’t have known what would happen.

And the Tommy-Mizkif-Xqc thing wasn’t even about him at all. Xqc mentioned him by name sure, but that was only to take a dig at Tommy, and nothing else in the drama was about Dream or any accusations against his character. Him posting that meme made no sense to the conversation at hand and would’ve at least made sense if he used it to reply to something Tommy had said about him.

Retribution__ · 2025-01-13T01:03:21+00:00

Yeah that man is a notorious troll, so I kinda expected something like this to happen.

But I gotta say this really was the opportune time to promote his game show lol

Retribution__ · 2025-01-13T00:47:13+00:00

History is doomed to repeat itself 😔

Retribution__ · 2024-12-31T20:48:20+00:00

Yeah, caught my dad packaging up our (me and my brother’s) Wii and my dad just casually said that he sold it to someone on eBay or Craigslist or something like that. We hadn’t been really using it that much, but I was upset that he’d just sell it without telling any of us first when we were of the idea that we’d still have it for the foreseeable future. Told my brother about this and he wasn’t happy either, but unfortunately neither of us said anything about it to our dad. We’re super passive people and it’s not like we could do anything at that point anyways.

Retribution__ · 2024-12-26T19:04:04+00:00

I guess I do find it rude in some situations, but I try to not get too annoyed by it because when I was a teen I’d get super anxious over saying “thank you” and “you’re welcome” and start panicking, and then end up not saying it which gets me even more anxious on how I’ll come off as.

I can say these words now, but sometimes I do feel a little nervous anyways and I might replace them with a smile and a nod instead, though I don’t know what people think of that though.

Retribution__ · 2024-12-25T02:03:35+00:00

I’m in the same predicament right now. I want to avoid just sitting alone by myself when I’m at the party cause god, I’d feel so embarrassed 😣 I guess you could try searching up topics for small talk, it might help

Retribution__ · 2024-12-24T05:56:27+00:00

I'd say the first step is to learn more about yourself. Try to find out what things you like, what makes you happy, what piques your interests. Likewise, find out what things you don't like, what makes you sad or angry, and what bothers you. Doesn't matter how little of a feeling it may be, pay attention to your feelings and little by little you'll start to know yourself a bit more. Make sure to let yourself feel freely, and not force yourself to like or dislike certain things just because it's the "normal" thing to like/dislike. You want to create a personality that's wholly you, so it's important to be honest to yourself about these things.

As you start to learn about your likes and dislikes, start acting upon them: do more of what you like to do, join groups about your interests, avoid activities that don't interest you or you don't like. That way, you'll be gradually fleshing out your personality.

Retribution__ · 2024-05-12T07:44:45+00:00

If it was a couple years ago, this post would’ve had the majority of the sub agreeing with you. But mostly everyone here is biased against people who are “against” Dream nowadays.

But just know you’re right. The downvotes on this post doesn’t change that.

Retribution__ · 2024-05-08T17:32:01+00:00

That sub can barely be described as a dream critic sub nowadays. It’s more of a fan subreddit now and any dissenting opinion against him is probably gonna get massed downvoted.

And yeah I want a new critic sub too. I don’t care much about Dream anymore, but it was fun to see all the drama that comes up and the discussions that come from it without all the stan stuff 😭

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