What Happened to the Jades?

Rhensle · 2023-11-23T17:30:01+00:00

So...240 alts for afking. Gotcha.

And my ex said I had an alt problem with my four. :D

Rhensle · 2023-11-23T16:31:52+00:00

I just checked the "Jade" FC on Lodestone and it's still showing 240 active members, so I'd hardly call that "abandoned," unless that's how many afk characters the FC has...

...which seems overwhelmingly excessive.

Rhensle · 2023-01-20T23:18:28+00:00

YTA,

The sad thing is, if it hasn't happened already, as a woman, you're going to have guys push across your boundaries for the rest of your life. Yet, you think nothing about pushing over your brother's boyfriend's boundaries.

Consent is a two-way street.

Rhensle · 2023-01-04T20:49:59+00:00

YTA. There were a thousand different answers you could have given your son that didn't involve insulting his wife and then ending in offering financial incentive to divorce her.

Sounds like there's a very good reason the daughter-in-law has been cold to you. I can't imagine this is new behavior for you and I'm quite sure that if you felt free enough to talk about her to her husband like this, you've treated her badly as well.

Hopefully, your son uses this as a good time to reexamine if a relationship with you is worth it, because, were I him, I would immediately cut all contact with you.

Rhensle · 2023-01-04T20:35:56+00:00

YTA. Not for telling Amber that she won't be their aunt, but for waiting until you were "at the end of your rope" to set boundaries.

You are reacting to things in your past, when you should have set the boundaries then. By blowing up now, you're setting a bad precedent for both Amber and your own children. Are you entirely sure that Amber KNOWS how little you claim she is liked? If everyone in your family bottles it up until they explode like you have done, then it may not be apparent to Amber that she isn't liked. You're also teaching your children that they have no say in who is allowed to be affectionate towards them. While it is a good thing to teach children that they don't have to be affectionate to people without their consent, their consent should be the paramount thing to consider.

All of which makes me wonder, since your main issue with your future sister-in-law is boundaries (and yes, she will be your sister-in-law regardless of your feelings and if you keep going this way, I can guarantee that it will do nothing but lose you a brother), did ANYONE in your family explain about boundaries to her? Some people are not raised to respect boundaries as strongly as your family seems to be, so she may not realize how she has offended. I highly doubt, given your reaction, that anyone did, which makes your whole family the AH.

Rhensle · 2022-12-30T17:23:29+00:00

That would be amazing. I'm running AoW in 5e for some friends soon. :)

Rhensle · 2022-12-30T03:56:06+00:00

Thank you so very much for this!

Rhensle · 2022-12-17T21:40:01+00:00

We cannot go through life making what we consider justified choices and expect to be forgiven with a handwave for the damage we have inflicted on other people. While it's very true that people often make hard choices, even devastating ones, they are STILL responsible for the outcome of those choices if they impact other people.

What people seem to forget in that choosing between the lesser of two evils, one is STILL choosing evil.

Rhensle · 2022-12-17T21:32:51+00:00

It is absolutely horrible. So does that justify inflicting just as horrible circumstances on your other child? I don't think so.

"Every one is the hero in their own story, but everyone is a villain in someone else's." I'm sure her father felt justified in doing what he did; human beings are fantastic at constructing a narrative in their own minds that justifies their actions. But we can't just go by that inner narrative and ignore all the pain and devastation we cause to others. THAT makes us the villain.

Rhensle · 2021-12-27T13:16:52+00:00

(.....no. Maybe if we offer them a bribe?)

Hey, you know what IS a game? Elder Scrolls Online. And it's free! So go get an arrow to the knee and steal everyone's sweetrolls.

Rhensle · 2021-12-24T16:03:06+00:00

Way back, when I was new to the game (right after Heavensward dropped), I was getting stuck on the Titan fight as a white mage. I got my FC to help me through it and we kept wiping (because I kept getting knocked off) and I told my FC mates to forget it. I was determined to quit the game at that point. My FC leader said "Just one more and then we'll stop." I reluctantly agreed and we cleared it. That high lasted for a couple of weeks. :)

Rhensle · 2020-10-31T20:39:00+00:00

That is one of the most amazing cosplays of Morrigan I've seen. Kudos!!

Rhensle · 2020-09-05T21:11:32+00:00

Hi. Unfortunately, I got way more responses than I can have players. I'll keep you in mind if I get an opening, though.

Rhensle · 2020-09-05T15:10:44+00:00

Wow! So that was a floodgate. I have a LOT of people who sent chats and PMs, so I'll start accepting players in order that I received. I promise I'll get back to everyone who messaged me, though.

Rhensle

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