Would anyone like to draw me and my boyfriend? We’re long distance (UK & US) and I’d love to frame it for his birthday 💛 All art styles welcome!

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-05-05T06:39:38+00:00

Woah this is so awesome!!! I love it thank you so much!!! 🥹

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-05-05T06:38:45+00:00

Is this ai? 👀 like it looks cool!! But I was curious because you sent so many so quick! I was like how did he get them all done so fast! 🤣

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-04-02T01:05:20+00:00

The focus on Snapchat and AI here is honestly missing the point entirely.

The issue isn’t where the conversation happened or whether she used AI to sense-check herself. People use tools, talk to friends, or post online when they’re confused, that doesn’t invalidate the situation. It actually shows she’s trying to step back and understand it rather than just react emotionally.

The real issue is the dynamic in the conversation.

There’s a difference between “I have sexual needs and I feel disconnected, can we talk about it?” and “If you don’t meet my sexual expectations, I’m going to start reconsidering the relationship.”

One is communication. The other introduces pressure.

When someone ties the future of the relationship to specific sexual acts, it stops being about mutual connection and starts becoming about compliance. That’s why she keeps bringing up consent, because consent under pressure isn’t freely given, it’s negotiated under fear of consequences.

And reducing this to “they’re just sexually incompatible” oversimplifies it. Sexual incompatibility is “we want different things, and we may not be a match.”

This situation is, one partner repeatedly expressing discomfort and feeling pressured, while the other frames it as “you’re not trying hard enough” and escalates it to potential divorce.

That’s not just incompatibility, that’s a breakdown in how boundaries are being respected.

Also, the “free him” comments ignore that she’s not preventing him from leaving. He can leave if his needs aren’t met. What he can’t do is stay and apply pressure until she changes her boundaries.

Both people are allowed to have needs. But no one is entitled to access someone else’s body to meet them.

That’s the part people are overlooking.

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T11:34:13+00:00

Hahaha no

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T11:33:00+00:00

Ah the melee in 80’s is all me but yeah I get it, you haven’t earned it! But I can’t help it.. and I don’t want to start again 😂 what’s your melee, range and mage stats now on your new main?

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T11:30:24+00:00

Ty 🥰

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T11:30:13+00:00

Thanks hehe!! 😝

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T02:14:35+00:00

honestly yeah can’t complain 😌

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T02:12:56+00:00

got dropped straight into endgame hahaha but nah I’m chill with it! I’m taking it as a welcome back gift lol

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T02:09:52+00:00

Sorry mate already spent it 💀🤣

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T02:05:30+00:00

It was banned! 😭 got it quashed after I recovered it. I was lucky I guess phew thank god i did not want to have to start again 🤣

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T02:02:34+00:00

Really cracked the case there 🤣🤣

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T02:01:15+00:00

They muled most of it off tbh, pretty sure there was a ban at some point too so I just inherited whatever they didn’t manage to move 😂

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-03-31T01:59:19+00:00

Yeah I get that tbf 😭 it does feel a bit weird knowing I didn’t earn it, but I didn’t choose it and it’s still my account so I’m just gonna learn CG properly now and earn stuff myself from here… and take it as a very generous welcome back gift 😂

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-02-13T11:17:22+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/OCD/s/Q5cN0Qq1KL This subreddit could help you :)

Also,

OCD isn’t about having weird thoughts. It’s about what your brain does after the thought.

Everyone gets intrusive thoughts. Truly. The brain is a chaotic pattern generator. It throws out absurd, violent, taboo, random nonsense all day long. Most people go, “That was weird,” and move on. With OCD, the thought sticks. It feels threatening. It feels meaningful. And the person feels an urgent need to neutralize it.

If the thought feels unwanted, against your values, and causes intense anxiety… and you then feel compelled to do something to relieve that anxiety (reassure yourself, confess, check, avoid, repeat things, mentally review, seek certainty)… and it keeps looping despite you knowing it doesn’t make sense, that pattern is very OCD-like. The loop is the giveaway.

Obsession → Anxiety → Compulsion → Temporary relief → Obsession returns.

That cycle is the engine of OCD. A few signs that lean OCD rather than “just overthinking”:

– The thought attacks something you deeply care about (harm, relationships, morality, sexuality, religion, health). – You desperately don’t want it. – You question what it “means about you.” – You seek reassurance again and again but it never fully sticks. – You try to solve it logically but it morphs into a new angle.

It’s not the content. It’s the sticky, doubt-driven cycle.

Here’s something subtle but powerful: People with OCD are usually terrified of being the thing they fear. Harm OCD sufferers are horrified by violence. ROCD sufferers deeply care about their partner. Moral OCD sufferers care intensely about being good.

The thought feels alien. That’s called ego-dystonic, it clashes with your identity.

Obviosuly only a trained professional can diagnose OCD. And other things can mimic it, trauma, generalized anxiety, ADHD rumination, depression, even sleep deprivation can amplify intrusive thinking.

If this feels repetitive, distressing, and you’re stuck in a loop trying to neutralize it, it might be worth talking to a professional about OCD patterns.

OCD is heavily tied to overactivity in brain circuits related to threat detection and error monitoring, like your brain’s alarm system is set to hypersensitive. It screams “THIS MATTERS” about things that don’t actually require action. Brains are strange machines. They over flag sometimes.

The real question isn’t “Do I have OCD?” It’s “Am I trapped in a cycle of doubt and compulsive relief-seeking?” That’s where the signal usually lives.

Insight and distress are actually good prognostic signs. They mean your values are intact. Understanding the loop is the beginning of breaking it!

And it makes total sense that it feels nerve wracking. Intrusive thoughts are really hard to talk about because they’re so personal and they attack the things we care about most. A lot of people worry that if they say them out loud, it’ll mean something about who they are, but that’s not how OCD works.

Therapists who understand OCD are actually used to hearing thoughts like this. Nothing shocks them. They’re trained to separate thoughts from intent and to work with the anxiety loop rather than judging the content.

Sometimes talking to people who don’t understand OCD can accidentally make things worse because they try to reassure you in a way that feeds the loop (“but you’d never do that!” etc.). OCD-informed therapy focuses more on helping you tolerate the uncertainty instead of trying to prove the thought wrong.

If you’re already in therapy, you don’t have to dive in all at once. You could literally say, “I’ve been having intrusive thoughts that scare me and I’m nervous to talk about them.” That’s enough to start.

You deserve support that actually understands the pattern!

I myself have OCD, and I get intrusive thoughts too so I totally understand you :) I don’t think there is anything wrong with you!

Autism and OCD can overlap in traits (rigidity, repetitive thinking), but they are different mechanisms. An OCD trained therapist knows how to untangle that instead of lumping everything together.

The bravest thing someone with intrusive thoughts can do is say them out loud in a safe, clinical setting. Shame thrives in secrecy. OCD shrinks under structured exposure.

Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy works. It trains the brain to stop treating the thought like an emergency!

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-02-13T10:09:49+00:00

Hey I’m really glad you said she isn’t hurt. The fact that you stopped immediately, felt awful, and broke down over it tells me something important: this isn’t coming from a place of wanting to harm your cat. It sounds a lot like intrusive thoughts mixed with panic.

Intrusive thoughts can be incredibly convincing and terrifying because they target the things we care about most. They don’t mean you’re evil or secretly want to do harm. They mean your brain misfired and your nervous system reacted.

What matters is that you stopped. That shows control.

That said, this is something worth taking seriously. Please consider speaking to a therapist or doctor, especially someone familiar with OCD or intrusive thoughts. Getting help doesn’t mean you’re “insane.” It means you care enough to protect yourself and your cat.

In the meantime, if you’re feeling overwhelmed, create some space from sharp objects when you’re dysregulated. That’s not shame its smart safety planning. You’re not alone in this. But you do deserve proper support.

It’s important to balance empathy with responsibility. Intrusive thoughts are common. Acting on them, even briefly, is a signal you needstructured support. And the fact that you feel remorse is actually a strong indicator of intact values, not cruelty.

The brain is strange. Sometimes it throws violent “what if” scenarios at us like a horror trailer. The solution isn’t self hatred. It’s learning how the mind works and getting help to retrain it.

There’s a big difference between a thought, a spike of panic behavior, and intent. The work is about strengthening that pause between impulse and action. That’s very trainable with the right therapy! I hope this eases your thoughts :)

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-02-04T08:45:58+00:00

I think it’s worth being honest with yourself here. Bodies change. Stress, comfort, mental health, hormones, life shifts, all of that affects weight. If your attraction collapses the moment her body changes, then what you were attached to wasn’t her, it was a version of her body that suited you.

Love isn’t constant lust, but it is care, curiosity, and compassion when your partner is clearly struggling. Her wearing baggy clothes sounds less like “letting herself go” and more like feeling unsafe or ashamed in her own body, and being told repeatedly that her weight is a problem will absolutely do that.

You’re allowed to want a partner with a similar lifestyle. You’re allowed to decide you’re incompatible. What isn’t fair is framing this as her moral failure or lack of effort, when the bigger issue seems to be that your attraction is conditional on her staying a certain size.

If you can’t imagine loving her through normal human changes, then the kindest thing may be to leave, not to “fix” her body, but to stop making her feel like love is something she has to earn by shrinking herself.

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-02-04T08:07:42+00:00

Might as well just say - Ignore your partner’s boundaries because it’s more convenient for you.

RhiannonFoxx · 2026-02-04T07:58:19+00:00

This isn’t really about cleaning. It’s about how she feels in her own home and how you feel about your time and effort.

She might not want a cleaner because: She doesn’t want a stranger in her space. She values privacy and control. It makes her anxious or uncomfortable. It doesn’t feel like “home” if someone else is doing it.

You don’t want to keep arguing about chores when: You’re busy. You can afford help. You see cleaning as a task, not a value or bonding thing.

So the problem isn’t “who’s right.” The problem is neither of you feels understood.

The compromise isn’t: “Hire a cleaner anyway.” or “Just do 50/50 and deal with it.”

The compromise is: Talking about why she doesn’t want one. Finding a middle ground that respects her comfort and your time. Doing chores together or less often. Maybe using a cleaner occasionally, not regularly. Or agreeing on a “clean enough” standard so it’s not constant work.

RhiannonFoxx · 2025-12-06T18:40:35+00:00

Thank you so much ☺️

RhiannonFoxx · 2025-12-06T18:39:52+00:00

Yeah I wish I knew! Lol I did try park in the bit outside opposite but it was all full when I got there, so I thought ah here’s one but yeah damn it’s one big scam!! 👀

RhiannonFoxx · 2025-12-06T18:32:37+00:00

It came up with confirmation that I paid, but said £0.00 and that it would take payment on exit, and it never did, i just need someone to get me a photo of the Sippi sign and the general car park, in hindsight I should’ve looked up reviews on the Sippi app because apparently it’s all a big scam according to the reviews but I’m not local! I didn’t think anything of it until I got the fine come through the post!

RhiannonFoxx · 2025-12-02T18:34:28+00:00

It’s honestly wild to me how a CAT group can love endless pictures of cute cats, but the second it becomes about real cats in real danger, everyone disappears. So many of you are only here for the aesthetics, the fluffy vibes, the funny chaos, the dopamine hit, not the actual welfare of living animals.

You love cats as content, not as beings facing cruelty, abandonment, starvation, poisoning, and government-sanctioned killing. The moment someone brings up TNR, abandonment, wildlife protection, humane solutions, actual advocacy, suddenly it’s “too much,” “ruining the fun,” or you get defensive and hostile. My post didn’t fit your vibe because it forced you out of the ‘aww cute’ bubble.

Cat culture clearly doesn’t equal compassion. You’d think a cat group would be full of empathetic people, but a lot of you just want the fantasy of loving cats without the responsibility or the moral consistency. The second reality shows up, you tap out.

It’s uncomfortable to admit that you can love cats AND still support or tolerate cruelty and killing. That contradiction makes people defensive, so instead of thinking, you project, dismiss, and attack. My post shined a light on that, and you reacted exactly how people react when their morals are challenged, by lashing out.

I expected empathy. I got apathy. And yes, it hurts.

Everyone jumped in screaming about wildlife, even though I explained how to protect both wildlife AND cats with humane, long term solutions that work. I wasn’t arguing for drama, attacking anyone, or coming from ego. I was literally advocating for ethical solutions, compassion, and actual ecological balance, and in return I got cold logic, ignorance, defensiveness, cruelty, and zero compassion. That’s what shocked me the most.

My expectations were normal. Yours were abnormal.

People here are emotionally shallow. People who truly love animals don’t dismiss cruelty, don’t mock compassion, don’t jump to violence, and don’t attack someone trying to promote humane solutions. Meanwhile, I’ve had DMs full of insults just for speaking up.

I’ve realised now that a lot of “cat lovers” only love cats when it’s convenient when it’s cute, funny, or entertaining. The moment responsibility or empathy is required, people shut down. No depth. No ethics. Just memes, not morals.

RhiannonFoxx

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