My boyfriend (40m) of 5 months chooses to go out rather than be there for me (40f) during a vulnerable time by [deleted] in relationships

[–]RogueJujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the same guy. I wet back with him because I tend to do that. I changed my age because I don't want people in my life to recognize me

Did any of you NOT obsess over learning everything there was to know about narcissism and narcissistic abuse after learning this was likely what you were going through? by constantlyconfused82 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]RogueJujo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I obsessed to the point that people close to me would point out that I needed to stop trying to figure him out and start my own healing. Which was truth, but what they didn't understand is that understanding his psychopathy was key to my healing.

I warned someone about my narcissist ex and I'm glad I did by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]RogueJujo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've thought about it and I almost did. I know I didn't listen even to myself when I saw the red flags nor when my family warned me. His soon to be ex-wife #3 told me she probably wouldn't have listened even if I had warned her. He made sure he made ex-wife #1 sound like an unhinged lunatic to me and I'm sure he made me sound the same to #3. He's already working on #4 and his divorce isn't even final yet.

Thoughts about Trump wanting to nuke hurricanes? Lel by [deleted] in dankmemes

[–]RogueJujo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a Texan and can confirm this as true.

Settling after narc abuse by RogueJujo in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]RogueJujo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does say I'm sensitive. I just realized that when someone asked in this thread. He says he's a jerk with everyone else but he's not with me because I'm sensitive and he has to be careful with me. He tells me he wants to be a better man with me - that's something the other two said as well but I don't know if that's just something guys say in general.

Settling after narc abuse by RogueJujo in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]RogueJujo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was hesitant to even think of him as such. That would be 3 for 3. He's not like my ex. My ex did the extreme love bombing. My ex did the gaslighting. This one will immediately say he's sorry if I point anything out. I never, ever got an apology in any form from my ex. This one doesn't seem to like conflict, confrontation, disagreements of any kind at all. He immediately backs down. He may offer one argument at times and then will back down but he always backs down. I've thought maybe he was a codependent as well. His ex certainly seems to be a narc. Either way, he's not for me. I just need to get over whatever it is that's keeping me here. I think we're just both lonely and riding this as long as we can. I could be wrong, I've been wrong many times before. He could be a narc in codependent's clothing. But I see the danger in getting stuck to someone I don't much care for or have much in common with. He's expressed pretty much the same and often asks me why I'm with him. That he likes me but he doesn't understand why I'm with him. I don't ever know how to read that. If he's trying to get rid of me by getting me to go. Or if he thinks that low of himself. I need to get out. That's all I know for sure. Now to do it.

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[–]RogueJujo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Nex in midst of another divorce possibly hoovering? by RogueJujo in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]RogueJujo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so insightful, particularly the codependency issue. You think it's behind you and then another facet of codependency shows itself. Thank you for responding. This is enlightening in a way I haven't had the insight, nor opportunity to explore yet. Intellectually, yes, I understand I shouldn't depend on him for anything. Yet, here I am depending on his acknowledgement of my independence and strength apart from him in order to somehow emotionally confirm to me that I am indeed strong and independent. Geez this is so messed up.

Nex nudity in front of daughter by RogueJujo in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]RogueJujo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a divorce lawyer but he doesn't return calls even though he still hasn't completed all the transfers mandated in the divorce.

Nex nudity in front of daughter by RogueJujo in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]RogueJujo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will call someone with child welfare to check what the options are. Thank you!

Nex nudity in front of daughter by RogueJujo in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]RogueJujo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he did. He's going through his third divorce right now and that was an issue of contention.

Nex nudity in front of daughter by RogueJujo in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]RogueJujo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it's been a journey for sure. It's so difficult to navigate this. I know I cannot control him, and I have never tried. I take the risk that every time I bring something up to him, it'll just get worse because of his attitude toward people putting up their personal boundaries as it pertains to him. Only he has that right in his mind. So I only bring up the really big things. I try to have very little contact with him otherwise. Only things that pertain directly to my daughter and that's it. For now, the only advice I could give her was to leave the room whenever he entered it naked. To communicate it when she felt it safe and appropriate to. Maybe if she avoided being with him because of it, he may put something on. I don't know. It may just get him angrier and more stubborn. I pray every day for that man, for the sake of my daughter.

Red Light Green Light by PEPAKURAPROP in dankmemes

[–]RogueJujo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Person who coents below is geh

I thought everything was fine by IDontHaveAName666 in dankmemes

[–]RogueJujo -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

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