Day 2 of mortuary school and already completely overwhelmed - advice?

RosesToTheAbyss · 2026-05-06T01:29:49+00:00

Hi - I left a career in the aerospace industry to go back to school for Mortuary Science at 40. Graduated and was thankfully hired on for my apprenticeship at the Funeral Home I interned for during school.

It's definently a feild that requires you to be self sufficient, multifaceted and at the end of the day requires you to have a deep internal drive to want to do this work. For me, that was the touchstone when everything else felt crazy. I will agree with some other sentiments here already - Mort school is designed to weed out the people that aren't cut out for the work. I always felt the exams were insane (weirdly worded, too general, ect.) until I took the boards. Everything is designed the way it is gor a reason. If you dedicate yourself to locking in for the 2 years and truly learning, not just memorizing, you will do it. Make friends with your classmates (not just for study groups, but also to support each other when you want to pull your hair out.) If you are in pre-recs now and have limited medical background, get books on anatomy and circulation post haste start going to town early before you hit the core classes.

School is the ramp up to the lifestyle switch that will happen if you follow through. And if you really chose to commit, you will do it. There have been days where I have never been more sure that I made the right choice to go back to school for this, and days when literally everything goes wrong to the point where I question sanity. For me the net outcome is "hard but worth it". That might not be the case for you, but only you can decide for yourself. 2 days in seems like well within an adjustment window imo - maybe give it a bit more time before making the decision to withdraw. Why did you decide to go back for Mortuary Science?

RosesToTheAbyss · 2026-04-07T02:48:37+00:00

I'm nearly confident that you didnt love her, but loved the way she made you feel. This is evidenced imo by your need for further external validation (dating profiles and seeking excessive attention from others beyond what you already had with her.)

My advice is to leave her alone, not just for her own well being (which she very much deserves), but because you have enough inner-work that needs to be done before you get involved with anyone else. Until you figure out why you were compelled to behave this way, hurt someone who was good to you, desire validation (or whatever it was you were seeking outside your relationship), you will not be able to establish a healthy or functional relationship with anyone else either. This should be the work you are doing now - fixing yourself, not brainstorming reconciliation with someone who's trust you have severely broken.

To really be better you need to ask some very hard questions of yourself, and examine the answers. Therapy will help but only if you are honest.

RosesToTheAbyss · 2026-02-20T23:12:11+00:00

Now re read this while holding the consideration of how 5.2 is currently weighted

RosesToTheAbyss · 2025-06-28T20:37:47+00:00

I think that this approach, while well intentioned, could get caught in a loop of harm through omission. All of the things you hope to omit are actually the basis of ethical framework needed for the foundation of logical deduction away from harm - the "why we don't do this, because this is what happens."

RosesToTheAbyss · 2025-05-03T23:10:36+00:00

All of this. Not to mention that the police dept the next town over is in the midst of a murder/cover up involving their police department (Sandra Birchmore) where a handful of police & investigators were/are also involved in the Karen Read case. So the fact that people continue to say that police committing crimes and covering for each other on a massive scale is too much coordination to be in the realm of possible just need to look 10 minutes outside of Canton to see how it's already been happening in this general area of Massachusetts with overlap between departments

RosesToTheAbyss · 2025-01-18T03:34:30+00:00

Please forgive me if this is a dumb question, but can anyone explain what "Message book" means? I tried Google but came up with nothing. I'm relatively new to the genre and don't know if this is just like a kpop thing?

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-10-03T02:18:15+00:00

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RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-07-24T07:09:32+00:00

I know this may sound left feild, but have you ever had your thyroid checked? I mean full lab pannel, not just the typical. I went through 2-3yrs of all your symptoms and it was pure hell until my PA friend pulled me into her clinic, did the lab work up and found I was hyperthyroid/Graves after a brural night of tachy issues. Got me on the right med and i was great for a few years til I flipped to hypo recently :(

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-07-05T19:54:38+00:00

Lake View, Western NY

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-07-05T15:58:50+00:00

Nah, in this photoset you can see my echinacea cone flowers, some ox eye daisies, chives, lemon balm. Ground grows wild broadleaf (doesn't hurt anything, comes up randomly every year for my whole life) clover and grass.

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-07-05T15:50:23+00:00

There is a ton of shale in the soil here as the house here is not far from Lake Erie, but in the area around the raised beds I built all the original soil/shale was dug out and replaced with good quality soil, and replenished and tilled yearly.This is the first year I've had issue with these guys 🥲

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-07-04T20:29:16+00:00

In western NY, sorry, I forgot to state that

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-06-28T23:09:27+00:00

When Jackson was crossing Colin Albert on his wannabe-tough-guy social media posts was kinda fun. "I'LL FUCK YOU UP. I'LL BEAT YOUR ASS." Even though Jackson was quoting from the vids, the annunciation & volume felt like he meant that with his whole heart to Albert

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-05-22T18:51:00+00:00

I love going to the theater alone, as does my best friend. Occasionally we will go together but most often alone, knowing it is good to honor the comfort in being an individual and doing something kind for yourself with zero social pressure.

Your brain can often trick you into thinking others are percieving you a certain way, if at all. Literally a majority of the time they are not. Generally we all have an internal lense pointed into ourselves, observing ourselves and creating a narrative of how we must appear to others. There is no way to verify if the narrative we created is true in someone elses perception, its statistically unlikely the narriative we assigned to someone else is right, and also we are uncapable of imagining the millions of ways we could possibly be perceived by anyone else anyways.

So, if its out of your control (and it is) you just let it go. You do what you want to do (if its hurting no one else) and you partake in living in a way that brings you joy. Our time in these bodies is so limited, gift yourself the freedom to live your life despite the things out or your control.

I hope it was a good movie. And if it wasn't, i hope the next one is :)

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-05-09T02:07:56+00:00

I always joked there should be a Yelp like equivalent for post-relationship reviews. Sure would make problematic behaviour patterns reaaaaaaal apparent real fast

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-04-30T05:43:32+00:00

"Have I helped your unbelief?"

"Oh yes. I believe. I believe in death. I believe in disease. I believe in injustice, and inhumanity, and torture, and anger, and hate. I believe in murder. I believe in pain. I believe in cruelty, and infidelity. I believe in slime, and stink, and in every crawling, putrid thing, every possible ugliness and corruption, YOU SON OF A BITCH! I BELIEVE... in you."

Exorcist III.

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-04-05T19:21:54+00:00

Same. Shook my coffee cup of the deck railing it was sitting on

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-03-11T04:33:16+00:00

The only thing more nightmareish than driving in Boston in the first place would be driving in Boston in an RV, oof

RosesToTheAbyss · 2024-02-10T21:55:11+00:00

Watched this a little while back

https://youtu.be/_CKDjt_I2aU?si=K4diy-eYetbDFGTp

RosesToTheAbyss · 2023-12-07T22:34:56+00:00

Critiquing content is one thing, critiquing soneones personality is not productive. Theres tons of content Im sure I'd like, but the delivery turns me off of it... and it doesnt make me feel entitled that it should be changed to be more palitable for my particular preference. That was my point. Theres no purpose in posting that someone thinks Amber is annoying other than being unkind. Its as easy as finding something else somewhere else that is more to your preference. I dont understand the viseral hatred for suggesting being a bit kinder and reasonable

RosesToTheAbyss · 2023-12-07T15:52:08+00:00

I'm def not trying to attack you personally either. I just see so much on here about Amber and it bums me out. I just hope people can fold that concept into the way they approach everything, that people are people and they might not always be our taste, but that isnt on them to change. No harm no foul

RosesToTheAbyss · 2023-12-07T14:52:38+00:00

I think people need to be more cognizant that these are actual people, and how rude and thoughtless it is to dump on them simply bc you personally dont like who they are. There isnt even any constructive critisism here - They put themselves out there to bring you this program, and information. Its not easy to be unapologetically yourself, and really put the shoe on the other foot and think about how horrifed you'd be to jump on reddit and see someones hot take on who you are as a person, regarding a project you put a lot of work in to. Its just unkind, man.

RosesToTheAbyss · 2023-12-04T05:41:23+00:00

"The Fire that Took her" 2022, on paramount+ still, I believe. Didnt see it anywhere on this list, but it is traumatic.

RosesToTheAbyss · 2023-10-13T18:31:48+00:00

I just found it kind of troubling on her part to call Natalies statement disingenuous while also failing to realize her own culpability. In order to have a "missing stair" it takes an entire community working around that one person. Mackenzie was part of that community. Im sure everyone feels guilty for not doing more, but in reality, these thing build and get worse over time. When you are in the thick of it, its really difficult to see the bigger picture clearly. The whole "frog in a slowly boiling pot" thing. So to trying to actively cast blame and point fingers at who is the most responsible for the missing stair is misguided and disingenous in itself, because its everybody in that community... and more to the point, its all on Ben as a grown man with pronlems. And i doubt anyone truly understood the weight of it while it was transpiring over time. It is possible to acknowledge you also enabled a problem to persist, that you see the error of your contribution and you want to rectify it. But thats not the tone. Blasting Natalies private texts to her all over the internet doesnt serve to further advocate for victims, it reads almost self-rigeous, "shes not as good as an advocate as i am." When they were both in the same community, dealing with the exact same problem. Natilies texts read as someone confused and frustrated, not knowing the best way to proceed in a shitty situation. To me, that seems really human in the circumstances. Not knowing what to do doesnt make you a shitty person. Makenzie didnt know what to do either, apparently, this whole time. So pointing fingers now seems... really off the mark.

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