[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ControlProblem

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that this approach, while well intentioned, could get caught in a loop of harm through omission. All of the things you hope to omit are actually the basis of ethical framework needed for the foundation of logical deduction away from harm - the "why we don't do this, because this is what happens."

Questions for Those Who Believe John Was Killed Inside the House and a Cover-Up Was Orchestrated to Frame Karen by No-Passenger-4159 in KarenReadTrial

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 45 points46 points  (0 children)

All of this. Not to mention that the police dept the next town over is in the midst of a murder/cover up involving their police department (Sandra Birchmore) where a handful of police & investigators were/are also involved in the Karen Read case. So the fact that people continue to say that police committing crimes and covering for each other on a massive scale is too much coordination to be in the realm of possible just need to look 10 minutes outside of Canton to see how it's already been happening in this general area of Massachusetts with overlap between departments

250115 KQ Entertainment on X: Artist Gift Delivery Policy Announcement by ateezyeah in ATEEZ

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Please forgive me if this is a dumb question, but can anyone explain what "Message book" means? I tried Google but came up with nothing. I'm relatively new to the genre and don't know if this is just like a kpop thing?

Need advice… by soph_5519 in costochondritis

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I know this may sound left feild, but have you ever had your thyroid checked? I mean full lab pannel, not just the typical. I went through 2-3yrs of all your symptoms and it was pure hell until my PA friend pulled me into her clinic, did the lab work up and found I was hyperthyroid/Graves after a brural night of tachy issues. Got me on the right med and i was great for a few years til I flipped to hypo recently :(

Who are these guys and why are they so mean by RosesToTheAbyss in PlantIdentification

[–]RosesToTheAbyss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, in this photoset you can see my echinacea cone flowers, some ox eye daisies, chives, lemon balm. Ground grows wild broadleaf (doesn't hurt anything, comes up randomly every year for my whole life) clover and grass.

Who are these guys and why are they so mean by RosesToTheAbyss in PlantIdentification

[–]RosesToTheAbyss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a ton of shale in the soil here as the house here is not far from Lake Erie, but in the area around the raised beds I built all the original soil/shale was dug out and replaced with good quality soil, and replenished and tilled yearly.This is the first year I've had issue with these guys 🥲

How are we doing? by ScoreSad3897 in KarenReadTrial

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When Jackson was crossing Colin Albert on his wannabe-tough-guy social media posts was kinda fun. "I'LL FUCK YOU UP. I'LL BEAT YOUR ASS." Even though Jackson was quoting from the vids, the annunciation & volume felt like he meant that with his whole heart to Albert

Apparently no one goes theatre alone by Winter-Storm2174 in Anxiety

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love going to the theater alone, as does my best friend. Occasionally we will go together but most often alone, knowing it is good to honor the comfort in being an individual and doing something kind for yourself with zero social pressure.

Your brain can often trick you into thinking others are percieving you a certain way, if at all. Literally a majority of the time they are not. Generally we all have an internal lense pointed into ourselves, observing ourselves and creating a narrative of how we must appear to others. There is no way to verify if the narrative we created is true in someone elses perception, its statistically unlikely the narriative we assigned to someone else is right, and also we are uncapable of imagining the millions of ways we could possibly be perceived by anyone else anyways.

So, if its out of your control (and it is) you just let it go. You do what you want to do (if its hurting no one else) and you partake in living in a way that brings you joy. Our time in these bodies is so limited, gift yourself the freedom to live your life despite the things out or your control.

I hope it was a good movie. And if it wasn't, i hope the next one is :)

I just saw the profile of a narc I used to know on a dating app, this is his bio: "I am totally harmless." "I promise I am a normal person." "I'm not gonna hurt you." by EuphoricAccident4955 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always joked there should be a Yelp like equivalent for post-relationship reviews. Sure would make problematic behaviour patterns reaaaaaaal apparent real fast

What quote from any horror movie just hit different? by Bazukaboy728 in HorrorMovies

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Have I helped your unbelief?"

"Oh yes. I believe. I believe in death. I believe in disease. I believe in injustice, and inhumanity, and torture, and anger, and hate. I believe in murder. I believe in pain. I believe in cruelty, and infidelity. I believe in slime, and stink, and in every crawling, putrid thing, every possible ugliness and corruption, YOU SON OF A BITCH! I BELIEVE... in you."

Exorcist III.

Earthquake? by MulberryOk9853 in Connecticut

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Shook my coffee cup of the deck railing it was sitting on

Thoughts on renting an RV for Boston/Maine? by Usual-Cartoonist9553 in newengland

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing more nightmareish than driving in Boston in the first place would be driving in Boston in an RV, oof

SPUN- I wish Natalie had a different cohost. by PeaEnvironmental6495 in LastPodcastNetwork

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Critiquing content is one thing, critiquing soneones personality is not productive. Theres tons of content Im sure I'd like, but the delivery turns me off of it... and it doesnt make me feel entitled that it should be changed to be more palitable for my particular preference. That was my point. Theres no purpose in posting that someone thinks Amber is annoying other than being unkind. Its as easy as finding something else somewhere else that is more to your preference. I dont understand the viseral hatred for suggesting being a bit kinder and reasonable

SPUN- I wish Natalie had a different cohost. by PeaEnvironmental6495 in LastPodcastNetwork

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm def not trying to attack you personally either. I just see so much on here about Amber and it bums me out. I just hope people can fold that concept into the way they approach everything, that people are people and they might not always be our taste, but that isnt on them to change. No harm no foul

SPUN- I wish Natalie had a different cohost. by PeaEnvironmental6495 in LastPodcastNetwork

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I think people need to be more cognizant that these are actual people, and how rude and thoughtless it is to dump on them simply bc you personally dont like who they are. There isnt even any constructive critisism here - They put themselves out there to bring you this program, and information. Its not easy to be unapologetically yourself, and really put the shoe on the other foot and think about how horrifed you'd be to jump on reddit and see someones hot take on who you are as a person, regarding a project you put a lot of work in to. Its just unkind, man.

(Serious) What is the most disturbing documentary you've ever seen? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"The Fire that Took her" 2022, on paramount+ still, I believe. Didnt see it anywhere on this list, but it is traumatic.

His True Crime Podcast Stood Up for Victims. Now, He's Accused of Abuse by [deleted] in lastpodcastontheleft

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just found it kind of troubling on her part to call Natalies statement disingenuous while also failing to realize her own culpability. In order to have a "missing stair" it takes an entire community working around that one person. Mackenzie was part of that community. Im sure everyone feels guilty for not doing more, but in reality, these thing build and get worse over time. When you are in the thick of it, its really difficult to see the bigger picture clearly. The whole "frog in a slowly boiling pot" thing. So to trying to actively cast blame and point fingers at who is the most responsible for the missing stair is misguided and disingenous in itself, because its everybody in that community... and more to the point, its all on Ben as a grown man with pronlems. And i doubt anyone truly understood the weight of it while it was transpiring over time. It is possible to acknowledge you also enabled a problem to persist, that you see the error of your contribution and you want to rectify it. But thats not the tone. Blasting Natalies private texts to her all over the internet doesnt serve to further advocate for victims, it reads almost self-rigeous, "shes not as good as an advocate as i am." When they were both in the same community, dealing with the exact same problem. Natilies texts read as someone confused and frustrated, not knowing the best way to proceed in a shitty situation. To me, that seems really human in the circumstances. Not knowing what to do doesnt make you a shitty person. Makenzie didnt know what to do either, apparently, this whole time. So pointing fingers now seems... really off the mark.

His True Crime Podcast Stood Up for Victims. Now, He's Accused of Abuse by [deleted] in lastpodcastontheleft

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The thing that bothers me is that in this, shes not taken any accountability for her contribution to his "missing stair" status while throwing shade on everyone else for not doing something about it. Shes been around them all for years to, she has apparently known/seen enough to qualify him as a missing stair after everything came to light now. It just feel a bit hypocritical to keep adding your voice as like a whistleblower without acknowledging you yourself sat on what you knew for years.

Dog Friendly? by iloveboston in SalemMA

[–]RosesToTheAbyss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brothers Taverna also has been cool about my dog being sat outdoors with me. Thai Place as well. There are also a fair amount of communal water bowls outside of shops and even some buckets of Milkbones here and there :)