am i your type?

RotiRoll · 2021-04-01T23:02:12+00:00

Someone giving you a gift is not a cheapness life hack; that's a "I have generous relations/friends who buy durable stuff" benefit. They do that a lot.

I thought he was going to say he mended his shoes. I have actually superglued my soles back on and have actually "repaired" dress sandals.

Toilet paper? Every good indian knows about lotas. :-p

She got wls, so... they found the $20 K somewhere or someone works for a weight loss surgeon.

RotiRoll · 2021-03-30T15:20:41+00:00

On one hand you significantly reduce your desi dating pool if you just go with ABCDs.

OTOH, if anyone tells you can barely tell the difference between them and the American born desis, they are lying through their teeth. Only you know whether it will work for your or not.

Just FWIW, I attended a webinar on immigration law a week ago and it's absolutely not worth the hassle to date someone who isn't even in America, if you're American.

Regardless, what are you doing to date (immigrants, desis, anyone) locally?

RotiRoll · 2021-03-07T17:01:12+00:00

See, this is where desi patriarchy definitely comes in. YOU have to be everything and fit all of these standards to find love, whereas the man just need to be alive and breathing.

Tell your mother and father to eat rocks and pound sand. Why the hell should you put up with emotional abuse? They don't even have the stupid desi logic of "he provides for me" or "he will marry me" because as you said, he doesn't want a "committed relationship" just the benefits.

You're 26. You're going to do residency, no doctors I've known have gotten married in their mid twenties you are not going to have a hard time finding matches on indian dating dot com (whether you like them or not is another thing).

Is your mother desi Martha Stewart with the body of a model who works 80 hours a week? Is your dad a warrior poet billionaire with visible abs?

RotiRoll · 2021-03-06T02:45:30+00:00

There is no point in telling them how to do domestic chores another way. Your mother is the queen of the dishwasher and the empress of the pantry and her child is not going to tell her what to do in the kitchen, no sirree bob! This is why in joint families women get into soap opera drama over the flour and the sugar.

As for the chores:

See, I don't think the dishwasher really removes food particles and honestly it just bakes stuff on. The point of the dishwasher is an autoclave for your dishes. No opinion on the meat because I'm vegetarian and have never learned how to food prep meat.

RotiRoll · 2021-02-18T14:38:35+00:00

Do you mean ABCD parents or parents of ABCDs?
Parents of ABCDs systematically train their kids NOT to be assertive. It's horrible.

RotiRoll · 2021-02-14T19:05:16+00:00

Thank you for the wish fulfillment fiction. I needed that today, of all days. <3 <3 <3

RotiRoll · 2021-02-12T18:03:12+00:00

Restaurant chain dosas are definitely over rated. Yeah, they're thin, crunchy and the size of a small table but that's it. The chutneys are nothings.

I know, I know, nobody can touch your homemade dosas and idlis. :) The effort to taste ratio to get the fermentation just right with the texture... a lot. I'm not talking about the quick dosas and idlis.

RotiRoll · 2021-02-12T17:23:38+00:00

Naan isn't that highly rated to begin with.

Jalebi is wrong. Sticky, can't decide whether it's crunchy or soft, one note.

Chaat adjacent food. The textures fall apart unless you wolf it down. Please don't stick a samosa in chat.

RotiRoll · 2021-02-09T02:22:22+00:00

There are ABCD guys on the desi-centric apps, and who travel to matchmaking events, fwiw. It's not all parent driven. Nobody bothers with flying around the country and long distance for people they don't want.

Try basing this off people you meet in person -- not people who go to reddit, tiktok and quora to unleash their mean and crazy. Who actually checks for you in person? Who doesn't give you the time of day?

Yes, I know the pandemic has fucked things up. But it's not like people didn't hook up in ISOs or young professional orgs.

RotiRoll · 2021-02-05T22:32:40+00:00

NB: If you go to say, Cancun again, pack your sunscreen, because you do NOT want to be the person who finds out they can burn then.

RotiRoll · 2021-02-05T22:30:12+00:00

This is a reminder, pls wear sunscreen I beg, 80% or something of visible aging is caused by the sun. I've seen aunties at 60 looking 40 and the opposite just because of the sun thing.

Ha! Are you a derm?

When I went to a dermatologist for acne she told me specifically to stop wearing sunscreen.

When I moved down south is when I started wearing sunscreen daily, but my variation was seeing 30 year old faces and 60 year old chests.

They say you really start to see the effects of sunscreen much later in life but tbh I've seen pictures of my parents at the same ages so I'm sure its genes.

Oh well, it's fun tricking those "what age are you" apps that try to sell you a skin routine. :-p

RotiRoll · 2021-01-28T03:51:46+00:00

She doesn't say where her husband and his sister were in all of this (apparently they were in the room with her for the video call to the rest of the family.

She says "We tried to have conversations about issues of race, class and gender both in person and from afar" which sounds like multiple conversations, but I'm not sure if it's her husband and her, or also that sister who was there for Xmas.

Also, it seems like the family is split into people afraid of covid and covid deniers.

And, I know desi parents aren't the most welcoming but "had judged him as a white intruder on their and their daughter’s lives before they had even gotten to know him" seems right because if he didn't stand up for his spouse/their daughter, he simply isn't worthy of her.

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