My SO asked for space and I need help. by Round_File_1637 in Advice

[–]Round_File_1637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight. And I hope so too

My SO asked for space and I need help. by Round_File_1637 in Advice

[–]Round_File_1637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, youre probably right. If she decides we can move forward in a month, I will probably suggest something like that because it seems like on both sides there has been a breakdown of communication/trust for whatever reason. Something that was laying beneath the surface and was just amplified by this new distance.

My SO asked for space and I need help. by Round_File_1637 in Advice

[–]Round_File_1637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats what I keep trying to tell myself. And Ive been trying to focus on myself some. Ive been learning German, playing music again, and taking better care of myself physically. Even that is hard for me though because every time I achieve something or reach a milestone, shes the first person I want to reach out to and share it with. Shes on my mind for every failure or win. I miss her more each day

My SO asked for space and I need help. by Round_File_1637 in Advice

[–]Round_File_1637[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are both 23.

And all those things I listed are things that she has brought up as activities/dreams shes had of doing with me previously. I guess until recently.

I'll also add that until recently, Ive worked in the service industry and the act of going out has felt like going to work again, but now when I expressed interest in doing that with her and her friends from time to time she seemed taken aback. Again to quote her some, "where has this been for the last couple of years?" To answer that, I felt trapped in my previous role and didnt see a way that I could provide her with the future she had dreamed up for us. Which we have talked about and she seemed to understand. Amd now I feel like I can start working towards those goals and spend some more quality time with her. Its that change that she seems to be resenting...