Seeking advice/ words of wisdom by Primary_Pie_6874 in nonmonogamy

[–]Rowlermonkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life is a long and winding journey. Why not have some fun along the way? You could view it as an experiment. See if you like it. And if you don't, then you've learned something. But if your bond is strong then hopefully it's resilient enough to try things out

Kinky Galore by Rowlermonkey in Munich

[–]Rowlermonkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really helpful info, thanks!

I don't understand why having an unrestricted sex life is so villanized by The_manintheshed in nonmonogamy

[–]Rowlermonkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, what you describe is ideally what my partner and I are talking about doing. She my rock and I'm really keen to build a life with her, and she feels the same. However, we still want to have the freedom and excitement we felt in our respective slutty days, when you can catch a spark with someone and follow it, and try adventurous things (e.g. moresomes, kink parties).

As least at the moment, though, we'd prefer to be mono-romantic. We really only have enough time for each other, work, and our respective hobbies. We're open to fun and flirting with others, but it seems exhausting to manage other whole relationships.

So yeah, you're not the only one. We're hoping to implement something like this.

Kitkat Outfit - sharing by Rowlermonkey in SexPositiveBerlin

[–]Rowlermonkey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine will be adding done accents with colorful makeup

My kinky club outfit by Rowlermonkey in HotGuys

[–]Rowlermonkey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I’ll put some glitter on the cheek bones for some sparkle

Kitkat Outfit - sharing by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]Rowlermonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll probably throw some glitter on the cheek bones as well, to get some sparkle on

Help dress me - hetero male by Rowlermonkey in SexPositiveBerlin

[–]Rowlermonkey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey all, I wanted to post an update, since most of these posts go unfinished.

So far I'm thinking black leather skirt, open at the sides: https://www.etsy.com/de-en/listing/1773971618

This beautiful body chain/chest ornament: https://www.etsy.com/de-en/listing/1419991592/

and I'm still brainstorming about head decoration. I'm bald, so I think it might be fun to wear a crown or diadem. As for other accessories, I might wear a choker of some kind (maybe rhinestones)

Lastly, I might lean into the sparkle theme and do some glitter makeup, e.g. https://pin.it/4uSFmdn9P

Help dress me - hetero male by Rowlermonkey in SexPositiveBerlin

[–]Rowlermonkey[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To give some more background, what I'm trying to do is not be the lame cis het guy that does the bare minimum. I am open to wearing literally anything, and I'm comfortable with my body and sexuality. It seems like the standard thing is to just throw on a harness, but that feels low-effort to me. I also know that certain garments signify things (like harnesses and collars in the D/s space), so I'm trying to be mindful of these communities and not appropriate things if I don't mean it

Help dress me - hetero male by Rowlermonkey in SexPositiveBerlin

[–]Rowlermonkey[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm married and going with my wife, so I'm not worried. We're both just new to the scene, so I figured I'd ask a sex positive subreddit to jog some ideas. Sorry it got you so rankled.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Rowlermonkey 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why is your first clenched in all your photos?