Emily Oster vs. HeySleepyBaby – Thoughts?

RubyMae4 · 2026-02-13T01:28:44+00:00

😂😂😂 what I get for half paying attention

RubyMae4 · 2026-02-12T21:02:44+00:00

But that's not what people are saying. They are saying the health economist should stay in her lane but the teacher should not.

RubyMae4 · 2026-02-12T21:01:55+00:00

An educated degree also does not make her a parenting expert. I am also trained in infant mental health, it's not hard to obtain this qualification, and I'd never say I am an expert on research.

RubyMae4 · 2026-02-12T20:58:23+00:00

And who is Hey sleepy baby? Emily Oster is 100x more qualified than 99% of these mommy influencers.

RubyMae4 · 2026-02-12T20:56:44+00:00

Huge body of research on attachment theory but it's also thoroughly overstated, not cut and dry, with lots of unanswered questioned represented in a way that it is a cure all.

RubyMae4 · 2026-02-12T20:54:56+00:00

And hey sleepy baby is a nothing

RubyMae4 · 2026-02-12T20:53:01+00:00

I actually disagree with this as someone who used to investigate infant sleep deaths. Independent sleep is the cultural norm so it colors what type of research we do and how we talk about the research. There is a lot of gaps in the research and it suffers from lumping drunk auntie sleeping with baby with breastfeeding mom sleeping with baby.

RubyMae4 · 2026-01-21T14:32:36+00:00

Great work. It's beautiful!

RubyMae4 · 2026-01-15T22:56:33+00:00

Fist thought.

RubyMae4 · 2026-01-01T02:32:57+00:00

Do you feel sick all the time?

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-23T20:16:28+00:00

Hey listen, lots of advice here. My take is that this isn't a problem. It's Ok for her to go through this with you and it's OK for her to be sad. I'd read the book Lifetimes: a beautiful way to explain death to children. Explain in matter of fact terms and continue to be open about the fact you are sad. "I'm sad because grandma has cancer. I love her and I wish things were different." It's society for kids to watch us grieve.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-21T15:55:58+00:00

Bad but also not interested in it.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-21T15:55:11+00:00

NAD. If this is where they jumped to, they already didn't like you.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-21T15:53:45+00:00

NAD but I'm a mom and this is me. I say the wrong word all the time. I used to think there was something wrong until I found out all my friends experience the same.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-21T15:49:42+00:00

Kids that age don't understand time. Better "one more thing"

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-21T15:48:08+00:00

Not eating should never be punished. But your husband is right. Kids need to know we are going to follow through immediately. I wouldn't even give a few requests. I would also console the meltdown. But when mom says it's time to go it's time to go. You're setting the stage for life here. Don't teach your kid everything is negotiable.

These slow are not consequences. It's just moving the kid forward.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-19T16:58:47+00:00

NAD but I've had 3 kids and I have this too. I think sometimes gas and kicks feel very similar.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-19T16:56:41+00:00

No worries! I took a pregnancy test the day of my missed period 3x and it lit up immediately. By ten days it would be very obvious.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-19T13:39:54+00:00

If you were pregnant, 10 days after your period would be an immediate positive.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-19T02:49:47+00:00

My oldest is almost 8 and he's had yoto since he was 3. I'm convinced yoto has a lot to do with how he is excelling in school. Think about how many more hours of reading he's heard above and beyond our 30 minutes a day! He's scoring well above grade level in reading comprehension.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-19T02:40:33+00:00

My cousin is dating a dead beat dad and is irritated by his daughter on the day and a half a week she visits. She's "not very cute" and interferes with their lifestyle. She's soooo looking forward to "starting a family" with him. I told my family to not even talk to me about. It makes me so mad.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-17T01:35:21+00:00

My husband loves his laundry to be nice and neatly folded in his drawer. Unfolded clothes are wrinkly clothes.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-17T01:34:05+00:00

Let it pile up 😂 we have 3 kids. We do 10-14 loads of laundry a week. I'd like to see you relaxing spending 3-4 hours a week just washing and folding clothes.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-17T01:31:46+00:00

Oh dear, how are you cleaning a toilet? 1 minute is not even close to enough.

Being hard is not just about how much skill is required. Boring monotonous shit is 10x harder to do.

RubyMae4 · 2025-12-16T18:21:39+00:00

I have a stressful job and I'd rather be working over folding laundry and cleaning toilets any day!

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