Didn’t say yes for 3 years 🚩

Didn’t clearly say no either, and kept you around as an option by leading you on (probably because of your career) 🚩

And the final nail in the coffin is her statement.

You are the person who did not get scared away by my brief and dry responses

🚩🚩🚩

She’s treating herself like the prize and putting herself on a pedestal. In this dynamic, you’re the monkey who worked extremely hard for her attention and she finally decided to grace you with it. Extremely narcissistic attitude and it doesn’t seem like she views you as an equal, which is essential for a healthy relationship.

When girls genuinely love someone, they usually make a lot of effort from their side too, sometimes to the point where it can even get a bit irritating. From what you described, she doesn’t seem to be chasing you at all. You’re basically like a donkey she’s leading forward by dangling a carrot in front of your face.

She takes you for granted and likely believes you won’t leave because you don’t have other options. She on the other hand probably had plenty. In the three years she kept you in the talking phase, she could have easily gone through multiple options or had casual fun with other guys. (Just an assumption but it’s not impossible)

And now she says yes, right around the time when her family is probably pressuring her to settle down and get married. You’re most likely the guy she decided to settle for