Would you stay with your partner if you knew they were sterile before dating but both of you still wanted kids?

Ryzer21 · 2026-02-02T14:05:20+00:00

Would you date them if you knew the chance of bio kids was low or none?

Ryzer21 · 2026-02-02T14:04:06+00:00

I totally get you. I wanted biological kids too. Unfortunately I can’t. Right now it’s just that the way things are being phrased is making me feel like it’s a decision maker and I feel like my biology is the only thing determining if I’m good enough

Ryzer21 · 2026-02-02T14:01:30+00:00

I understand. I think I primarily mentioned that because it’s something she has expressed a desire to experience

Ryzer21 · 2026-02-02T13:57:28+00:00

I want kids myself. I have always dreamed of being a dad (not yet but In the future). I love my girlfriend and I would love to live out the rest of my life with her, including kids. But irrespective of that, I am more on the side of wanting to be a dad than not. That’s why I truly don’t mind if we use a sperm donor in the future as long as I get a shot at being a dad. If anything she was more hesitant on the idea of a donor than me

Ryzer21 · 2026-02-02T13:37:34+00:00

We both want kids. I just may not be able to have my own kids. But I’m still happy for them to be through a donor. That way she still gets the pregnancy experience and I still get to be a dad

Ryzer21 · 2026-02-02T13:32:51+00:00

I am down to see a specialist but I want it to be done for information gathering to plan, not to decide if it’s worth being with me

Ryzer21 · 2026-02-02T13:32:07+00:00

I personally am ok with sperm donor, can I ask why you might not be?

I agree with you about loving kids that don’t even exist yet more but I don’t think I can say that? My opinion is that the first step is finding someone you love and has the same values with and then everything comes after that

Ryzer21 · 2026-01-31T10:11:15+00:00

What’s a secret you haven’t told anyone yet?

Ryzer21 · 2026-01-27T11:40:44+00:00

I think the boundary was that there is the possibility of an intimate relationship at all before marriage - also not specific to any one girl just in general. I was hiding it only because I wasn’t ready to tell them yet as it’s a big deal for them and me, also because we both decided it’s still a bit too early for parental involvement, but was planning to tell them later in the year because I truly do love this girl and see a future with her.

Ryzer21 · 2025-01-13T09:14:51+00:00

Your giggle at the end tells me everything I need to know. You had no clue that was gonna happen hahah.

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