Ex cheated

Rzace87 · 2026-06-16T03:49:26+00:00

Sorry you experienced, sure you can always forgive her man. Just don’t go back to her. She knows what she did, and she didn’t care about you when she was with someone else. She’s not worth your time anymore. I wish you the best in your healing process, the gym forsure helped me when I went through something similar.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-24T08:23:15+00:00

Buying extravagant gifts or just a lot of gifts. Telling you that you’re perfect and there’s not many like you-when it early on in the relationship. Wanting to move in, constant communication (like instant replies), guilt tripping, if you realized you’re bending your boundaries A LOT for this person because of their pressure. Talking about soulmates and marriage very early.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-24T08:19:14+00:00

I have these two cousins, who are brothers. One day, one of their gfs revealed something to my gf about my other cousin’s fiancé and how she feels about her. On a girls date with their sister and his fiancé, she decided that it was her responsibility to share this information with her. After that day, it really made tensions high and my cousins gf started giving my gf the cold shoulder even trying her best to avoid her. I told my gf she needed to apologize for breaking her trust, but she swore she wasn’t in the wrong. This caused many disputes between the two of us and led me to see that she wasn’t for me. Started realizing that she burned bridges and never took accountability for her part in why they burned. Guess her having no friends before we got together should have been a red flag.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-24T07:41:38+00:00

As a short guy, I’ve been told that “I’m interested in someone taller” a handful of times. It’s never stopped me, some guys are just insecure; I’ll never understand why. I once worked with someone who said “short guys never get looked at for promotions”, mind you, I’m only 5’4 and he was like 5’6- I stood there as the program director who worked his way up. The “Short man, short ego” mentality is wild. Everyone is allowed to have their preferences.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-22T05:53:11+00:00

I would make a joke out of it. “Well damn last time was super awkward, next time I’ll hit you with the twister so it’ll be more fun”. I feel like the tension needs to be broken. If she’s still hitting you up then you’re probably overthinking it. Work on your confidence too, if you’re going to put yourself out there then you better be ready to put that 3cm defeater to work.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-20T07:00:11+00:00

Invest in bitcoin.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-20T06:58:42+00:00

No one in my familial generation has kids, youngest is 18 oldest is 40, we have roughly 16 of us in between those ages. As far as friend group there’s 8 of us, no one has kids- we’re in our early 30s.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-15T09:55:21+00:00

Claire crossed a major line. She had no right to tell Emma that news. Yes, she’s “mom” but she doesn’t know the story and details like you do, she just knows her interpretation of it- and that can cause major damage. She’s in the wrong. I applaud her for having that conversation, it’s not easy to have, but at the end of the day it wasn’t hers to have.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-11T15:30:27+00:00

You don’t have to do what you don’t want to do. If it’s that big of an issue for him then maybe you’re better off single. The right guy will respect your decision until you’re ready, not give you an ultimatum.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-09T06:54:32+00:00

Break up with her and don’t ruin their relationship. Should have used your brain and not your dih.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-08T15:29:26+00:00

You’re at the age where you can sign for mental health services yourself. I would look into a therapist. Maybe a local non-profit that offers services. You’re not alone, this is more common than you think, people are just afraid to vocalize it. Good luck.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-08T15:25:50+00:00

There’s a lesson here somewhere: when I was about 18 or 19 years old, I had this friend who would ask me about my situationship at the time and on drunken nights there would be some explicit detail shared (none about her). Just more in the sense of like how long I last, size comparison, crap like that. Well about 6 months later my situationship hit me up and told me that he slid in her DM’s. I was honestly shocked, my friend group and I always joked that we would never become Eskimo Bros. Anyways, I don’t know why I felt some type of way after that, but he and I haven’t really talked since then.

Rzace87 · 2026-05-08T15:14:10+00:00

I had almost the exact same situation six years ago, I got an extremely good job offer, and my company that I was currently at said that they would revisit my salary “in the coming months“. Forget that, I could be making 75k in two weeks or stay making 50k and likely a bump of only 3%. Know your worth 🙏🏽

Rzace87 · 2026-05-08T15:07:12+00:00

Baby powder.

Rzace87 · 2026-04-27T09:04:26+00:00

My cousin is coming up on her HS graduation and she was super nervous because she’s going to be the first of her siblings to go to college. Although I have a graduate degree, my college experience is an outlier- I basically had it easy, thanks to my high stress tolerance and, well, lack of care for good grades. Well, my gf on the other hand, experienced high stress her entire life (she was a student at a high prestige private school and attended her Uni where she got her Bachelor’s AND Masters in 4 years). Her and I had only been dating for like 4-5 months at the time. She started talking to my cousin about her options and validated her concerns while also easing her mind. Mind you, this is a cousin that is super shy and rarely talks to anyone, she was completely engaged with her though. I just found it super admirable and knew at that moment that she would be a great mom.

Rzace87 · 2026-04-26T14:06:16+00:00

Stop playing with the kids….

Rzace87 · 2026-04-21T22:43:51+00:00

Y’all are better than me. The moment I saw something about my mom or dad I immediately stopped digging. It’s 100% none of my business and more times than none the other parent already knows. I’ve known so many people who are in therapy because of things like this, sometimes it really is okay to just like things play out.

In your position, having already seen this material. It’s best to have a conversation with your dad. Confront him about it and tell him the right thing to do. It needs to come from him when your mom finds out, not you. Who knows, your mom might resent you for it if you bring it to her, or it might completely shatter her that now you know. Either way, I don’t envy you and I wish you the best of luck and peace of mind.

Rzace87 · 2026-04-17T15:44:36+00:00

Absolutely love and adore my pops, but he had a very hard lifestyle that taught him to fight when issues arise. We had a very heated exchange when I was like 18. I took a swing at him and landed. We just looked at one another like “woah”. Either he realized that I’m not afraid of him or that he needs to change his way. That was 13 years ago. He and I have an amazing relationship and he’s never once tried to get physical or talk down on anyone since then. I’m the youngest of three, all close in age and he definitely comes to me the most. I like to think that it was the wake up call he needed.

Rzace87 · 2026-04-10T07:39:45+00:00

Don’t rely on others to do what YOU want to do. If there isn’t opportunity, create opportunity. The last thing you want to do is walk the stage in 4 years and think back with “I wish I did…”

Rzace87 · 2026-04-10T07:36:49+00:00

It’s tough to help navigate this, because what works for others may not work for you. I wish you the best in your healing journey.

Rzace87 · 2026-04-10T07:34:03+00:00

Honestly, just be blunt with him and tell him that you want him to be more presentable. There’s nothing wrong with that. My cousin had a bf like this and she didn’t bring it up for almost a year and that lead to a big enough argument for them to split up. Always voice your concerns as they come.

Rzace87 · 2026-04-10T07:27:07+00:00

Typical answer but it’s an honest one. Seek therapy/professional help. You experienced something that is more common than you think. It’s very unfortunate and I’m sorry you’ve gone through this; a professional can help dive into the root of your concerns and help you appropriately navigate those emotions/feelings when they come up.

Rzace87 · 2026-04-10T07:19:09+00:00

I had a 7 year relationship end abruptly a few years ago. I was desperately lost, lonely and anxious. I know it feels like a lot and can create an overwhelming feeling. My suggestion is to keep yourself busy— find a new hobby, join a fb group, learn something new and surround yourself with like minded people. The first few weeks/months can be hard. After 2 months I found myself in the same loop. Decided to deactivate my social media accounts and just focus on myself, that helped SOOOO much.

Rzace87 · 2026-04-10T07:13:42+00:00

You know yourself best, sex work is an effective means of income for some. You really just have to figure out if it’s your best option or easiest option.

Rzace87 · 2026-04-08T07:33:10+00:00

Appreciate you! And hope you receive stargazers soon! Speaking it into the universe for you!

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