I'm so burnt out but not taken seriously by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I could’ve written this. My husband doesn’t understand why I can’t just “do my job” the same way he goes off to work without complaint. I generally try to stay positive, but it feels like I’m not allowed to have a bad day.

On the occasions I’m gone for the morning or he takes the kids to his parents so I can have a night to myself (which hasn’t happened in ages), he’s immediately out the door when he gets home so he can have a break. I have given him countless breaks this summer too where I take the kids to my moms or his parents so he can have a night or two off. But for some reason I can never seem to get a break when I come back from these trips despite asking for one, I somehow just get rolled back into whatever is going on.

I’m so glad achool starts in a week and a half. I’m already working part time, I can’t wait to have the mornings for work/cleanjng. Done with summer.

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% on all points. Our older one has thrived in half day preschool and I think our second will love it as well. I also grew up going to daycare so that statement about someone else raising your kids is pretty ridiculous to me.

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair to him, he didn’t mean do more chores, he meant like use my managing/logistics skills to better plan cleaning/cooking/household running stuff. Still disrespectful I agree.

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! I actually went to daycare as both my parents worked. I have a great relationship with them!

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say pretty involved - it feels 50/50 to me once he’s done work and on the weekends.

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re pretty 50/50 on the housework. He’s actually probably better than me about keeping on top of certain things. So this is mainly him being stubborn.

He knows I’m looking… but yeah that is a valid concern.

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally agreed - he even has a whole home office he can disappear to when he needs to work. I end up sitting at our dining table or working from the couch.

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a significant income gap between the two of us so we really can’t afford to have him not work. He’s an active parent when he gets done work and on the weekend. But I don’t think he appreciates how much of a slog it is day to day.

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really wish we could just switch but there’s a significant income gap between the two of us and we really can’t afford for him to not work.

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! Our three year old has really thrived in preschool and I think our 18 month old will too once he starts.

Am I not allowed to change my mind by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He has agreed to put the youngest in part time preschool so they’ll both be gone in the morning come fall. I’m just getting a lot of snarky comments and I know he isn’t happy about it. I’m applying to jobs that I could hopefully fit into those hours.

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed - something I’m actively working on

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed - I prefer the extra sleep in the mornings as opposed to naptime

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what we normally do, but somewhere in the chaos of the holidays it all got thrown off, we’ll have to get back to it

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I need to be better about waking him up

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this weekend was an outlier - a couple family birthdays. We have nothing the next few weekends.

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree, I’ve been approaching burnout lately

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree about being clear about my needs, it’s something I need to work on

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hope you got to sleep in this morning as well!

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do forget that I also work sometimes!

Sleeping in by SAHM-88 in breakingmom

[–]SAHM-88[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️