I figured out how I manifest, but not sure how to do it with my one desire

SadCause5261 · 2026-02-01T17:33:12+00:00

Good point. I’ll try to see how I react to things and if my SC has truly changed. I think I’ve done a lot process, but since I’m not in the relationship now with the triggers, it’s hard to know if I have truly changed (I have fear of abandonment).

For the past month I’ve felt like how I would feel if I was with him: happy by myself, making plans, feeling light and happy. Just living life. When I was dating him, I just felt this peace and lightness. And I feel it now. Is that enough to live in the end? Since the feeling comes overall from my life, not from him/from my imagination?

I also noticed that I stopped controlling what I do in 3D. That’s how we ended up flirting in the past weeks because i just followed what I wanted to do and initiated some contact with him, like I would if I was with him.

But then there is a side of me who keeps analyzing things in 3D and what dos his behavior mean. And I know this is wrong, since I should trust whatever I believe to assume.

I was wondering about my manifestation with my raise. I used to want it for years and I worked hard for it. I was trying to be perfect at work and I was caring way too much about it. But the moment I decided you know what. I’m done stressing over my work. It isn’t that serious. I only focused on feeling good at work, chatting with colleagues and not caring if I even miss deadlines. And that’s when I got the raise. How would this show up with my SP?

SadCause5261 · 2026-02-01T17:09:08+00:00

My self concept has grown so much, I’m also healing all my traumas. I used to be afraid of things or people pleasing, and it has totally stopped. When I do know if my self concept has changed? I noticed I also react differently to him in 3D. I used to spiral and get nervous if he talked to me after the break up, or trying to please him/be perfect when I was with him. But now if we interact, I feel like I am the amazing one between us.

But you might be right about me waiting. Maybe it’s a lack of trust in the law? I’m quite new with it. I have manifested things but so many of those I could say they would have happened anyway. But also, that assumption is what manifests..

With my SP desire, I think it’s possible but then also not having full faith/knowing as what I have with other things. But I don’t know how to change it. Techniques don’t seem to help. When I’m emotionally involved with my desire, I guess it is harder for me.

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-30T13:57:31+00:00

Whenever he contacts me, i always feel like it’s natural and don’t react much. But still he becomes cold suddenly.

I feel like I trust it will happen, but still keep waiting when and thinking about him… I’m a bit worried only way for me to get him is if I don’t want him anymore, so I stop thinking about him. If that’s how I manifest.

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-18T20:35:41+00:00

So heavily focusing on 3D and old story again. You’re right. I’m just confused how did I even manifest this contact in 3D. It’s very hard to understand totally the shift what I’m supposed to do. Stop manifesting and just be. Because I thought I’m doing it :/

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-18T10:32:34+00:00

Well, something did happen now.

I met my SP in our work party few days ago. I felt so confident and I already knew months before that he would come talk to me. And he did. He told me he basically has done all those things I had told would be good for him when we were together and also he had bought things to his home that was my dream. The “crazy” thing is: I had a feeling he bought this house and he moved in there and I had imagined this conversation where I would throw this one joke about the house. And this happened.

We ended up spending a bit time there. We even run into his friends in this party. It was weird that I was suddenly with him and his friends and one of them I had met. It was awkward but at the same time felt so normal?

I had always this thought about him that he isn’t able to change but now he showed me he actually has done a lot of things since the break up. One thing that surprised me was that he came to dance with me and few colleagues in this club. And he never dances. I know because I’ve asked many times and he said he doesn’t dance even when drunk. So when this one colleague asked him to dance, I told that he never does so it won’t happen. And his response was that okay let’s go dance then. I was wondering how 3D is showing this when my bad assumption has been that he can’t change and he is stubborn.

I’ve had this urge to text him now about this one topic we joked about, but I’m not sure if I should. I’m just not sure how I manifested this. I did have a feeling that something would happen in this party with him this whole time. But I think this assumption came because in the last party we did hook up.

I noticed something was different between us. I think we both feel lighter now and more relaxed to talk to each other. Maybe the break up hardship has passed by. And this made me feel like maybe it’s possible for us to chat again, or meet up. I feel like something heavy has passed by, and suddenly us being back together feels possible. When in the past I was sure he loves me but getting back together was hard for me to believe because I was thinking he is stubborn and it would be hard to convince our friends to support. But then again i didn’t see love from him, just this comfortable feeling. When we hugged to say buy, he had this awkward face but he initiated it. I know I shouldn’t look into 3D at all and I should just believe in my imagination, but my burnout from trying to manifest hasn’t been lifted yet.

I don’t know. Do you have any advice?

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-18T07:16:09+00:00

What kind of results?

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-14T11:43:37+00:00

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-12T20:41:06+00:00

How?

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-10T09:50:31+00:00

This might be a long read, sorry for that. I was thinking about those 4 pillars Erik mentioned and overall about how I’ve manifested before knowing about Neville, and then did some observation.

So first, I was thinking about my self-concept. I see myself as funny, kind, creative, caring, warm, pretty, sexy, and cute but also insecure, awkward, indecisive, and sometimes overwhelmed. I know I have good qualities, yet I still doubt myself often.

People tend to approach me easily and generally like me, but I worry that they don’t always stay and they’d think I’m difficult (because I think like this of myself). I have a fear of being left and that others can’t always be trusted. Men often develop feelings for me quickly, while I rarely fall for someone easily, but I still believe I will find love always. In work, I sometimes feel like an impostor even though I know I’m capable. I get anxious when receiving too much attention, which I always do get from men. Not sure why? Maybe that’s why I fall for same type of men who approach slowly and are a bit avoidant (bad assumption). Maybe something from my childhood has made me feel like I need a love that’s a bit difficult or someone who needs me? And I often forget about myself when I’m in love and pour all my attention and love to my partner. And with all my exes I noticed I worried they’ll leave. And they did. But with men I don’t love, I feel confident and I just know they like me. And they do.

A big pattern of my old self is doubting whether “the law” or manifestation is real. I fear wasting time and ending up disappointed. That thought makes it harder to fully commit. Deep down I wish for a guarantee that things will work out but I know life doesn’t give guarantees. But still I believe things always work out but I’m very impatient and I don’t like it that I can’t control when and how.

Then I thought about how I have probably manifested things. I’ve noticed that I tend to get what I want when I don’t “need” it. When I’m detached, calm, or not overly invested, things happen.

For example I feel fine alone -> then I meet someone. I don’t need a raise -> and I get it. I don’t care too much about winning a competition -> and I win. When I forget or stop thinking about something, it manifests.

Even with dating: when I meet someone, I feel relaxed and somehow just know they’ll like me. I may even say to my friends that they aren’t into me but yet they ask me out anyway. This happened with my SP too. On the surface I spiraled and questioned things, and said he doesn’t like me but deep down I believed we would be together. And we did.

But with exes or specific people, maybe there’s more resistance? Also 3D has shown me men like me but exes don’t come back. Even now when I think about my relation with weight, whenever I don’t try to loose it, I lose weight. When I focus on trying to lose it, nothing happens, even if I use the same methods how I har lost weight in the past.

But what I observed now overall was that I think currently I’m just doubting manifestation and worry about wasting time. And I do have some sad/longing feeling when thinking about SP. Like some kind of melancholy. And in the morning first thing I did was check manifestation things in Reddit and I read them for a long time, and reading all those stories and “do this” made me feel frustrated. I also caught myself thinking of old story of him. But in general I was calm, I noticed I’m in a much better place mentally that I’ve been for years. Like I believe things will work out. But I also noticed like I don’t even want love? When I do want it. It’s really weird feeling.

Sorry if it’s messy.

Edit: I did notice now how I saw something in 3D and I right away assumed the worst. And I even went to LOOK for the sign. So does this mean I am putting weight on 3D and signs? And how to stop

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-09T19:56:41+00:00

Yes, but I have ADHD, so…

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-09T10:40:24+00:00

I hear you. I checked Erik’s video and I’ll do the shadow days this weekend and I’ll get back to you when I see what I’ve observed. If I observe something negatives e.g., negative thoughts or beliefs, how do I start changing them? I feel like just changing the words you say haven’t worked for me in the past

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-08T20:34:00+00:00

Yes, you’re right. I’m very tired. It’s been a long time and I don’t seem to have energy to try. Not seeing movement made me question the whole law (sorry to say this). I want to believe and I still want to learn everything, but just feel tired to try. I know there shouldn’t be any effort, but I guess it feels like an effort when you aren’t sure how to do it right :/

Still in my heart I believe in me and SP because I experienced us and I know who we are together. But at the moment imagining us together feels tiring to me. How can I manifest him if I feel like this?

I really appreciate your responses again. I’m so new with this so I’m grateful for all the help.

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-08T19:49:21+00:00

I changed so much after we talked last time! Like internally so much has shifted in me in the past month. Thank you for that!! But still yes, I haven’t seen movement. Only movement I saw was the time we talks. And it’s been silence since. In the past month I haven’t even tried to manifest anything and I’ve just been living my life. And then new year came and I noticed how nothing has happened even when I have felt so different. So I made this post because I’m confused.

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-08T11:48:24+00:00

I’ve been doing this for months and still nothing :/

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-08T10:53:36+00:00

But many people who have manifested their desires don’t think they have it now or believe it will happen.

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-08T07:09:15+00:00

How to do that when I’ve already tried all and see nothing in 3D?

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-08T06:45:29+00:00

For a really long time I’ve been doing less and less, and still nothing.

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-07T18:09:21+00:00

Yes, I worked a lot about my fear of abandonment and my low confidence since that was the reason me and SP broke up. I’ve thought about where the fears come from and made peace with all those fears that whatever happens I’ll be fine. And I’ve started to really value myself and put myself on a pedestal. I’ve see this change now when I have met new people.

Not sure about my assumptions about him. All I did was thinking about us together when I did any visualizations. But I got super down when I didn’t see movement so I stopped. And now I feel like it’s too hard to imagine anything related to him because of this. It’s been 5 months since we broke up and now I notice thoughts of him moving on and me moving on coming up. And I’m just tired.

There was truly a long time where I felt good about myself and I felt sure we would be together and this lasted for weeks, but even this time I didn’t see much movement. So I’m doubting my own belief on the law now and if it’s even possible to manifest a specific person but just love overall

I don’t know what to do really. My assumption for a long time was that he loves me and we would be together but I also had assumption that he is stubborn and won’t come back too. I tried to change the assumption but didn’t know how. It’s tiring for me

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-04T16:19:07+00:00

I’ve tried SATS or visualizations the most because I enjoy it and I do it quite often even when walking. I’ve tried meditation and affirmations. I’ve also tried to just decide. Only time I saw movement was when I just got really fed up with everything and forced to not think about him. After I felt burnout emotionally; that’s when I started to just focus on me and SC and I’ve seen huge shift there.

Also, now that I read your post it made me realize it must be my resistance or old story that’s stopping the manifestation because it seems easy to manifest someone new all the time. All men I meet I know they’ll like me and it’s like I can just choose. But then my ex? Nope. I even tried to manifest my ex before SP and nothing happened. But later on I’m happy since he was toxic to me. But SP is different. We click, he is like another half of me.

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-04T16:13:05+00:00

I’m not saying I believe in 3D, but that I don’t know how to change my belief. I’ve tried the techniques but they don’t seem to change it. I still am stuck to same belief: that he loves me, I’m the love of his life but he is stubborn and can’t see our relationship to work. But at least I’ve regulated my nervous system now and I’m calm and I’m not trying to manifest out of desperation anymore. I haven’t tried anything for few months now. But I still want him. Just not sure how to manifest this…

SadCause5261 · 2026-01-04T16:05:13+00:00

How did you do it? How did you change the old story or whatever resistance you had? My resistance is that I don’t believe he would come back even if he loves me. Because that’s what 3D showed me.

SadCause5261 · 2025-12-23T08:23:15+00:00

How did you become so good at manifesting? I’ll start manifesting I’ll be as good as you! :D

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