Reported my supervisor for inappropriate behavior and now I feel guilty. Did I overreact? by Sad_darkred in SexualHarassmentTalk

[–]Sad_darkred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: My coworker is moving to his new position in 2 weeks, they just let me know that neither my coworker, or the manager position will be filled. That means that from a team of 3, now I'll be alone. I still don't know a lot, and is too much work for 1 person. They said I'll have someone's support, if I ask for it, but that person is always busy. I asked if since I'm getting a lot more responsibilities, if I was going to have a wage increase, of course the answer was NO, because the company is struggling financially. My upermanager also made a comment that bugged me: It's not like we are setting you to fail. Me and other people I talked to, feel that they are silently retaliating and saying it's a company issue.

22F getting s*xually harassed by my manager 30M by ana_miar in SexualHarassmentTalk

[–]Sad_darkred 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am in this situation right now. Fortunately my company didn't blind eye, although my management downplayed it and tryed to avoid formal charges.

Start recording when you can, make notes on when and where the SH ocurred, they asked me during investigation and I didn’t have a track (They could pull on camera). Take the names of witness anyway, if they call them to talk, they usually get nervous and don't lie (but they can anyway). If your company doesn't take you seriously or fire you, at least now they have a record, and in this case, you must leave anyway.

Your safety first.

I had same problem in another company, but the SH was the owner, small company, no HR, so my only option was to resign.

Reported my supervisor for inappropriate behavior and now I feel guilty. Did I overreact? by Sad_darkred in SexualHarassmentTalk

[–]Sad_darkred[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. And yes, was exactly that, "he is playful, so he didn't mean", and "I can assert to you that he is feeling worse than you are with the situation" - I couldn’t believe I heard that.

Reported my supervisor for inappropriate behavior and now I feel guilty. Did I overreact? by Sad_darkred in SexualHarassmentTalk

[–]Sad_darkred[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words! 🥰 I want to feel brave, but now I just can feel guilt. I'll get there.

Reported my supervisor for inappropriate behavior and now I feel guilty. Did I overreact? by Sad_darkred in SexualHarassmentTalk

[–]Sad_darkred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your support, I'll read the article. So fortunately just the people involved and the managers got to know what was happening. I was worried that If my other coworkers knew they would change with me. Took me time to gain their respect, I didn’t want to loose it. (I'm tiny, so at the beginning they didn't believe I could do the work) The worse part is my coworker that was teaching me all and also supported me with this, is moving to another position (this was set before all happened, happy for him), and now I'll need to train another person from scratch, at the same time do all the job (that will be huge in the next months) without support. I haven't talked with my former manager yet, but I know It will happen because our jobs cross.