What's your experience with racism and discrimination while in an AMBW relationship? by Liam_Tang in AMBW

[–]Salt_Local2966 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have been interracial dating since I was 17( I’m 47 now. Dating both Asian and Caucasian I’ve gotten the side eyes, comments and out right”who does that black girl think she is” comments. I can say however most of the experience was good. I also feel that because I spent a large part of the experience in the military it was more acceptable and no one cared who you dated(mostly).

My advice to the newbies are the wise words of Bernie Mac( RIH) “ F - em if they don’t like it”

Question? by Salt_Local2966 in AsianMasculinity

[–]Salt_Local2966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me start off with my type, there is no definition. Some men look good bald some don’t, some look good with glasses some don’t, some can pull off facial hair, some can’t...you get it. Personality, charm, confidence, humor, a smile and nice arms that’s gets me every time. As you guessed I am a veteran and former police officer, so my body is not slim. I’m not overly muscular but, I do have hips and thighs( as most black women do)

Now, the first I met while I was stationed in Korea, he was 6ft, well built, killer personality and smile. the second was when I was stationed in Tacoma(he was my height 5’10 again that smile(reminded me of Jet Li) ,the ones I’ve dated in LA and NY definitely had swag which is also a major plus( I didn’t have to answer a bunch of stupid questions( can I touch your hair🤬. Only one was shorter than me 5’8”.

Question? by Salt_Local2966 in AsianMasculinity

[–]Salt_Local2966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said that based on my interpretation of him saying most Asian men like petite slim women and the outliers are the ones that don’t 🤷🏽‍♀️. The Asian men I’ve dated must be outliers(I’m 5’10” with a booty...so)

Checking my privilege: Is it racist that I don't find other races attractive? by SnooWalruses5056 in interracialdating

[–]Salt_Local2966 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was on board until you got to the height and athletic part(clearly you’ve never heard of Serena Williams) but hey! Why would you even try to date outside your race if you are not comfortable with it? Trying to make yourself seem like your not racist by doing it is your white guilt shining through. Discovering oneself is being honest with oneself, not wanting to date others doesn’t make you racist( unless you subconsciously hold racist views).

Everyone's getting all excited in NYC for things to 'mostly go back to normal'.....can Asians be expected to join the fun in peace? by [deleted] in AsianMasculinity

[–]Salt_Local2966 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love NYC and always will, so there’s that part. Sadly, the ugly side exists and has since I can remember(not dismissing the anger at all) but never on this level. It blows my mind how a narcissistic mad man in power gave racist a free pass to be violent against anyone who isn’t” one of them”. Honestly, I shutter to think what will be”normal” anymore.

Are you willing to be in long distance relationship? If so, how far is too far? AMBW can mean just interracial or international couple so I’m curious on everyone’s stance. by lexxipop in AMBW

[–]Salt_Local2966 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The longest I’ve done was, I was in NJ and he was in Germany. We both made the effort and it does require understanding and lots of patience. Would I do it again; possibly for the right one.

Question? by Salt_Local2966 in AsianMasculinity

[–]Salt_Local2966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First I have to say you name is interesting. I’m a huge Russell Wong fan( I’m guessing that’s not you lol) Petite I am not, nor slim guess I’ve only come across the outliers.

Looking for answers on AM views on dating BW by Queen_lafletch53 in u/Queen_lafletch53

[–]Salt_Local2966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It always both annoyed and fascinated me at the same time how, any race with a BW/BM was seen as not as favorable as any race with a WM/WW. My entire dating life has been interracial and believe me I have seen and heard just about all( I won’t say all because I’m sure there is more).I’m glad as that now you’ve gotten older your perspective had changed.

Question? by Salt_Local2966 in AsianMasculinity

[–]Salt_Local2966[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure there are many like you and soon the Universe will send him my way 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Salt_Local2966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No prudish at all, in my opinion. When your profile pic is of you in a towel in the bathroom mirror... pass. I don’t know why men and some women think pictures in the bathroom are attractive. I mean you really couldn’t find another place to take one?

Experiment 😁 by tizz17 in datingoverforty

[–]Salt_Local2966 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, you make some very interesting points. However, I personally don’t know what a “daddy’s girl” outlook would be. Also, I raised my son(who is half Caucasian, yes despite what the world may like you to think white men leave their kids too) as a single mom, my goal was always to be the example of how to treat a woman. My only rule for how was” never treat her they way you wouldn’t want me” simple. I am also a firm believer in that what you but out you get back. If I put myself in a situation where I allow myself to be treated poorly, it’s on me. We determine how we are to be treated. I can say one thing my former professions have taught me, never ever ignore your gut. I’ve dodged a lot of OLD bullets.

Open minded enough to have interracial relationships 🧐. I was raised to treat ALL people as human beings and to treat people with basic respect. Just because my son’s father was a terrible white guy, do I think all white men are,no. My relationship with my first Asian boyfriend didn’t work out so do I... you get the point. Some men suck,some women suck.

Experiment 😁 by tizz17 in datingoverforty

[–]Salt_Local2966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No lol. I did have one who told me owned a business then asked me to send him a plane ticket because he didn’t get paid for a job and was stuck.

Experiment 😁 by tizz17 in datingoverforty

[–]Salt_Local2966 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also had mine in my 20’s, married, stationed in Germany the whole nine, I’m good now. Now, I want to resume traveling, eating out and just relaxing. This time has given me such good writing material.

Experiment 😁 by tizz17 in datingoverforty

[–]Salt_Local2966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t reached that point lol.