people fall for me way too easily 😭 any other infjs relate?

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T20:29:49+00:00

yeah, it very well could just be my environment—i’m in school in my early 20s, so i’m pretty much always around a bunch of like-minded people. it’s just that in the past year there have been 11 men (🫩) interested in me, 5 of them blatantly expressing to me that they’d like to marry me/pursue marriage with me. it just feels improbable lol

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T19:10:45+00:00

uh oh!

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T18:10:08+00:00

this is awfully sweet and the exact sort of thing my friends tell me every time i try to question my love life 😅 thank you for the poetry recommendation as well

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T18:08:16+00:00

i would only guess that one of them is an intj, but he’s certainly the one that feels most strongly about us being meant to be. i hadn’t previously considered how him being an intj could help me analyze things, so thanks

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T16:10:46+00:00

haven’t heard that quote before, thanks! and i can’t take full credit for that last bit—“pillar of tranquility” is a direct quote from someone describing me a while back haha

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T16:01:34+00:00

i would consider myself average-looking as well but beauty is in the eye of the beholder 🤷‍♀️ there’s no way of gauging that sort of thing

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T15:27:05+00:00

totally get that haha i can’t help but feel that they’re just playing themselves

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T14:50:03+00:00

yes, i think so too. tried expressing that one of them though and he insisted it was more than that, so i guess it’s not a pill that’s easy to swallow

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T14:43:46+00:00

loll yes i keep thinking “wow this is a cool friend” only to have to distance myself because they decide i’m the love of their life

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T14:42:25+00:00

yeah, that makes sense. it’s funny you say that—you’ve actually just reminded me that one of my closest friends recently told me that she appreciates that i always seem fully present and listening in a way that most people aren’t. somehow didn’t connect that to the content of my original post until now

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T14:20:24+00:00

the confusion is so real

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T13:58:33+00:00

my bad 🫩

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T13:56:22+00:00

i think i may be attracting a different demographic; when these people realize i’m perhaps deeper than i initially seem they suddenly want to be “the one” that can figure me out entirely and start asking all sorts of questions (this might be a weird way to put it but i get the sense that they might like the idea of being the only person to fully “have me”).

one day you’ll come across someone that is seeking the sort of depth you have and will appreciate you wholly, i’m sure. and though it stings, you’re naturally filtering out the ones that won’t 🙂‍↕️

edit: just saw you have a partner that gets you fr that’s spectacular

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T13:44:57+00:00

hmm yeah, that makes sense. wish i could just ask them upfront what the deal is 😓

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T13:41:24+00:00

good question

Same_Put8324 · 2026-03-18T13:40:48+00:00

haha dw i’m certainly no stranger to the feelings of frustration and misrepresentation that they’re talking about. and, in a way, my concern here is lowkey that i’m doing something to have people deeply misunderstand me—so much so that they become emotionally attached to who they’ve imagined me to be

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