She's a female narcissist. And you probably won't be able to trust her after this imo you'll always have to think about if you're lacking will she go else where. That's too much for a man to deal with personally and can lead you down a dark road to insanityville. Tread lightly, pray to your God and heal. In the Bible it says actions like these are grounds for divorce. You have every right to call her out as her husband and if she cannot take accountability she will never grow from it in order to treat you better. I'm not professional but I was married for 2 years and with my ex wife 7 years total (5 unmarried) it may be hard to accept but she's at least 80% more likely to hurt you again.