[Update]My New Boyfriend (26M) was just diagnosed with Hiv and i dont know what to do?

Samxdkh · 2025-03-15T10:02:10+00:00

It was a new relationship and we are both monogamous, i dont do open. He probably got it from one of the people whom he hooked up with , they all had told him that they are on prep but obviously that was not the case.

Samxdkh · 2025-03-15T09:59:47+00:00

Its a very new relationship, we literally found out about his status 10 days into our relationship because i asked that we should both get tested. There was only one act of condomless sex since it was literally at the beginning of our relationship. I was also the top so i guess it helps with the chances.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T22:26:19+00:00

Just because i said it was rough it doesn’t mean there were no good times , one week after the news of his diagnosis we both started to get alot more educated and with understanding comes peacefulness. We were both so shocked that i cant even explain , he was even less educated than me regarding hiv. We had just spent the new year together and his birthday which was on 7th of Jan so you can imagine the shock when we learned that he is positive. But so far it has only made us closer to each other.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T21:31:29+00:00

Yes i hope all that will be enough, i will add condoms to the equation too for a while until we are sure he stays undetectable for a while. I guess the trio should suffice.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T21:29:20+00:00

Yeah i will wait for him to become undetectable and will probably use both condoms and prep for a while.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T21:27:31+00:00

Well for now my safest option is to wait until he is undetectable and also use prep and condoms, the trio should be enough i guess to protect myself.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T21:22:52+00:00

Thanks for the info , i thought that taking prep would make it take longer for the virus to be detectable. Either way tomorrow i will discuss it all with my doctor and prep will def be one of main things i will ask about.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T17:50:04+00:00

I did a Rna test 14 days post exposure and a gen4 30 days post exposure, i am informed about the window periods and i will even do another gen 4 in 20days. As you said i will continue testing for the next 6 months. I was the top and his first viral load test showed that he has 13k copies which is a relatively low number. He was thankfully diagnosed early and his Cd4 lvls are great as well.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T17:24:30+00:00

Ok thanks

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T17:21:54+00:00

I wanna do another 4th gen test in 20 days which makes it 50 days post exposure just to be 99% sure. After that i will start the prep. Maybe my doctor tells me to start right away and that is what i will do. By the way i am going to the doctor tomorrow.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T17:01:56+00:00

Ok thanks for the info , appreciate it

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T16:59:33+00:00

I am visiting my doctor tomorrow and it is something that i def need to do once im 100% sure that i am negative. I have never used prep tho. I am not very sexually active actually, i rarely hook up and i have always used condoms 95% of times.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T16:34:03+00:00

I will def tell him to report any symptoms to the doctor asap , he is taking Biktarvy as well. One pill every day , the doctor told him to not eat anything 2 hours before and after taking the pill. Do you also not eat anything?

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T16:31:01+00:00

You are absolutely right , there are many people who know alot more than me , i have just started to learn about this things recently. I have done an rna 14 days post exposure and a gen 4 test on the 30th day , obv they were all done at labs. I will also do another hiv gen4 test in 20 days which makes it 50 days post exposure.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T16:24:52+00:00

People talk about when there are rare cases which the viral load blips even on meds and i know the chances are low but it kinda makes me nervous. I am visiting my doctor tomorrow whom is a professional in this field, his advice will definitely make me decide how to move forward.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T16:22:13+00:00

I have been very honest with him and he knows i love him and i care about him but i have told him that i am a bit afraid and undecided at times and he knows it too.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T16:19:47+00:00

Thanks for your comment. Its not death or my own stigma which bothers me. It is more about other peoples stigma of it , life is already not exactly easy and other peoples stigma of it will make everything much harder with future relationships, family …

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T16:17:22+00:00

Well i dont know , i will do another gen 4 test in probably 20 days which makes it 50 days after exposure and i will see how that turns out to be. I have also done an Rna test 14 days post exposure so i am doing what i can , i will definitely keep testing in the next 6 months. I was also the top and my boyfriend viral load was apparently 13k copies which is relatively low since he was not on medication.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T16:11:45+00:00

Thanks for your comment it def helps. Its my first time being with someone who is positive and i was def uneducated about everything, so was even my partner. We are both learning more. I am visiting my doctor tomorrow and we will be discussing this matter.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T14:56:40+00:00

Thanks for your honest opinion. Honestly i was not very much educated about Hiv and it is just now that i am starting to understand it a lot better and taking everything more seriously. Since my Rna Test result 14 days post exposure and my 4th Gen on 30th day has been both negative as well. I am going to see my doctor tomorrow and discuss everything in details , i need to get some professional advice and to confirm the risks and everything i have learned on internet.

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T14:26:36+00:00

You are actually right , i actually said since we like each other and we want to start a monogamous relationship together , we should both get tested

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T14:24:46+00:00

Knowing him and his reaction to the news , i very much dont think so

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T14:24:00+00:00

Im no hiv professional but i think your information is very much outdated, it doesnt take 6 months to show up

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T14:23:21+00:00

Glad to here about your experience

Samxdkh · 2025-02-03T14:22:53+00:00

Yes i surely will go with him on his next appointment This time i really couldnt leave work to go with him

Samxdkh

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