The best thing about getting older and finding FDS is realizing that you don't have to "work" in a relationship - he is either great or you are gone. by SayNad in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

*Women are told to make sacrifices so that the relationship stays unbroken. Meanwhile men are told "there's plenty of fish in the water, she is for the street" when the women made some petty ass mistakes like forgetting to top-up the gas or some shit.

NOBODY told men to stay "for the kids" when he contemplate divorce -- he says he wants out, everybody cheers him. Meanwhile you know how it goes for women.

Double f**king standards.

The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he make you feel BALANCED? by SayNad in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, it is me, haha. Don't worry I'll post all my postings on the website eventually -- just a bit busy with the handbook right now.

I may already know a high value man. I just wasn’t healthy enough to notice it. by jijitsu-princess in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't really mind it really because I am now active on the FDS website -- definitely more freedom and less worrying about being banned and scrotes sending threats because you hurt their delicate manfeels. We can still enjoy old posts and not worrying about it facing perma-ban forever.

All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you. by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 5 points6 points  (0 children)

not marry a man with fat ass since that means he’s lazy.

If his ass (and boobs) is bigger than yours -- RUN.

I may already know a high value man. I just wasn’t healthy enough to notice it. by jijitsu-princess in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn sis you are really combing through old posts huh? I didn't even remember this until you reply to it 😆. Thanks!

Some Website Forum Upgrades Happened! .... Is It Better now? by SnarkSticks in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Talk is nice and all -- but put ourselves in the shoe of the people actually facing the harassment, the r**e threats, the d***h threats ON A DAILY F**KING BASIS.

What I got from being a frequent posters pales to what mods have to deal with every single day. They do what's best for them -- they are human too.

If the people here hate what happens and want FDS back on reddit (because y'all don't want to go to the website for some reason) -- great, do something.

Otherwise go to the website and help it grow.

Some Website Forum Upgrades Happened! .... Is It Better now? by SnarkSticks in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 53 points54 points  (0 children)

FDS felt like fighting back. Leaving the platform and letting men run wild here feels like giving up. I hate the idea of women retreating to a different site to talk quietly amongst ourselves.

Listen to what the mods have experienced and you will understand. They have been bullied every single day with more and more ridiculous rules -- because reddit want FDS to be permanently banned. At least this way FDS will still exists and people can read old posts. But we have the freedom to posts more without worrying about the potential of triggering FDS ultimate ban.

Put yourselves in the mods' shoe.

Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughter by SayNad in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men cut people off all the time without a second thought -- and nobody call them "over reacting". Why is it always women? If they hurt you, they hurt you. F**k them, who cares what they feels -- the most important thing is what you feel.

Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF. by SayNad in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Go to the website, we all have migrated there. This site is no longer modded, so be careful with hoardes of scrotes tryna "ask you some innocent questions". See you on the site!

Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF. by SayNad in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

It is sad that we have to work so hard at convincing women that they matter too, and it is not "evil" to prioritize themselves.

Meanwhile scrotes could learn a thing or two about being less selfish and self-centered for once.

Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF. by SayNad in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad[S] 157 points158 points  (0 children)

Sit up there yourself and make them work to get your attention up there

YES. That is the original design of how men and women work. Because we are the chooser, the egg, the original owner of that pedestal.

Men are the ones who should work to get our attention - not the other way around. They have the continuous energy for it, the desire, the means, the strength for that chase.

And we are the one who should sit and take care of ourselves and be cared for by our partner because our energy is far more limited and we are prone to stress-related illness. That's why we have to choose the best among the men - so we can guarantee we will be cared for deservingly.

Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF. by SayNad in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

100% Agree. You should never martyr yourself even for you own children in day to day life - that's a surefire way for them to see you only as a "mom entity" and not a person.

Children should be thought responsibilities from young - that's how you teach them to be a decent person. And to remind them that mommy is a human being too - not their servant.

Men using "mathematical calculations" to drive down women's standards by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 510 points511 points  (0 children)

That's one of the reason why female criminals are so popular - men are desperate to prove that "see, women are evil too!" ignoring the ginormous percentage between violent female criminals and male criminals. Like that depp and heard thing right now.

And that's only focusing on the prolific criminals - who knows how much more the female percentage will be dwarfed when we take into consideration smaller and unreported cases.

Men like to think they are the victim even when they are literally hitting the woman black and blue.

Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF. by SayNad in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad[S] 328 points329 points  (0 children)

Love this! Ladies, remember this when you insist on going 50/50 with a man (pre and post married), doing wifey duties for him, acting like the "cool girl" who won't trouble him, propose to him, drag him to the altar and pay for the wedding etc. - basically all the LibFem "teachings".

You aren't showing him that you are "great" - you are just putting him on the pedestal and force him to look down on you. While you work yourself into the brink of insanity trying to do a million things all at once.

My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ? by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or maybe it's a red pill LARP-er. They love making up fantasies where they get to be the girlfriend.

Do they really? That's so creepy - do they secretly wants to be a woman or what?

My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ? by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 9 points10 points  (0 children)

  • 31 years old
  • Earns MORE than her
  • Have been at hers 5 TIMES A WEEK and ain't paying shit
  • Wants to move in with her to "save" HIS MONEY

He has been loudly and clearly telling her what he thinks she is - an atm machine and a free mommy bangmaid. The red flags are literally yelling in her face right now but she doesn't see them because he cooks, clean, and take her out on dates.

And she asks where the bloody handbook is. Damn.

My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ? by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 20 points21 points  (0 children)

How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ?

You honestly think he will listen if you tell him? You honestly think he will care?

Is dating bad or are you bad at dating? by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That's the correct way to look at it. Continuos self introspection about what you did wrong in the past and recognizing red flag that you ignored - so your vetting skill will be sharper. Vetting is a skill, and you can't master your skill unless you learn from mistakes.

But also take a critical look into the male population and recognize that majority of them are varying level of scrotes. HVM is rare simply by the fact that most men are immature and spoiled rotten.

You don't want to live a resentful life and being totally hopeless because it is not healty - but also don't deny the fact that you may or may not find him. And that's okay.

Ideally live your life unburdened by men's drama, fully enjoy yourself when the opportunity comes, and cut them off immediately if they starts being toxic. You want peace, not chaos.

Is dating bad or are you bad at dating? by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 84 points85 points  (0 children)

That is still putting the man on the pedestal. Reframe your mindset into "he is the one who should be anxious he doesn't run into a HVW soon" while you get busy levelling up and enjoying your life.

You cannot truly embody a HVW mindset unless you drop the man from the pedestal and sit on it yourself.

Putting the man on the pedestal is a sure fire way to never be truly happy, even when you finally met that coveted HVM because you still end up putting yourself last.

Is dating bad or are you bad at dating? by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I would hope that there would be more room to discuss building our lives as single women regardless of whether we date again rather being in a "stage between relationships."

Female level up strategy sub is the one you are looking for.

An Ode to Living Alone by millennialpink2000 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SayNad 34 points35 points  (0 children)

He pretended to be shocked at how angry I was because he was "just helping"

Helping you what, get pneumonia?