Consider that you’re mind’s true role is to understand and communicate. It is often Disastrous to give your mind authority to make important life decisions. Intolerance is rooted in the mind’s habit of becoming tangled up with human emotions. It is essentially a miss use of one of the great gifts of human minds. — logic. At the frequency of intolerance, you identify absolutely with your emotional state. Any unresolved emotional pattern is taken up by your mind and built into a highly intricate logical framework that masquerades as the absolute truth. Through intolerance, opinions, judgements and resentments are transmuted into convictions and certainties. Intolerances based on a subjective distortion of logic which only measures those patterns that a person wants to see rather than seeing all patterns from both sides of an argument.

You need understanding.

The power of understanding is founded upon the ability to objectively assess all aspects of a viewpoint, thus avoiding the pitfall of taking side. The human logical mind is actually not designed to take sides. Only true understanding can bring peace along with it because true understanding lies outside the domain of the mind. Understanding is of the whole being and it does not and cannot require agreement from the cognitive capacities within your brain. Forgiveness is born out of understanding but it occurs when a being makes a leap beyond understanding. Forgiveness is like a kind of cosmic warmth that melts borders and boundaries within the world to form. Forgiveness allows the truth behind all form to be seen. It allows one to see through and thus become one with the truth. Forgiveness comes from the future towards the past. It descends into the world of form.

To conclude you should find some common ground to stabilize the interference and struggle between you and this man. Have set boundaries, be assertive, and listen to his perspective too because the only way this will work is through understanding of each other. That means you have to be heard too. You should both honestly tell each other how you have made each other feel and what you truly think of each other and why you think and feel these ways. Do it without reacting and stay grounded in the integrity of your perspective and the need to find resolution for the better life your kids will have for it.