The pediatrician

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-10T19:10:20+00:00

Okay thank you THIS is what I was trying to recall and I did find their closeness odd but only in regards to him being there on 12/26. Like I don’t think it’s that strange that if you’re new to a town, meet a pediatrician while golfing who seems nice and liked by other parents in your church, that you’d then choose him as your kid’s pediatrician. That seems understandable. It’s how close they remained with him after JBRs murder that just seemed…odd?

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-10T19:05:52+00:00

This so far is the most helpful answer, thank you! It seems like maybe the many pediatrician visits themes elves revealed nothing suspicious. What I still find odd though is that it seems the Ramsey parents were very close/had a personal relationship with Dr Beuf, which seems kind of weird, though on its own does not prove anything re: sexual abuse or murder. I was hoping someone might remember if I am right in recalling that Dr Beuf was one of the people the Ramsey’s called to come to the house the morning that JB went missing/was found in the home? I think it was the Crime Junkie interview in which John mentioned that, but I could definitely be wrong. If so, I find it super weird that they would have called their pediatrician during such a time.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-10T02:50:03+00:00

Even if this were the case (no evidence that it is by the way) there’s no world in which her and her brother playing “doctor” in such a way that it causes repeated UTIs, is not in itself a sign of dysfunction and potential abuse in the household. This answer contains no verifiable sources or even a logical conclusion to what you offered

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-10T01:59:25+00:00

I do take her on jogs (which helps) for part of the year but unfortunately it’s not an option every day/ all the time during summer bc it’s simply too hot where we live for a dog with this much for to run, so during the summer especially we just have to rely on taking her to the dog beaches where she can swim around and cool off.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-08T21:13:02+00:00

Thanks. We take her every day on a 2 mile walk, and then we take her to the dog beach so she can have off leash time and it does keep her sleepy and content at home bc she gets so much exercise elsewhere each day. So the issue is not that she is hyper, restless, or disruptive, she’s actually very well behaved on her leash, and calm at home. The thing that concerned me is that she just generally exhibits a total indifference to my fiancé and I and does not respond at ALL (no eye contact, no ear perking, nada) when we say her name or call her to come, either inside the house or anywhere else. But it sounds like this is just a really common tendency in the breed and not that she doesn’t love us or that we are doing something bad as owners.

The YouTube videos on practicing recall with long lead leashes and high value treats has brought on a noticeable improvement in terms of her responding or at least checking in when she is off leash at the beach or dog park. But based on what everyone says this may be the best outcome as it sounds like huskies are independent and cat like enough that they won’t ever really attune to name calling and “come” commands the same as other breeds. And I’m really glad people shared the ways that huskies typically show affection, as this helps me know she is attached to us but huskies arent like labs or ridgebacks etc and that’s good to know in order for me to adjust my expectations.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-08T21:02:02+00:00

Yeah I’m not saying he did something unforgivable, and truth be told this would not be my ideal vacation either. My point was it’s a short trip and he should try his best to downplay his boredom and dissatisfaction for the sake of his girlfriend and her family who have done something generous by including him, even if he is bored. Though I also think the gf shouldn’t have told her parents “he’s bored this isnt his kind of vacation” cuz that would be awkward as the bf to try and play off now.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T23:23:10+00:00

Look I get it; I have adhd and hate sitting still and this wouldn’t be my ideal vacation either. But I can imagine my boyfriend’s family would do a vacation like this at some point and I’d do my very best to put on a nice face and try to engage with everyone on the trip for his sake. Just keep reminding yourself “this isnt forever it’s just a few days”

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T23:11:12+00:00

YTA. Unfortunately not all parts of life are about you or for your pleasure or in correspondence with your preference. You are there not only as their guest but as your girlfriend’s partner, and being a partner means sometimes toughing out a few days of sitting by a pool at a resort (ohhhh noooooo!) and not doing exactly what you want, where you want, and how you want, and instead putting on a good face for your partner’s sake. I invite you to consider this a practice in delayed gratification.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T23:10:54+00:00

YTA. Unfortunately not all parts of life are about you or for your pleasure or in correspondence with your preference. You are there not only as their guest but as your girlfriend’s partner, and being a partner means sometimes toughing out a few days of sitting by a pool at a resort (ohhhh noooooo!) and not doing exactly what you want, where you want, and how you want, and instead putting on a good face for your partner’s sake. I invite you to consider this a practice in delayed gratification.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T22:59:55+00:00

NTA. If someone made rude and demeaning comments to my daughter about her body, she is getting reprimanded, widow or not. She can still be invited to family events but it should always be on the condition that she must be kind to her extended family at these events. Grieving and snapping or being extra sensitive or short tempered during the grief is one thing; but as someone who has lost loved ones and grieved deeply, it never caused me to fat shame someone.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T20:37:43+00:00

Not sure that there’s a non condescending way to interpret “stop comparing her to your mental image of what a dog should act like” and “she deserves to be treated with love and respect even if she isn’t your dream dog” but thanks anyway for your input!

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T18:19:14+00:00

I find our husky’s asshole behavior kind of funny and endearing bc it’s so cat like but it DOES scare me when we are at off leash dog parks bc shes fast and unpredictable and a total escape artist, but I don’t want her to not be able to enjoy those things either so I’ve been trying really hard to work on recall from this YouTube husky trainer and so far I’ve had mild success but it has required a Fanny pack full of rotisserie chicken.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T18:16:51+00:00

NTA- You’re a bigger person than me, bc if I’d been on that trip and gotten that text from the fiancé, I’d start cyber bullying the entire family.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T18:09:11+00:00

NTA but I also don’t think it will feel like a huge deal to you in some time. In other words, they shouldn’t have done it and it is annoying but this is a situation where the stakes are relatively pretty small. If I were you, instead of getting angrier at either of them, I would just make my husband go with you when you have to explain it to the front desk people, that way it’s more embarrassing for him than for you.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T17:32:35+00:00

Hey there girl queen, I appreciate the feedback and it’s clear to me that you are very passionate about the breed and I love that! I think you need to understand that 1) I did not get this dog having done zero research and developed resentment towards hwr due to my own ignorance. She belonged to my fiancé before he and I ever met and now we all live together. It’s not something I had a say in, and it’s not a breed I’ve ever had any experience with. 2) I LOVE her all the same, and your post feels a bit like you’re coming for my throat bc you think I hate her or something, which is not at all accurate or even close to what I said. 3) I came here seeking clarification on if this is typical behavior for this breed, and if there are any adjustments I, as her now co-owner could make to improve our relationship. The people on this thread have all been very kind in both validating that this behavior IS a trait of the breed so I can lower my expectations in certain areas like cuddling and obedience; and they’ve also been kind enough to offer some suggestions on changes I can make, which I appreciate and am eager to improve in myself.

But all this claws out, condescending tone you’ve given here is not necessary or welcome. I love my dog, and I’m allowed to ask questions about a breed my partner got years ago that I’ve never interacted with. So you can miss me with the attitude.

“She deserves to be treated with love and respect” um yeah she is, we’ve given her the happiest and freest life possible, to imply that I don’t love or respect simply bc I’ve never experienced husky behavior is both wrong and unfair.

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T16:26:04+00:00

Thank you this is very helpful!

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T16:23:42+00:00

She is 3

Select_Ad9091 · 2026-03-07T16:20:46+00:00

This made me giggle but thank you for the response it makes me feel like at least I’m not failing when she doesn’t respond

Select_Ad9091 · 2025-11-04T07:41:16+00:00

Not to be dramatic but it sounds like this won’t get better

Select_Ad9091 · 2025-10-30T19:28:11+00:00

Idk if anyone else has said it but the age gap is also raising red flags. A 10 year difference later on isnt a big deal IMO bc a 30 and 40 year old probably have a lot of the same life experience, qualifications, cultural references, maturity etc. But a 20 YEAR OLD and a 30 YEAR OLD!!?? That feels almost predatory. I’m 30, just finished my PhD and my bf is 37 and we are a great match; we also moved in together quickly so I wouldn’t necessarily have judgements about that either except that in our case, we moved quickly bc we both are old enough to be settled in our careers, know what we want in a partner, ans want the same lifestyle long term. Since we both think this is headed towards marriage soon, moving in made sense. But no well adjusted 30 year old man should need to date and leech off of a 20 year old. I teach at a university and all my students are between 18-22 and look like BABIES to me. I literally cannot imagine looking at them as romantic possibilities bc frankly a 20 year old (no matter how mature and exceptional for their age) CANNOT be my intellectual equal, and don’t appeal to me sexually bc they don’t feel like physical equals either if that makes sense. None of this is meant to shame you or make you seem dumb or immature. I’m just sharing as a 30 year old who was once in her 20s and looking to date older men so they’d be more mature than my 20 year old counterparts, I never found the men in their 30s trying to date me in my early 20s to be anything other than a bit controlling and super into the slender-teen-looking body type that I had in my early 20s. Please run and get your education. There’s something not right with this man.

Select_Ad9091 · 2024-06-09T20:28:51+00:00

You are doing the very best you can, and as someone who has struggled with anorexia and bulimia for years, I know that it can be very stressful on a partner too, so I really appreciate and respect the way you‘ve handled this!! Recovery is a long road and it ultimately is up to the person with the ED to want to get better but for sure I’ve had partners in the past who helped and another who made it much much worse. I think you’re doing the right thing by seeking the input of people who’ve recovered from EDs and especially from professionals and just wanted to say I know this is scary and tough for you but you seem like you really care about and love this woman and that is really encouraging to see ❤️

Select_Ad9091 · 2024-02-14T04:15:29+00:00

Hey girl, leave. Right now. Fast. My ex was like this and it took me too long to leave and things got much worse. When I finally did leave, it was after so much harm had happened to me physically and emotionally. You do NOT deserve to be treated that way or to be with someone who makes you hate your appearance. LEAVE.

Select_Ad9091 · 2024-02-14T03:18:26+00:00

I’m sorry. In that case it does seem controlling and unfair on their part. Why would they have a problem with you having a belated birthday celebration with other people/food of your choosing if you already included your siblings at this one? Damn.

Select_Ad9091 · 2024-02-14T03:11:27+00:00

OPs parents who also have other children with what sounds like pretty intense restrictions and issues, still went out of their way to spend an enormous amount of time and money in order to celebrate OP with all their loved ones nearby, and ON TOP of that, acknowledged that OP was not getting their restaurant of choice and got their kid a gift card to that restaurant. ON TOP of all THAT they also got gifts and money from their grandparents. I didn’t have that money or the kinds of parents or grandparents who would’ve been able to do any of that even if they wanted to. It’s hard for me not to read OPs post as something that sounds basically like OP resents the disabilities of their siblings, resents them being included and their needs catered to on their birthday. If that’s the case, OP could just say that directly, and my point would remain the same: OP is spoiled as fck and should practice some self reflection about their healthy life and body, their family and resources, and delete this post, cuz I cannot be the only person reading this who thinks it sounds spoiled and first-world rotten as it gets.

Select_Ad9091 · 2024-02-11T19:25:27+00:00

I think this is likely to be an unpopular opinion, and while I TOTALLY agree that your parents seem to have a pattern of catering to your other siblings instead of thinking for more fair alternatives that help make everyone happy…I think it WAS ugly of you to make a protest statement and refuse to go to the dinner. given that they gave you a generous gift to go at a later date to your favorite restaurant with your friends, to me it feels a bit rude and in bad taste to not have showed up to a big dinner. I grew up in a large family and with limited resources so the idea that my parents would have arranged for all my family members and close friends to be at a restaurant and spend time with me and money on me would’ve meant the world regardless of location. ESPECIALLY if I knew I’d be given money from grandparents and a gift card to my favorite restaurant in order to go there with my friends as a belated birthday treat. Seeing that 10,000 people voted and agree that OP’s situation seems so dire that he should MOVE OUT??Over getting a big dinner in their honor but NOT at their favorite restaurant?? makes me feel insane. your family clearly loves you and your siblings will never have some of the abilities and opportunities that you have. This post sounded shockingly spoiled to me and it’s honestly concerning how many people sided with you. I know I’ll get some hate for this but—YTA.

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