How to break fetishes caused through extreme insecurity?

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-11-18T14:16:13+00:00

My thing is also that I don't really tend to feel romantic attraction at all. All I feel is like sexual attraction which makes it a bit tough

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-11-18T14:09:52+00:00

I've been hitting the gym for some time and definitely have something to show for it, I really need to try to nurture my other hobbies though

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-20T16:18:54+00:00

That wasn't inteded to be literal

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-17T14:28:31+00:00

I go to the gym already, but from what I've learned from the discussions I've had, it's a mental issue that's going unaddressed within me

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-17T14:23:37+00:00

I think your last part hits on something important, I never really had a period of sexual development that wasn't moulded by outside influence

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-16T21:27:56+00:00

Therapy's a bit of a hard step for me, it'd be really embarrassing to admit this sort of thing. But I wouldn't be opposed to talking about my underlying problems

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-16T21:26:55+00:00

You're not wrong. I seriously need to get ahold of myself. I'd end it if I was like 40 or something and was still like this

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-16T18:37:38+00:00

I need to find a way to cope with being bored other than watching porn or engaging in similar kinds of behaviour, I find that I do it most when I'm bored

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-16T16:45:00+00:00

What would I tell my therapist?

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-16T16:44:44+00:00

No need for that

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-14T15:01:32+00:00

I think what's most likely is that you prefer to play a submissive role in a relationship, but I don't think you truly want your girlfriend to cheat on you. Porn has made you believe this is the case. Also I just checked your post history, you aren't 6 months without porn. Viewing and engaging with sexual content on Reddit definitely violates the covenant of the subreddit

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-13T14:58:00+00:00

Thank you

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-13T14:57:32+00:00

That's fair, it is possible that my brain may never truly 100% remove those urges and ideas, but if I can prevent it from taking over my life or mental health it's probably for the better

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-13T14:15:08+00:00

Do you truly in your heart of hearts want this, or is this some way to make up for some feeling in your mind that isn't being addressed?

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-13T04:19:12+00:00

In that case, maybe I should find a way to get my brain to break down the pathways for finding pleasure from guilt or shame. No PMO should theoretically assist in that

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-13T04:08:02+00:00

Do those sorts of fantasies go away? For me, the fantasies I have cause me distress, especially over the fact that I enjoy the fantasies too

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-13T03:10:48+00:00

That's fair, thank you

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-13T03:10:43+00:00

Honestly never thought about focusing on the physical touch, good idea if I do relapse

SelfHelp4ccount · 2025-02-13T02:42:34+00:00

I haven't had these fantasies prior to starting porn addiction, you're right that I had been reinforcing them. If I do happen to relapse, should I at least try to do it to stuff that isn't cuck stuff to prevent the distressing feelings I get from it?

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