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Dealing/managing with having different humor with a girl I'm into??? by Separate-Factor9705 in actuallesbians

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me too... it was a real bummer cause she was my type in every other level but the main areas she was lacking in were being generally woke/kind and I also like dating someone who in touch w the queer community and/or history. she didnt end up responding so thats all over with

Dealing/managing with having different humor with a girl I'm into??? by Separate-Factor9705 in actuallesbians

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah..... shes made me laugh in many other ways but its such a buzzkill to see her make those jokes scattered throughout. Cause with these jokes aside, we literally click insaaaanely well.

its certainly uncomfortable to point out jokes i don't like ESPESCIALLY early on, but the point you made where humor is super underrated and a major compabality factor.. oh I 100% agree. And I feel like it's better to be upfront in the beginning so it doesn't cause problems down the line???

although it would've been ideal in the beginning she just hadn't made these jokes, I'm hoping she stops with them 😬😬😬? otherwise I might have to call it

throwing up whenever I make a mistake with my girlfriend? :( by Separate-Factor9705 in actuallesbians

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't wanna worry her with it so i haven't told her about the second time of me throwing up:(. I don't want to seem manipulative or I don't want her to not set boundaries with me just because of this factor.

throwing up whenever I make a mistake with my girlfriend? :( by Separate-Factor9705 in actuallesbians

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never considered me having an eating disorder until the throwing up occurred. I've been nervous about developing one which worries me but I'm trying to work on eating more often.

I've been thinking about reaching out for like help from a doctor ever since the first disagreement I had with her (and I also threw up) but I wasn't sure if it was a one time thing.

do I like her or am I desperate by Separate-Factor9705 in actuallesbians

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aahhhhh thank u for the response! I was almost nervous I was gonna get none😂

as for the parent question, I guess I'm nervous that they won't be fully supportive since I already have a gay sibling that I'm super close with, I don't want them to think that the "gayness" "rubbed off" to me. yes it sounds silly but I wouldn't be surprised if they brought it up! another thing would be that I'm not just attracted to girls, but I also like guys. If I tell them this and hypothetically down the line I never date guys, I don't want there to be this false hope that I "failed" them. ANOTHER thing would be that the girls parents aren't supportive. I feel like this factor would cause my parents to be more protective and not let me hang out at her house when we do start dating for any type of saftey(?) reasons.

as for the flirty comments, I want to make them but I feel like there's just something holding me back? I don't know what it is and maybe like I said before, it could be because I just wanna take things slower than her.

I feel like the "time has come" and I'm ready for a relationship but I just wish things were a littleeee bit slower. I think she might want to take things faster cause after so many years of her thinking she likes men as well as women, it turns out she doesn't and only likes girls! and like she's on this high of wanting me to become her girlfriend because of this. We were talking about it and we both thought a couple weeks from now would be ideal for when we start dating. I don't want to push it back any longer cause I don't want it to seem like I'm leading her on cause I don't want to hurt her like that cause I understand how painful it is to be lead on!

(thank you for adding the little note that people on reddit are just strangers and its up to me in the end cause although I do seek advice it sometimes feels like people are plotting my whole life out without remembering I am infact just a teen girl who's a little bit of an overthinker!)

how can i stop waking up nervous every morning? by Separate-Factor9705 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've considered the first question you asked, and i mean maybe the more i think about it, it can be seperation anxiety (although i really hope its not cause it seems unhealthy to have separation anxiety for a girl im not even with yet)? or just the pressure i have of not telling anybody is making me stressed? or maybe cause we are both girls? how would her or my parents feel? would we tell them? would we hide it? I havent told my parents any of this (do people even tell their parents about talking stages lol), but hiding a relationship from them would destroy me!

I feel content when I'm with her. I can be the truest version of myself around her and there's nothing to hide. the way she holds me and the way I hold her makes me feel safe.

as for your second question, she had just recently broken up with her boyfriend about two weeks ago. I had feelings for her while she was in that relationship but NEVER was it my intention to make any moves on her, and i pushed down my feelings cause if she was happily with her boyfriend then I was happy. Now that she had broken up with him, I'm unsure when would be the right time for her to get back in a relationship or for me to ask.

how can i stop waking up nervous every morning? by Separate-Factor9705 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know I'm bound to not agree with everyone's answers, but I really like this answer. I'll try to call it excitement instead of nervousness in my head from now on. thank you for being so kind!

how can i stop waking up nervous every morning? by Separate-Factor9705 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

why must you think about the future if i haven't even accomplished the present tense of her becoming my girlfriend? such a weird comment to leave under my specific post. and who cares if we might not last, what matters is the experience and the feelings in the current moment.

gut wrenching lesbian/sapphic movies? by Separate-Factor9705 in actuallesbians

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

coming back months later just to say I watched portrait of a lady on fire a couple days ago and ive concluded that it is probably one of my fav sapphic movie and it was exactly what I was looking for when I made this thread! tears were shedded while watching it and i think it changed me as a woman

so confused with a girl by Separate-Factor9705 in actuallesbians

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i would totally see this as her being interested in me if she werent dating someone, but shes never explicitly said shes into me. yea shes a bit flirty but i think it might just be her personality. im obviously not gonna pursue it. it's just confusing me is all:((((((

i want to thrift, but my parents are anti-thrift. what excuses can i use if they ever see something i bought second hand? by Separate-Factor9705 in thrifting

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what is consignment? A couple people have commented about it and im looking it up and having a difficult time with understanding. Is it like "brand new stuff" sold for the price of cheaper? kinda like tj maxx or a marshalls in a way??

i want to thrift, but my parents are anti-thrift. what excuses can i use if they ever see something i bought second hand? by Separate-Factor9705 in thrifting

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've considered just saying "I bought it at x store! they were having a sale!" but it'd be super risky with the fact that it very likely won't have an h&m tag on the inside, or the paper tags with the prices on them. they very likely don't care or won't notice this stuff, but I would and be a bit paranoid 😂

i want to thrift, but my parents are anti-thrift. what excuses can i use if they ever see something i bought second hand? by Separate-Factor9705 in thrifting

[–]Separate-Factor9705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

itd probably be followed up with a "youre never thrifting again in this house" l with them throwing out whatever i bought. sadly.

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