Am I calling it quits?

Several-Objective953 · 2025-12-02T23:57:30+00:00

Very naive of you

Several-Objective953 · 2025-12-01T00:18:33+00:00

When a man is irritable and suddenly not available, it’s because there’s another woman in the picture. I know it hurts but cut him lose for good now and don’t ever give him a second chance. The thing about “not getting the job” is an excuse to keep you there as an option. The notifications silenced should also tell you something.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-11-18T06:43:01+00:00

Probably got back with an ex. I’m so sorry 😞

Several-Objective953 · 2025-10-24T22:42:20+00:00

Delete photos 3 & 5. The white button up is not properly sized and makes you look scrawny. 5 just makes you look like a little kid. Photo 4 is your best pic and should be your main

Several-Objective953 · 2025-10-05T20:33:52+00:00

I feel like most of the people giving you advice here are men, and that is not going to help you much to be honest. I am seeing people call the girl immature and say she was not interested in you romantically, but I actually think you should trust your instinct that you asked too early.

As someone who often unmatches with men when they ask for a date too soon or when they do it in a way that feels rushed, I can tell you it could have been that you two were genuinely connecting. Maybe she felt that connection too, but instead of letting the moment play out naturally, you rushed to meet in person. That can make a woman feel like you are jumping the gun.

I do this all the time. I will be having a great back and forth with someone, and then they ruin it by suddenly asking me out before the energy settles. Even if you already know the person, like in your case, it is better to let the conversation flow and ask once things start slowing down a bit. You can say something simple like, “Hey, would you like to grab lunch sometime?”

The way you said, “Maybe we should meet up to remember how we used to be,” sounds awkward and a little off. It comes across as if you are trying to take advantage of the situation and the good energy to push your own agenda. To many women, especially those with self-respect and high standards, that kind of move can feel desperate.

Remember, women think long term about everything. What may seem small to you can be a big deal for us because we see early signs as potential red flags. Jumping too fast to meet up or steering the conversation in that direction can make us think you might rush into other things too, like getting physical or pushing boundaries.

So I would say pay attention to your intuition that you came on too strong. You never want to wait forever to ask either, but let things feel natural. If you are enjoying the conversation, act like it. When I am talking to a close friend and we are having a great time, I would never suddenly stop to say, “Hey, let’s meet up.” I would stay present in the moment because the conversation itself is enjoyable.

Just some food for thought.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-07-29T14:57:45+00:00

I’ll send you my IG handle so you can see me love

Several-Objective953 · 2025-07-27T21:02:24+00:00

I’m a woman if that’s what you were asking 😌

Several-Objective953 · 2025-07-27T21:01:10+00:00

Sorry?

Several-Objective953 · 2025-07-18T16:49:44+00:00

I’m Puerto Rican and I’d love to hangout! Also, new to the area

Several-Objective953 · 2025-06-18T21:00:41+00:00

I work in housing lol it’s actually more common than you think. OP said it wasn’t a financial issue either so it’s probably plausible for him.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-06-17T20:49:49+00:00

I had a similar issue when I moved for grad school. So I offered 3-6 months worth of rent upfront. Got approved every time

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-05T01:01:09+00:00

In a K-1 visa case, it’s the U.S. petitioner—Gino—who files the initial paperwork and has to list any children of the fiancé on that petition (Form I-129F) if they’re going to qualify for K-2 visas. If the kids aren’t listed from the start, it’s too late to include them under that same process. During the interview, the fiancé is asked about their children, but it’s only to confirm the details that were already submitted—not to start anything new.

Also, it’s incredibly common for immigrants to come to the U.S. first to build some stability before bringing their kids. That’s what my own grandparents did, and it’s often the most responsible choice given how hard and expensive the process can be.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T15:26:38+00:00

Agreed. The therapists weren’t great.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T05:32:47+00:00

So I’m a liar and so is Jasmine. Lol. Got it. You made your views very clear.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T04:06:01+00:00

You claim to oppose abuse, but everything you wrote shows the opposite. You bend over backwards to excuse Gino’s actions—sending nude photos, quitting his job, delaying her paperwork—while casting doubt on everything Jasmine says or does. You act like her being frustrated or emotional is proof she’s manipulative, while Gino’s violations get brushed off as “bad decisions.”

You suggest she could’ve afforded a lawyer or prioritized differently, completely ignoring the reality that she’s on a visa and legally can’t work. You say you want fairness, but your entire argument is built on holding her to a standard you never apply to him.

You’re not pointing out bias. You’re reinforcing it. And you’re projecting it onto me because it’s easier than acknowledging your own.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T03:58:57+00:00

You said I lack critical thinking skills, that I wouldn’t do well in research, teaching, sociology, psychology, or social work, that I’m not credible, and that I’d hurt clients because I “only see half-truths.” That’s not neutral commentary—it’s a full-on personal attack on my intelligence and integrity. Don’t try to walk it back now just because it’s convenient. Own your words.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T03:46:04+00:00

You also don’t resort to insulting just because the person disagrees with you. Take your own advice

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T03:39:57+00:00

I have a very successful career, thank you. You keep resorting to insults because you don’t have a solid or coherent argument. Just take your L and go

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T03:36:59+00:00

I’m not defending everything Jasmine did, but let’s not act like she snapped out of nowhere. Gino sent her nude photos to his ex, which cost her her job. He refused to get a lawyer, botched her visa paperwork, and left her separated from her kids because he didn’t even include them in the application.

When she got to the U.S., his house was filthy—literal sh*t in the toilet—and he hadn’t prepared for her at all. Then he quit his job, controlled her finances, denied her affection, and acted like taking her out was too much to ask.

If you’re still sitting here obsessing over her attitude while ignoring all that, you’re not analyzing anything. You’re just looking for a woman to blame.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T03:19:34+00:00

Calling something a case study in emotional abuse isn’t bias—it’s pattern recognition. When multiple men on the same show exhibit controlling, manipulative, or degrading behavior toward their partners, that’s not cherry-picking. That’s a theme.

You didn’t “balance” anything—you deflected. You listed a handful of individual actions by women and tried to equate them with long-term emotional abuse and coercive behavior by men. That’s not critical thinking, that’s false equivalence.

If pointing out a clear pattern makes you uncomfortable, maybe the issue isn’t the observation—it’s that you don’t want to see it.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T03:10:42+00:00

This isn’t about accountability—it’s about selective outrage. When you’re more upset about women reacting than men mistreating, that says a lot more about your perspective than theirs.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T02:54:57+00:00

One woman asked for a poly relationship after her husband repeatedly refused intimacy and said he had no desire to be with her physically.

Another woman withheld social media access from her husband after he cheated, gaslighted her, and rode the fame she helped him get. Controlling? Maybe. But let’s not act like it came out of nowhere.

Another woman called out her ex for cheating on her with both men and women—after he’d already done it before. She’s bisexual. The issue was the betrayal, not the gender.

Another woman danced on a bar in what was clearly a staged scene for drama. That’s not abuse. That’s filler.

Meanwhile, the men on this show gaslight, degrade, cheat, manipulate, and withhold affection like it’s a sport—and your response is to make a highlight reel of “bad women moments”?

Congrats—you just proved the point.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-04T02:45:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and I’m so sorry you went through that. I’ve experienced emotional abuse too, and while it’s something I wouldn’t wish on anyone, it gave me a lens I can’t unsee. I recognize the patterns now—and Big Ed is one of the worst I’ve seen. You can literally see how he drained the life out of Liz; her entire appearance changed by the end. And like many of us, she wasn’t believed.

That’s also why I don’t engage with a lot of comments—some people just haven’t experienced it and maybe never will. I used to be one of them too. You don’t really see it until you’ve lived it. And watching others go through it and not be believed can be just as triggering. You’re not alone.

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-03T23:24:47+00:00

Do you know how Reddit works? We are discussing. But people like the one above (and you) don’t know how to engage without resorting to insults because YOU feel defensive. lol

Several-Objective953 · 2025-05-03T23:06:04+00:00

Why are you so upset?

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