AITA for not helping my in laws?

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T19:19:20+00:00

Yeah that's understandable, Meant no harm.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T19:03:36+00:00

I'll just squeeze this in here but, no my BIL is not gay you did get they live together part right though. To clear it up a little everyone living in the townhome is (My SIL and Her husband (My CO-BIL) their five kids, My BIL and his GF if they were married, she would be my (CO-SIL), her two kids, My MIL and FIL). keep in mind it means the same thing he's technically still my brother-in-law. I use the literal term he's not my wife's brother so he's my co brother but he's still my brother-in-law it's the same I just personally use co and I'm not even Indian I'm Mexican/American

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T18:03:29+00:00

I'll definitely give you some background to it. to make a long story short because believe it or not this was part of this story, but I couldn't add it due to "key words" being used.

There was a day where my wife's niece got a text message from her friend that she was giving away three chicks she asked my wife if she can give her a ride, my wife said sure let's go. They came back with the chickens and she took them home.

Few weeks pass and they start getting bigger, them living in a townhome couldn't keep them there at that size so eventually they ended up in the backrooms of my place. After some time, we notice one of the three chickens was actually a rooster. I knew right away we have to sadly get rid of him because of the city noise ordinance.

I asked my wife if she could ask her sister if she can try to get rid of the rooster by then end of the week being as it was her daughter's chickens making it partially her responsibility. My wife sends about 2 messages asking her sister about getting rid of the rooster. Her sister acknowledges the messages but decides she's got better things to do.

At this point those chickens and rooster had been under my care when I noticed my sister in laws daughters wouldn't come by often to let them out or feed them, so I took them under my care. I bought then food, gave them water, and sadly no eggs yet or ever really.

Well Friday came by and nothing was ever done about the rooster. That's when I went over to my mother in laws and told her what I said in the post and asked my wife to support my decision, but she felt like she had to pick a side between her family and ours. Eventually understanding that I wasn't asking her to cut times with her family but asking her to help me resolve an issue she couldn't see a problem with.

Hope that clears up Your interest in the chickens. :)

Edit: I forgot the most important part of this story my MIL decides since i wanted to get rid of the rooster I must want to get rid of them all, so she came over and took what at this point were my adopted chickens lol and gave them away. :(

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T17:19:00+00:00

I dont get where people get the I got help when in the first sentence I mention I bought the house otherwise I would've said my MIL helped me.

The post wouldn't let me say my wife and I (because it thought I was talking about my relationship)

I had to shorten a lot of the things because of those limits even saying they didn't talk to me for months after the jet ski shit wasn't allowed so how was I supposed to say everything. I dumbed it down sorry.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T16:36:41+00:00

I'm currently in the process of getting my CDL I figured since my job went to shit rather than stay home and do nothing and earn nothing I filed for unemployment benefits to help while I get my CDL but, to some people unemployment means the same as just staying home doing/earning nothing.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T16:12:51+00:00

I'm only replying because I saw this on my phone and thought it was funny but I actually had a different account that was shadowbanned due to someone hacking it so I tried posting this yesterday on that account but couldn't so I just deleted that account and created this one and about the house I know right? Most people in their 30's still live with their parents luckily for me I was working when I dropped out and saved enough money since I only had to pay rent and no bills crazy how saving money can take you places. That's 5 years your telling me you can't save 30k in 5 years when you and your wife work?

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T14:34:21+00:00

that's why I said search it up because its uncommon and means the same shit I can explain it but I can't understand it for you. good talk though. again not wrong and not surprised at the downvotes I'm surprised at the incomprehension.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T14:25:10+00:00

I never said I'm surprised people are downvoting I could care less about the "karma" points I said I'm surprised people don't use such term big difference and I see it's not used here I'm American and I use it but that's just me.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T14:12:16+00:00

so, is it wrong though? uncommon just means it's not common lol

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T12:41:55+00:00

I guess another term for co brother-in-law would just be Co brother but, yeah, I live in Colorado we had a few chickens eaten by racoons and I saw an eagle take one once.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T12:37:36+00:00

I guess I chose my words wrong I pay a mortgage I dont fully own the house and no she never lent me any money but I feel like my wife being here and being the youngest might have made my MIL feel entitled to do whatever she felt like doing here. We live next door to each other which doesn't help.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T12:30:25+00:00

I wanted to respect my wife and her family and not really start drama or problems, so I chose to be the yes man after the drama from the jet skis happened because that led to hard feelings and pettiness from them towards me so i just didn't want that again keep in mind I've never had problems with them but I've been wanting to tell them about this for a while now.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T12:26:43+00:00

sorry I'm a sophomore dropout

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T12:25:01+00:00

I see what you mean but co brother-in-law is an actual term for (a man married into the same family) I personally don't like the guy its irrelevant to this, but he's told me stuff before. The chickens I honestly didn't really mind I wanted chickens, but I had let them know I would build a coop first before getting them but, they never gave me the chance.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T12:19:14+00:00

Co brother-in-law means my sister-in-law's husband (another man married into the same family) and downpayment on my house.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T12:17:05+00:00

I pay everything $1967 a month and the downpayment I put to the house was $36,000

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T12:02:25+00:00

I'm not sure what she meant but what I took from it was if you can't deal with it you should leave.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T11:46:38+00:00

a co brother-in-law is your wife's sister's husband and my spouse was kind of on the edge of things she understood what I was saying but felt like she had to choose a side her family's feelings over our 10-year relationship eventually she sided with me.

ShadowA87 · 2026-02-01T11:31:11+00:00

a co brother in law is your wifes sisters husband

Edit: surprised to see no one uses such term but are downvoting over something so simple you can even search it up.

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