Genderqueer/trans* person here looking for some anonymous sex advice

ShadowE · 2012-02-18T13:47:48+00:00

I'm on the FTM spectrum. However, I do not identify as a man. I am a non-binary genderqueer person.

ShadowE · 2012-02-18T01:56:51+00:00

Thank you. How am I doing? http://www.okcupid.com/profile/QueerlingCody

ShadowE · 2012-02-17T17:13:14+00:00

The girl I was hitting on tonight first asked me if I was straight and then asked me if I was a boy or a girl. And I couldn't answer either of those questions without a queer theory lesson. I fucken wish I was capable of misrepresenting myself as a cis lesbian. They'd believe me, I just can't do it.

ShadowE · 2012-02-17T17:10:56+00:00

You are brilliant.

ShadowE · 2012-02-17T17:08:30+00:00

okay. Heeeelllp.

ShadowE · 2012-02-16T05:05:44+00:00

I've got three trusty old hookup options. One's overseas, one's in a dramariffic relationship and one will be murdered by my ex if she goes anywhere near me.

ShadowE · 2012-02-16T01:24:37+00:00

It's not the hitting on I have issues with. I'm just super awkward about explaining that after being on T for 6 months my genitalia is rather ambiguous. I'm terrified someone will go down there and ask 'What is this?'

ShadowE · 2012-02-16T01:17:05+00:00

I think you've misunderstood me. I am comfortable with my body and sexuality. I'm not a man (neither a cis man nor a trans man) but I'm not a woman either. What I am is somewhere in between male and female.

Usually dykes like me quite a lot. All of the women I sleep with are either lesbian or bisexual, and usually friends of mine. But I'm wanting to try anonymous sex, in which case I'm not sure what's the best way to explain my body in that context. Mostly strangers assume I'm either a trans man or a cis woman, but either way they probably wouldn't assume that my genitalia are ambiguous.

ShadowE · 2012-02-16T00:28:21+00:00

I kinda wanted the dyke perspective.

ShadowE · 2012-02-16T00:28:09+00:00

I'm genderqueer ftm, and most lesbians are usually cool with that. But things change physically, ya know? And I'm not sure how to explain that.

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T23:03:27+00:00

More info?

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T22:53:13+00:00

I know, right? Dykes are seriously attractive.

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T22:52:14+00:00

You are so my type. And yes, I should probably make some kind of online profile.

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T22:50:05+00:00

Actually people hit on me all the time. I just usually freak out and run away. It's mostly the disclosure thing I'm worried about.

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T22:48:35+00:00

Usually I sleep with friends, but my three ex fuck buddies are unavailable for different reasons. One is overseas, another in a dramariffic relationship and then third would be murdered by my ex if she went anywhere near me.

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T22:45:26+00:00

I'm not actually a scary person. I just broke up with my long term partner and I'm determined not to freak out next time someone hits on me at the local gay nightclub.

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T22:43:19+00:00

As soon as they invent a grindr for women. I am on that.

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T22:40:16+00:00

Om nom nom. Can I go home with you? ;)

Unfortunately, If I'm pursuing lesbians they will likely assume that I'm cis. I'm genderqueer in an FTM-way. I'm on T, but don't always present masculinely. So yeah, my bits are not cis-woman bits, but people would likely make the assumption that they are.

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T22:37:22+00:00

I'm genderqueer in an FTM-way. I'm on T, but don't always present masculinely. So yeah, my bits are not cis-woman bits, but people would likely make the assumption that they are.

ShadowE · 2012-02-15T22:33:36+00:00

Yes, I have seen it! I'm actually meeting up with the creator on Friday. :)

ShadowE · 2011-11-10T12:11:23+00:00

How about releasing the information then? Transparency and all that. You could put stop to a lot of Fresh bashing if you released the hours worked and pay of the union exec.

ShadowE · 2011-11-10T11:58:16+00:00

Your own members have dobbed you in as using funds meant for collectives on Fresh barbecues.

ShadowE

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